When did your life start to have meaning?

[Bobber]

I am 22 and have never had more doubts about what is going to happen to me or if I will ever actually leave my mark on this world than right now. Even when i was younger i had some kind of idea as to what route my life would take me down but it seems as I get older the outcome becomes more and more vague. To all you old people, when did everything come together for you. How did you end up where you are at now and above all are you happy?

 

[Freak Show]

I'll chime in on this one even though i'm not much older than you (26), nor am i completely "content". however, i am in a much better place than i was. What caused the change? what brought more happiness in my life? I finally decided that it was time to look out for me and do something that would make me happy instead of worrying about what others wanted me to do or felt i should. here's a brief synopsis:
i graduated from college with honors. moved to a city to be with my then gf and to start a career. well, i hated the city, hated the job, and eventually didn't want to be with my girl. i was miserable in all aspects. i felt like a failure. felt like my life was going nowhere. i didn't feel i had much to look back on and be happy about. so i finally had had enough. i started looking for jobs in other states and broke it off with the girl. once i was given the opportunity for a new life in a new city, i took it. was it the best opportunity? no. but it got me to the place where i knew i would be happier and have a chance at finding a true career. at times things have been rough and as you read in my other post tonight, i still am dealing with things, but i have never been happier with myself. i have done the things most of my friends and family admitted they could never do. its empowering knowing that it was because of me and me alone that my life has improved.
you need to find what would make you truly happy and go out and do it, cuz it ain't gonna be handed to you.

 

[Bobber]

Freak - I guess that is where I am going wrong because I am expecting for someone else to come along and "fix" everything and show/tell me what to do. I will most deffinetly keep your advice in mind.

 

[dboxer911]

im trying to gain happiness as we speak..i wish i had the answer for u..as for me im just trying to piece together the puzzle day by day..i am much happier now than 5 years ago(im 25)..but im still am not totally satisfied with my life..i look towards the future and I hopefully will have a wonderful family of my own, a job I love and a better relationship with my family..

 

[Big Mac Attack]

It all came together for me at around 30. I'm 35 now look good, have lots of $$$ and do what I like. The only thing missing is my dad but he did live long enough to see the first lamborghini and move into a house I bought for him and mom.

 

[Big Mac Attack]

It all came together for me at around 30. I'm 35 now look good, have lots of $$$ and do what I like. The only thing missing is my dad but he did live long enough to see the first lamborghini and move into a house I bought for him and mom.

 

[Bigsatan13]

I am 22 and have never had more doubts about what is going to happen to me or if I will ever actually leave my mark on this world than right now. Even when i was younger i had some kind of idea as to what route my life would take me down but it seems as I get older the outcome becomes more and more vague. To all you old people, when did everything come together for you. How did you end up where you are at now and above all are you happy?

So you didn't get the manager position at Burger King? Your job as the fry cook is just as meaningful. Hang in there, by 23 you'll be a shoe-in.

 

[68GT350]

good ol' Bigsatan with the posotive reinforcement. You know, you should volunteer to work at a suicide prevention hotline.

 

[Freak Show]

its amazing how a worthwhile post like this will drop to the bottom.

BURP

 

[Lumberg]

Freak - I guess that is where I am going wrong because I am expecting for someone else to come along and "fix" everything and show/tell me what to do. I will most deffinetly keep your advice in mind.

I used to feel the EXACT SAME WAY. I am realizing more and more that I and only I control my own happiness. It is impossible for others to piss you off. You participate in the feeling by letting it get to you.

Every now and then I will find myself back in that train of thought of waiting for someone to swoop down and make it all better. I just remind myself that I need to watch out for #1 even it it means being selfish some (or even a lot) of the time because no one else is out there looking out for me in the way that I need to be looked out for.

JC