WOMEN: Relationship Question

[slick635235]

what characteristic is most important to you when you are looking for a relationship with a man and why? and please be honest.........(for example, if you are really out for money, please be honest and say so and describe why?)

 

[Bikini Mod]

what characteristic is most important to you when you are looking for a relationship with a man and why? and please be honest.........(for example, if you are really out for money, please be honest and say so and describe why?)

For me it simple - Is he SMART.

Then from their other qualities come into play.

I need a man who will stimulate my mind (otherwise he will not be able to capture my attention/I will lose interest quickly) and be smart enough to make his way in the world regardless of what life hands him.

 

[Ilk]

what characteristic is most important to you when you are looking for a relationship with a man and why? and please be honest.........(for example, if you are really out for money, please be honest and say so and describe why?)

Intelligence... Is top of my list..

I like a smart guy with a great personality....

Money has no importance to me...

 

[Bikini Mod]

I didnt say that money isnt important to me. LOL

I am pushing 40. I only date men that are older than I. If a man hasn't achieved a modicum of success by the time he is in his mid forties, what THE HELL has he been doing with his time? Either not too smart or just not for me. (No, Tibetan monks dont "do it" for me).

But SMART comes first. If it is daddy's money, watch how quickly it disappears. Then what? Life has a way of handing out the most unexpected challenges at the least convenient time. A SMART man will be able to survive, regroup and get back on top regardless of what life throws at him. <--- tenacity, strength, perserverence: all VERY sexy characteristics IMHO.

Many card carrying members of MENSA have menial jobs and can barely scrape by as they have "book smarts" but lack emotional intelligence and have no way of getting along in the world. Also, not for me. I want a partner, not a man who I can be "mommy to". LOL

I also require the man have an edge, be witty and a wonderful conversationalist. I am certain that there are many brilliant rocket scientists out there but if he cant keep me engaged with humor and great conversation I wander off mentally.

 

[KillahBee]

lol at thinking what women "say" is the true motivators.

c'mon man.

 

[mrplunkey]

Intelligence... Is top of my list..

I like a smart guy with a great personality....

Money has no importance to me...

So you are referring to emotional intelligence, not raw intellect then -- correct?

 

[Smurfy]

Well, I'll simply tell you what about my husband sealed the deal for me. He's very different than others i had been in relationships with.
Highly intelligent
Very thoughtful
Respectful
Self-sufficient
Ambitious
Funny
Kind
there are so many others of course.
I'll add
Honest
Open-minded
Loyal
Logical

 

[~peaches~]

Honesty

Sociable

Intelligent

Sense of humor

I could go on and on, but these are the main qualities I look for.

 

[Gymgurl]

Has to make me laugh...has to be smart....honest and open

 

[stilleto]

as others have said,

smartness (at least as smart as me)
good sense of humor (and has to agree that I am funny)
must be respectful, kind, honest
accepting of me and my faults (not that i have any...)
hard working
good amount of common sense

 

[rocky_road]

It's important to me that when I'm with him, nothing else matters.

I base the strength of my relationships on the degree to which I feel this (usually very low because i'm highly independent)

Ideal relationships are all about chemistry. In theory, I'm looking for the soul mate type. I have no idea why i'm wasting my time hanging out/"talking" with this guy I don't feel much of a connection with. Oh yeah! I am trying to actually give real relationships a shot for a change! And, he's really convenient.

Other than that he should be a good person, talker & lover

 

[toga22]

Open Minded, with a sense of adventure...

A risk taker;

Confidence

Outgoing, with a great sense of humor

 

[heatherrae]

kindness

Without kindness, no other qualities will matter.

 

[rocky_road]

kindness

Without kindness, no other qualities will matter.

For sure.
An asshole with a high IQ will do nothing with his brains but mock people.
An asshole with a lot of money will not help the common good.
An asshole with a big dick is still just a big dick.
Yup. I feel you girl.

 

[youngguns]

Honesty

Sociable

Intelligent

Sense of humor

I could go on and on, but these are the main qualities I look for.

sociable?uhhh

 

[Sub-Zero]

It's important to me that when I'm with him, nothing else matters.

I base the strength of my relationships on the degree to which I feel this (usually very low because i'm highly independent)

Ideal relationships are all about chemistry. In theory, I'm looking for the soul mate type. I have no idea why i'm wasting my time hanging out/"talking" with this guy I don't feel much of a connection with. Oh yeah! I am trying to actually give real relationships a shot for a change! And, he's really convenient.

Other than that he should be a good person, talker & lover

u became a hooker in ur absence?

 

[Sub-Zero]

For sure.
An asshole with a high IQ will do nothing with his brains but mock people.
An asshole with a lot of money will not help the common good.
An asshole with a big dick is still just a big dick.
Yup. I feel you girl.

lol at you trying to be funny/clever.