What's wrong with me?

[Shrebly]

I am really at the end of my rope and I am hoping that someone might have some sort of guidance on this subject.

I am a female, almost six foot tall, 214#, 14 % bf and as you can gather - pretty big all over.

For the past few months I've been training at two different gym's and at both places I am getting the usual stares and comments when I lift but recently things have gotten worse - comments about steroid use, how much test I use, if my clit is bigger... and a slew of other comments.

I am natural, I rarely even use any type of protein supplement or protein bars - I have halfway decent genetics and have spent a good majority of my adult life lifting weights, working out and training.

I am usually a strong person but "their" comments are starting to effect me - in the gym and outside the gym. I am starting to doubt everything I've worked hard for.

Has this type of emotional factor ever gotten in your way? Any suggestion as to how to handle this - I've already blasted one guy for harassing me when the manager wouldn't do anyhting about it "You are a big girl, fight your own battles" - so when I did beat the shit out of him - I got thrown out for two weeks. Go figure.

Anyway, sorry if this is in the wrong spot or board - but if I posted this in the chat area the little kids would jump all over it like a .39 cent cheeseburger.

Thanks, Shelby

 

[Mr.X]

Dear Shrebly,

I was going to make this really long, but I figured it wouldn't help to prolong the point I'm getting at:

All you can do is live with the problem, for people are going to be immature and childish about their comments. Look at it this way, they are jealous because you are better looking then they are, and their manhood is getting lower if they don't put you down. They get off by making you feel miserable, so I'd suggest you ignore them to the extent where you don't see them as living beings.

“When you see a worthy person, endeavor to emulate him. When you see an unworthy person then examine your inner self.” -CONFUCIOUS

Forget the fact they are people, in turn, you will not have to examine your own doubts. Look beyond the words and see the truth of their own misery and low-self esteem.

Mr.X

 

[HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex]

I'm in agreement with Mr.X...If it's coming from men,they are insecure in their manhood and intimidated,if it's coming from women,they are most likely jealous of lacking the genetic ability to duplicate what you've accomplished...The best thing to do is make friends with other bodybuilders(hard-core)both male and female,and you'll realize how much your efforts are respected and admired.Keep up the hard work,and let no one stand in your way of your goals...

 

[win4life]

My wife always says, "It's not the problem that is the problem but the way we handle problems that become a problem."

We can't change the hearts of people, but we can choose how we are going to respond. You must decide what room you are going to give others in your life.

Another persons words only have what power we allow them. Knowing that they are blind fools will make tolerating their foolishness easier.

I am sure the guy that you pounded will think twice about talking smack. I think it is wise to draw lines with others and let them know that you will not tolerate certain things.

I hope that you will not have to make many more examples out of fools.

It is always troubling when I allow certain things to bother me and react in a manner that costs me more than the intitial offence.

I hope things work out for you.

 

[Badkins21]

Hey you, long time no talk!!

You never did e-mail me that debate page you spoke of before...

What have you been up to lately? Write any new articles?

OK...to the situation at hand--FUCK THAT...I SAY FUCK THAT. I like that quote from Confucius, and how it was mentioned to envision them not as human beings, but as sad, pathetic little entities, each of which must attempt to bring others down to "their" level.

I've seen pictures, and you're not fat! Yes, you're "big," and that's friggin' cool. I'm so tired of these rail-thin models (although I do find them attractive, in a sense) who have absolutely no MUSCLE! Now, I'm not going to lie and say that I want a girl that looks like Ronnie Coleman, but come on...I don't want to feel like I'm going to break you if things get rough, hehe.

Anyway, this was definitely the right place to post this. You're not going to get any little immature morons on here, 'cause you've gots to pay $$, haha...

Talk to you soon, gig 'em, Blair $$

 

[mitch1301]

NOTHING is wrong with you.

Dont ever let other people get to you like this. It doesnt matter what they think of you if you are happy with your self. I have adopted this very saying for myself. I dont care what people think of me. There are always going to be people that like you and others that dont, so just ignore the ones that dont like you, who needs um, you dont. I personaly could give a rats ass what others think of me. You should never change anything about yourself just because someone says to. All i am trying to say is screw all those idiots at your gym, remember you are there to workout not put on a fashion show and talk to friends for an hour and then go home after you acomplished nothing.


HEY SMILE, YOU ARE BETTER THAN THOSE SHIT HEADS.

mitch

 

[DOGGY]

Shrebly,
Any women who can deadlift 410# and squat over 200# and still look as good as you, should be nothing but "PROUD"... you look great and you train hard.

Keep at it girl..
Doggy

 

[Bikini Mod]

Hey Shreb -

Believe it or not a leetle shit like me gets the same stares and comments. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! Are you walking around with major attitude trying to make others feel badly about themselves? Ummmmmmm, I don't think so. THEY ARE THE ONES WITH THE FUCKING PROBLEM.

Unfortunately, their problem becomes yours to a certain degree when they insist on staring and making degrading comments.

My ex even went so far as to say that I was starting to look like a man (we met in the FUCKING GYM for God's sake) when I got to the point where FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE I was becoming content and proud of who and what I had transformed myself into IN SPITE of all the nay-sayers and societal "rules". I wish you could have been in court to hear all of the fucking bullshit he tried to spew in a FEEBLE and MISERABLY FAILED attempt to get custody of our girls......WHATEVER.

I know it hurts sometimes to get bombarded with shit like this from JEALOUS ASSHOLES - male or female, it still hurts when you overhear stinging comments.

You know what my girls do? They REGULARLY VOLUNTEER TO ANYONE WHO WILL STAND THERE LONG ENOUGH TO LISTEN...."My mom's a bodybuilder!"

All the smack-talking motherFUCKERS in the world could NEVER negate A SINGLE UNSOLICITED COMMENT LIKE THAT FROM ANY ONE OF MY CHILDREN! THEY RESPECT AND LOOK UP TO ME - That is all I ever wanted and that is all that I will EVER NEED.

Somehow, Shreb - I have a sneaking suspicion that your son KNOWS you are THE SHIT and doesn't hesitate for a moment to let EVERYBODY KNOW!!!

 

[Shrebly]

Update

Thanks for all the great words folks - it really means a lot.

The gym situation has calmed down a little but I was banned from one 24 Hour Fitness for "deadlifting too loud" - so take that for what it's worth. I think I violated the unspoken rule of actually breaking a sweat and not using the gym as a dating facility.

Most of the shitheads that were talking shit on me have either given up or waged a full on war against me. That's why the headphones are on before I even leave the car - if the ignore feature works like a charm on Elite - you should see it at the gym.

I did my first powerlifting meet and won - then again no one else was even near my weight class. Doubt I'll do another since it was all attitude and "where do you get your gear" - even after I make it pretty clear I was natural.

I hope everyone stays safe in the days to come. No matter how dark the coming days may seem, there is a light that will shine for all of us.

With much respect ...

Shells


PS Gig 'em Blair!

 

[nautica]

Worry about you character not your reputation.

Your reputation is who people think you are.

Your character is who you really.