What Would You Do If You Found Out or Caught Your SO Cheating on You?

[curling]

What?

True love does not conquer all.

What books have ya'll been readin'?


If the person in question loved and respected you so much they wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place.

Drop the fairy tale - love does not conquer all nor is it a forever type of feeling, it is just an emotion and as any emotion it is not a permanent thing.

Velvette,

I am surprised this doesn't sound like you love can overcome anything with God's help. I mean He forgave us for all the crap we have done to him why can't we forgive someone that we love that made a mistake that hurt us? Sure the person shouldn't have cheated but we are just mere mortals and maybe the relationship was in slump at the time. But like I said how can we not forgive somebody when God forgives us. Matter of fact it says in the Bible if you do not forgive somebodies trangressions against you, He in turn will not forgive yours.

I am not saying you have to stay with the person it doesn't say that, but if the cheating spouse is really sorry and promised to never do it again. I think everybody deserves a second chance don't you?

 

[velvett]

I think everybody deserves a second chance don't you?

I used to.

But it has been proven to me since childhood that offering second chances will lead to third and fourth chances.

Sometimes people need to learn and suffer the consequences of their actions. By being given chance after chance they will never learn from their mistake.

This thought is not soley limited to love and cheating, it really goes for anything really.

 

[casavant]

I wouldn't expect a second chance if I cheated on my SO. I would understand if they didn't want to stay with me.

 

[3Vandoo]

Well in 2000 while visiting my girl and her damn redneck parents in the far west.

I lost my trust in her, but didnt had any proof at all she was cheating, anyway
I knew that the relationship was kind of f*** and I wanted to put an halt to it.
But while I was waiting to tell her, and instead of telling me " Hey not working together lkalalala" SHE WENT DOWN ON A GUY IN FRONT OF MY EYES!!!!!!
that was her way to tell me, it was over

I took first plane back home and volunteered for a exchange tour in Siera Leonne
so when she tried to call me I was farrrrrrrr away!

PS: SHE MARRIED the guy last summer and she cheated on him at least 5 times

 

[casavant]

3Vandoo:

What a crazy bitch.

 

[Jimsbbc]

God's love is perfect and we are not capable of anything near that, so it is not analogous.

I think what Velvet said is right about it being a fairy tale. Although love conquers all is a romantic notion and a novel idea, relationships are easily broken by infidelity. Love is something that can be sustained for a lifetime, but it has be to be a strong bond and both parties have to work at it.

 

[polarpixie]

PS: SHE MARRIED the guy last summer and she cheated on him at least 5 times

3Vandoo, You got lucky you didn't end up with that floozy!


I think everyone deserves a 2nd chance too.....with someone else. A second chance isn't gonna happen with me.

 

[Jimsbbc]

I think everyone deserves a 2nd chance too.....with someone else. A second chance isn't gonna happen with me.

That's the right idea.

 

[dballer]

Well in 2000 while visiting my girl and her damn redneck parents in the far west.

I lost my trust in her, but didnt had any proof at all she was cheating, anyway
I knew that the relationship was kind of f*** and I wanted to put an halt to it.
But while I was waiting to tell her, and instead of telling me " Hey not working together lkalalala" SHE WENT DOWN ON A GUY IN FRONT OF MY EYES!!!!!!
that was her way to tell me, it was over

I took first plane back home and volunteered for a exchange tour in Siera Leonne
so when she tried to call me I was farrrrrrrr away!

PS: SHE MARRIED the guy last summer and she cheated on him at least 5 times

You just made me hate another person I do not know.

This thread makes me like Morrisey more and more.

People fuckin suck.

 

[polarpixie]

That's the right idea.

Thanks Jim. The only time that may not apply is if I were married with kids tho. If that bastard ever cheated on me, no, I wouldn't divorce him until after our kids were grown up, but in the meantime, HERE's the deal......I'd NEVER have sex with him again (i'm incredibly self-sufficient), he'd be the house elf and clean and cook and give me weekly pedicures, 3/4 of his paycheck, and that is only the beginning of payback time. Damn...the more I think about it...that would be nice to have around the house....know any cheaters wanna marry me? HAHAHAHAHA!