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Would you date someone without a job?
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Burning_Inside
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why. don't like having to pay your own way or jealous of their free time?
Then again if you're older and looking for someone to settle down with that's another story.
However if I met the woman of my dreams I wouldn't give a shit. If I loved her that much and I knew she felt the same I would feel compelled to support her.
I doub't any woman would say the same thing even tho' they are known to be the more "compassionate" of the sexes.
Then again if you're older and looking for someone to settle down with that's another story.
However if I met the woman of my dreams I wouldn't give a shit. If I loved her that much and I knew she felt the same I would feel compelled to support her.
I doub't any woman would say the same thing even tho' they are known to be the more "compassionate" of the sexes.
Robert Jan
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Sure. they have more time!
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Ulcasterdropout
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edit, totally missed the question...
the answer is still yes.....
I'd support a women, but she better cook better then me LOL
the answer is still yes.....
I'd support a women, but she better cook better then me LOL
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Burning_Inside
Elite Mentor
Pamela said:
so if you met the man of your dreams, but he didn't have a job, would you decide to wake up from you dream or look past the money issue? Or then again, will your dream man not ever be unemployed in the first place?
The way i see it, "dream women/men" only come along once in a great while. If one were to pass them up because of a money issue, that's insane. That is of course unless like I said, you materialistically factor in the size of someone's bank account into your decision as to if this person is your perfect match.
But just keep in mind.....
No amount of money in today's world can turn a person into your perfect spiritual, physical,and intellectual match. I think only a fool would turn away their perfect match because they were broke when you look at it like that, which in my opinion is a very wise way to look at it.
mountain muscle
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I would have no problem with that. Been there before. I would prefer if she was in school and working towards a degree. But, it all depends on the type of girl for me. If we make each other happy who gives a shit?
Fragadelic
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Pamela said:I've done it, but never again.
Awwwww c'mon, Pamela! I said I was looking!
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The Shadow
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..totally dependent on the person
Robert Jan
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Smurfy said:
for 10 years.
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Code
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Better not let the millions of single parents in on this secret.
Pamela said:
nvrbuffenuff_girl
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It depends on many things.
My boyfriend has a friend who never had a job when he was married. His wife divorced him more than 8 years ago because as she said, "Chris would never amount to anything in life." Now, Chris is a millionaire. He owns several businesses, apple orchards, comercial real estate properties, and is building a mall strip which will be finished this year Almost all the stores are leased out already. I bet his ex wife is kicking herself in the ass these days. She lives in a tiny 2 bedroom house with three children and her new husband. Lives paycheck to paycheck. No one believed Chris would amount to anything. Not even his own family. No one would loan him money when he wanted to start a business. Not even his family. He was smart enough to make a business plan and get investors involved. Nicest guy I know and you wouldn't even know he's a millionaire if you met him in the streets. How many would of dated him when he didn't have a not even a penny? Now women flock to him when they know he is made of money.
My boyfriend has a friend who never had a job when he was married. His wife divorced him more than 8 years ago because as she said, "Chris would never amount to anything in life." Now, Chris is a millionaire. He owns several businesses, apple orchards, comercial real estate properties, and is building a mall strip which will be finished this year Almost all the stores are leased out already. I bet his ex wife is kicking herself in the ass these days. She lives in a tiny 2 bedroom house with three children and her new husband. Lives paycheck to paycheck. No one believed Chris would amount to anything. Not even his own family. No one would loan him money when he wanted to start a business. Not even his family. He was smart enough to make a business plan and get investors involved. Nicest guy I know and you wouldn't even know he's a millionaire if you met him in the streets. How many would of dated him when he didn't have a not even a penny? Now women flock to him when they know he is made of money.
yeah, wouldn;t give a shit if she worked or not.
would like to see brainpower used for some worthwhile endeavor but a woman's career or success in business or another profession is irrelevant to me.
would like to see brainpower used for some worthwhile endeavor but a woman's career or success in business or another profession is irrelevant to me.
havoc
Shaolin Ninja
Did not read too many replies, if the following has been said then .......
I would date someone without a job, I would use her primarily for sex, maybe taking her out every now and again, enough to justify the sex, but if I did not have to take her out that would be much better, if she begins to have issues with our courtship she can take her jobless ass somewhere else, fair enough?
I would date someone without a job, I would use her primarily for sex, maybe taking her out every now and again, enough to justify the sex, but if I did not have to take her out that would be much better, if she begins to have issues with our courtship she can take her jobless ass somewhere else, fair enough?
Personally I have never really dated a "career" woman. I've gone out on dates with them, but never anything long term. So either the women I have been in relationships haven't worked, or only worked inconsistently.
With that said I have no problem dating a woman that doesn't work. I don't think most guys look at the person they are with as a second income, unless it is a financial necessity. Plus lazy chicks are more fun to party with than working girls
But in all seriousness it is a problem if she has nothing to do with her time. In that scenario they tend to see the guy as the source of all amusement, and frankly there is no way anyone who works full time can keep up and fulfill both roles.
But if I were a girl I wouldn't even consider a guy who wasn't working, at least if it was a pattern thing, and not just a temporary situation. He should have a demonstrable history of being able to hold down a job.
With that said I have no problem dating a woman that doesn't work. I don't think most guys look at the person they are with as a second income, unless it is a financial necessity. Plus lazy chicks are more fun to party with than working girls
But in all seriousness it is a problem if she has nothing to do with her time. In that scenario they tend to see the guy as the source of all amusement, and frankly there is no way anyone who works full time can keep up and fulfill both roles.
But if I were a girl I wouldn't even consider a guy who wasn't working, at least if it was a pattern thing, and not just a temporary situation. He should have a demonstrable history of being able to hold down a job.
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Hmmm... it also depends on the circumstances. Personally I'm betwen jobs, but may have a new one in a few days... but I am a full-time student, with two majors and an honor student... who gets alot of grants and scholorships, and will eventually have a lucrative career. Would that exclude me if we were to meet and I was everything else you looked for in a man? Just curious.
nvrbuffenuff_girl
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velvett said:
Well, when I said he never had a job I didn't actually mean to was a complete lazy bum who mooched off his wife. He did work but he didn't do anything that made good money. Although I am uncertain as to what he did back then. I took it as if he didn't make enough money to support his family at the time. But he is far from lazy. He's always on the go doing something for one of his businesses. His typical day starts at 5 am and ends past midnight.
I also believe he tried to get a business started while he was married but his wife always complained that he wasn't home to spend time with his family so he put his dreams aside for some years to do the family thing. So she got what she wanted and still wasn't happy.
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Out of the last 5 girls I've dated 3 had no job, one was a cashier one was a waitress. Yeah, welcome to College Station... where half the cashiers are working on a genetics or a biomedical sciene degree.
Probably not.
In my early 20's yeah, I would have considered it (even though I never did) - you have no idea what you want, you're in and out of school, in and out of jobs - different time, different expectations.
I work a lot, in the office, at home, I have bad days, great days and when I come home I want to share my day with someone else that works as well. I want to hear about their day, their drama and their plans to make things better for themselves - I don't want to hear about how none of their friends were free to hang out with them and how they have no clean underwear/clothes to wear.
Does that make me judgmental, yes, but I'm honest with how I feel. My girlfriends that don't havew a real job irritate me at times because somehow over time they started to live in a different reality than I do. I can't imagine being involved with a man that slept till noon, hung out playing playstation all day and expected me to cook his lazy, stinking ass dinner too because somehow in 9 hours he could find the time to shower, eat and wash his clothes.
When you are not working your reality changes, different things bother you, your outlook on your life and the lives of others change. I find that people that don't work and haven't any sort of interests or hobbies that keep them productive start to focus on the stupid little details of living that you would just let roll off your back if your day were to be filled with activity.
That said there is a difference between not having a job for more than 6 months (fired, laid off, whatever got you there) and deciding to go back to school or just getting fired or laid off.
In my early 20's yeah, I would have considered it (even though I never did) - you have no idea what you want, you're in and out of school, in and out of jobs - different time, different expectations.
I work a lot, in the office, at home, I have bad days, great days and when I come home I want to share my day with someone else that works as well. I want to hear about their day, their drama and their plans to make things better for themselves - I don't want to hear about how none of their friends were free to hang out with them and how they have no clean underwear/clothes to wear.
Does that make me judgmental, yes, but I'm honest with how I feel. My girlfriends that don't havew a real job irritate me at times because somehow over time they started to live in a different reality than I do. I can't imagine being involved with a man that slept till noon, hung out playing playstation all day and expected me to cook his lazy, stinking ass dinner too because somehow in 9 hours he could find the time to shower, eat and wash his clothes.
When you are not working your reality changes, different things bother you, your outlook on your life and the lives of others change. I find that people that don't work and haven't any sort of interests or hobbies that keep them productive start to focus on the stupid little details of living that you would just let roll off your back if your day were to be filled with activity.
That said there is a difference between not having a job for more than 6 months (fired, laid off, whatever got you there) and deciding to go back to school or just getting fired or laid off.
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Code
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I'm glad you said it, I was going to be less diplomatic about it.
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strongsmartsexy
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I was thinking the same thing.ChefWide said:
It would be cool to date a chick with a lot of money. That way I could focus on my long term plans to make a lot of money doing something I will like.
bulldog3434
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yes i would. i don't think whether a girl has a job should be a determining factor in whether or not i would date her
vinylgroover
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No, unless they just happened to be between jobs or had some temporary medical reason or if they already are wealthy and have no need to work.
