What would you do if your 16 old kid did this?

[biteme]

I caved in and let her use my car repeatedly (even though she only has a permit) and it was wrecked (huge dent in the side) that she said must have happened while it was parked at the grocery store... I told her she would have to pay for the damages and I didn't even make her do that... Her easy world is about to collapse... We buy and do for her all the time. Get her nails and hair done professionally, new clothes, etc...Let her come and go at will... It's stopping now... She will have to go to her mothers and adjust or fall apart.

 

[biteme]

Discipline is part of love. The child needs to obey rules or she needs to be punished or put out. period Think what your parents would have done to you had you tried to pull a stunt like that? Or how bout this - would you EVER have even thought to do such a thing, let alone carried it out?

Are you sure she isn't trying to make trouble for you and your new wife?

Sorry to hear of the troubles...

No. She loves Michelle. She's been like this for years. She's just worse now because she's older.... My dad would have beat me and my sisters senseless if we did that crap.. I would have definitely been sent to a border home at the least. 2 years ago her psychiatrists told me that I may end up having to do that because he could not get thru to her.. She refused to cooperate.

 

[biteme]

She told me herself that she was psychotic... I guess sadly maybe she is.

 

[calveless wonder]

could be oppositional defiance disorder..?

for real, sounds like it.

has she always been this way?

i think she'll be alot better when she's older.

you need to support her, but also discipline her when she tries to be a brat.

 

[calveless wonder]

She told me herself that she was psychotic... I guess sadly maybe she is.

marijuana doesn't help...if you're already unstable or prone to depression/etc marijuana can cause alot of problems.

i love it sometimes, but it makes me extremely paranoid and used to give me severe depression when i was younger.

i don't know your situation but i'd have a very tough time kicking her out of the house. it seems like she's really unhappy and having a hard time growing up, but i don't know. maybe its for the best

 

[biteme]

marijuana doesn't help...if you're already unstable or prone to depression/etc marijuana can cause alot of problems.

i love it sometimes, but it makes me extremely paranoid and used to give me severe depression when i was younger.

i don't know your situation but i'd have a very tough time kicking her out of the house. it seems like she's really unhappy and having a hard time growing up, but i don't know. maybe its for the best

She smokes it with her mother if that tells you anything. She said that she smokes a lot of pot and I'm sure that she does.

 

[Bikini Mod]

She told me herself that she was psychotic... I guess sadly maybe she is.

Are you sure that it just isn't because no one EVER laid down the law for her? I mean think about it, it sounds like no punishment ever really was enforced so she has been allowed to pretty much do as she pleases. You will have a hard time teaching her the rules of how to get along. But think on it like this, if you don't LIFE WILL and when that happens the lessons may be far harder than any of us want our children to learn...

I really am sorry that you are having a hard time with her. I hope she finds a way to pull her head out of her ass before she fucks up in a way that she can't easily take back. I have 2 women in my employ (early 20's) both came from good homes, comfortable living, loving parents and yet they chose drugs and low-lives to spend their time with. They spent time in jail, have young children and are dealing with addiction. If it weren't for employers like me who believe that everyone deserves a second chance and who genuinely care about them they would never have a way back to "normal".

Good luck, I hope she finds her way.

 

[biteme]

could be oppositional defiance disorder..?

for real, sounds like it.

has she always been this way?

i think she'll be alot better when she's older.

you need to support her, but also discipline her when she tries to be a brat.

Tearing up the house and destroying property at her age is not accpetable. Not to mention threatening me.. She is no longer welcome here. She will only do it again if I let her back.

 

[calveless wonder]

She smokes it with her mother if that tells you anything. She said that she smokes a lot of pot and I'm sure that she does.

probably her way of feeling accepted.....


pot will fuck up your head if you let it. i bet if she stopped smoking she'd be alot better.

im hapyp my parents stayed together even though they're terrible for each other. divorce really takes its toll on the kids

 

[biteme]

Are you sure that it just isn't because no one EVER laid down the law for her? I mean think about it, it sounds like no punishment ever really was enforced so she has been allowed to pretty much do as she pleases. You will have a hard time teaching her the rules of how to get along. But think on it like this, if you don't LIFE WILL and when that happens the lessons may be far harder than any of us want our children to learn...

I really am sorry that you are having a hard time with her. I hope she finds a way to pull her head out of her ass before she fucks up in a way that she can't easily take back. I have 2 women in my employ (early 20's) both came from good homes, comfortable living, loving parents and yet they chose drugs and low-lives to spend their time with. They spent time in jail, have young children and are dealing with addiction. If it weren't for employers like me who believe that everyone deserves a second chance and who genuinely care about them they would never have a way back to "normal".

Good luck, I hope she finds her way.

Very good post and true. I can't stand my sister's 24 yr. old daughter. She threatens to kick her mother's ass as I've heard her do it... I want my sister to kick her little sorry ass out so bad, but she won't do it because it's her daughter and her grandson lives with her... I know an outsider looking in would think the same thing about my daughter.