Oh boy, dont get me going cause I can throw all this right back in your face. You speak of selfishness and being there for your family huh, if thats so important, let me turn the tides a bit so you can see a long life from another perspective (which I have personally seen all to many times).
Ok, so ya want to live forever. So here I am 75 years old, parkinsons, alzheimers or what have you is setting in. Im a wreck and unable to care for myself. BUT my daughter is getting married and I cant walk her down the isle, not only that, but she is my only child, im running out of money and need her financial support to keep me going. I spend the next 10 years of my life rotting in a nursing home, taxing the emotional wellbeing and the finances of my daughter and her new husband. I feel like a burdon and I cant even take care of my self anymore.......
Next time you talk about selfishness, maybe you should walk the circle and see your point from all angles. There are no gurantees that will hapen, but there are none saying it wont either. Im not saying I want to check out when im 50, but I sure as hell dont want to be a burdon to the ones I love either.