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I know there is going to be lots of controversy on this thread because sex is something so important to us. But lets look at it logically shall we? First I want to admit I was not a virgin when I got married and neither was my wife. She would have liked to remained a virgin and looking back I would have to although I didn't feel like that back then. (hind sight is always 20/20) Let's look at like Bejamin Franklin would have. This is a test he used to make important decisions. How it works is you list the pros and the cons of both positions and which ever list has the most you pick it.
Well here we go
Remaining a Virgin until marriage:
- you have absolutely no chance of getting a std which would prevent you and your future spouse from sickness or worse yet deat(remember both are virgins)
- you have less chances of a unwanted pregnacy.
- you have no baggage coming into the marriage ie jealously about past affairs (ie you see the person you know that had sex with your spouse in public or you bring up things about other sexual partners
- you won't get emotionally scared by somebody that plays you just for sex(this mainly applies to women)
- you will not judge your spouses performance as either good or bad because you don't know if someone else does that better.
- you will have a HECK of a GOOD time on your wedding night
- it will feel good knowing you saved your virginity to someone that wants to spend their whole life with you even when you are old and grey compared to someone who got you drunk on a 6 pack and then never called again.
- you don't have to worry about have your feeling hurt or hurting someones feelings when you have sex with them but don't want to have a relationship.
Not remaining a virgin:
- you get to have sex with whoever you want but you take the chance of getting a std
- you think you might learn good sexual techniques but in fact you might look negatively on your spouse because they don't measure up which could lead to cheating
Now I did leave out the most important due to some people not believing in God but it also pleases him very much when you wait.
After looking at this list it sure does look like God had our best interest at heart when he said to remain virgins until your married. Just like your parents have your best interest at heart when they tell you not to play on the freeway.
Like I said I am not being judgmental here I wasn't a virgin either. But with the hind sight and some of the trouble I have had with my spouse and some of the girls hearts I messed with and the girls that messed with my heart ink I wish would have.
Well here we go
Remaining a Virgin until marriage:
- you have absolutely no chance of getting a std which would prevent you and your future spouse from sickness or worse yet deat(remember both are virgins)
- you have less chances of a unwanted pregnacy.
- you have no baggage coming into the marriage ie jealously about past affairs (ie you see the person you know that had sex with your spouse in public or you bring up things about other sexual partners
- you won't get emotionally scared by somebody that plays you just for sex(this mainly applies to women)
- you will not judge your spouses performance as either good or bad because you don't know if someone else does that better.
- you will have a HECK of a GOOD time on your wedding night
- it will feel good knowing you saved your virginity to someone that wants to spend their whole life with you even when you are old and grey compared to someone who got you drunk on a 6 pack and then never called again.
- you don't have to worry about have your feeling hurt or hurting someones feelings when you have sex with them but don't want to have a relationship.
Not remaining a virgin:
- you get to have sex with whoever you want but you take the chance of getting a std
- you think you might learn good sexual techniques but in fact you might look negatively on your spouse because they don't measure up which could lead to cheating
Now I did leave out the most important due to some people not believing in God but it also pleases him very much when you wait.
After looking at this list it sure does look like God had our best interest at heart when he said to remain virgins until your married. Just like your parents have your best interest at heart when they tell you not to play on the freeway.
Like I said I am not being judgmental here I wasn't a virgin either. But with the hind sight and some of the trouble I have had with my spouse and some of the girls hearts I messed with and the girls that messed with my heart ink I wish would have.
