What drives you to accomplish stuff?

[hanselthecaretaker]

I'm drawing blanks at the moment.

 

[Raptorex]

fear

 

[curvymommy]

I'm drawing blanks at the moment.

I'm pretty negatively motivated to get things done. I love positive stuff too but I also work well under pressure with a deadline.

Also...my kids.

 

[nefertiti]

Insecurity....if I don't have it all, if I'm not the best at everything, I haven't done enough and I'm not good enough.

A little insight into the crazy head of an overachiever. It's no wonder I barely sleep.

I'm also motivated by the desire to provide comfort for those in my life so that they don't ever have to have the internal stress I have.

I'm seriously considering running off to thailand for four months next winter and saying "fuck it" to life for a while...maybe that will force me to relax.

 

[Arabian]

Money

 

[MrB123]

$$$$$ and ASS

 

[Raptorex]

To be honest, this behaviour gets worse with age - so I would suggest that you modify it or it will do as you say, drive you crazy.

Insecurity....if I don't have it all, if I'm not the best at everything, I haven't done enough and I'm not good enough.

A little insight into the crazy head of an overachiever. It's no wonder I barely sleep.

I'm also motivated by the desire to provide comfort for those in my life so that they don't ever have to have the internal stress I have.

I'm seriously considering running off to thailand for four months next winter and saying "fuck it" to life for a while...maybe that will force me to relax.

 

[75th]

$ and the fact that Im lucky enough to work on what I love.

 

[GUARDIAN]

obsessive compulsive

 

[calveless wonder]

so i can be better than everybody else (that was the predominant mindset before)

now its to be the best i can be...which = awesome

 

[needtogetarmy]

fear

fear is an excellent motivator

 

[PICK3]

nuthin

I'm a fuggin loser

 

[Smurfy]

I'm drawing blanks at the moment.

getting it done and then throwing it up in other people's faces/


what else?

 

[nefertiti]

To be honest, this behaviour gets worse with age - so I would suggest that you modify it or it will do as you say, drive you crazy.

I'm not really sure it's something you can "modify." Even if I slow down work-wise I'll still have to be the best girlfriend/wife/friend, the best at xyz hobby. I'm hopelessly type A and failure, the few times in my life it's happened, has been crushing.

But there is hope...A few months ago when things started getting really serious with the bf...it was because, and I told him this, he quieted the noise in my head. When I'm around him none of that crap matters and I can just....be. I think as long as I have someone in my life, whether it be him or someone else, who gives me that pause....that comfortable silence and relaxation...I'll be ok.

 

[curvymommy]

getting it done and then throwing it up in other people's faces/


what else?

That too.

 

[Smurfy]

Insecurity....if I don't have it all, if I'm not the best at everything, I haven't done enough and I'm not good enough.

A little insight into the crazy head of an overachiever. It's no wonder I barely sleep.

I'm also motivated by the desire to provide comfort for those in my life so that they don't ever have to have the internal stress I have.

I'm seriously considering running off to thailand for four months next winter and saying "fuck it" to life for a while...maybe that will force me to relax.

I agree with MM69 here
Please be careful with perpetuating this.
My father spent his entire life this way, constantly caring for others and constantly over working himself and taking on an immense amount of responsibility.
he's almost 60 and after about 50 yrs of this behavior, he's beginning to break under the pressure. its scary to see someone like him crumble.

 

[nefertiti]

I agree with MM69 here
Please be careful with perpetuating this.
My father spent his entire life this way, constantly caring for others and constantly over working himself and taking on an immense amount of responsibility.
he's almost 60 and after about 50 yrs of this behavior, he's beginning to break under the pressure. its scary to see someone like him crumble.

I take after my mother in this regard...she is the same exact way...and at 65, she broke under the pressure as well, making me more conscious of my own behavior.

 

[needtogetaas]

wife and kids. Also god.

 

[javaguru]

Pride, mostly pride.

 

[RachelEFC]

fear of turning out like my mother

 

[needtogetaas]

fear of turning out like my mother

 

[Raptorex]

Smurfy and I need to turn you on to Dr. Wayne Dyer,

Here is my gift to you, the complete archive of his radio show, start where you want they are all downloadable. I think you will find it very helpful (registration is free)

http://www.hayhouseradio.com/episode_preview.php?author_id=89

I'm not really sure it's something you can "modify." Even if I slow down work-wise I'll still have to be the best girlfriend/wife/friend, the best at xyz hobby. I'm hopelessly type A and failure, the few times in my life it's happened, has been crushing.

But there is hope...A few months ago when things started getting really serious with the bf...it was because, and I told him this, he quieted the noise in my head. When I'm around him none of that crap matters and I can just....be. I think as long as I have someone in my life, whether it be him or someone else, who gives me that pause....that comfortable silence and relaxation...I'll be ok.

 

[needtogetaas]

Pride, mostly pride.

This one works for me to.

 

[ceo]

a 2002 Honda Accord!

 

[javaguru]

This one works for me to.

If it works then don't try to fix it.

 

[blueta2]

But there is hope...A few months ago when things started getting really serious with the bf...it was because, and I told him this, he quieted the noise in my head. When I'm around him none of that crap matters and I can just....be. I think as long as I have someone in my life, whether it be him or someone else, who gives me that pause....that comfortable silence and relaxation...I'll be ok.

Depending on others to quiet the noise in your head is a dangeruous way to live.
Finding "the quiet" on your own is true freedom.
Like MM69 says Wayne Dyer is a great spiritual healer but you can also read Eat Pray Love or anything from Eckhard Tolle (he's being featured through Oprah's book club now actually) or David R Hawkins
These folks can help you quiet your noise w/out depending on others

 

[nefertiti]

Depending on others to quiet the noise in your head is a dangeruous way to live.
Finding "the quiet" on your own is true freedom.
Like MM69 says Wayne Dyer is a great spiritual healer but you can also read Eat Pray Love or anything from Eckhard Tolle (he's being featured through Oprah's book club now actually) or David R Hawkins
These folks can help you quiet your noise w/out depending on others

I know it is. I've just never found it otherwise. When I wake up on a saturday morning alone, I wake up at six with this urgent need to do stuff. When i wake up with him, I can sleep till 11 before I get that itch to be productive. It was the first indication that peace was to be had at all, let alone found on my own.

I'll check out that link and book, though, for real.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Anger drives me. Proving people wrong drives me..
I love it when I am expected to fall, or when people tell me things will be too hard to do. Makes me want to do it to perfection even more so than what I already do. Prove them fuckers wrong

 

[Scotsman]

With every job I've ever had the desire to make sure it's done right. My parents drilled it into my head that "If it's worth doing it's worth doing right"

In the gym I am driven to keep working harder to keep the rage at bey.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[TurquoiseRack]

I hate criticism! And, it makes me not want to do anything. Some people know how to give it tastefully and others dont. My coworker and I have been e-mailing eachother and putting [email protected] in the BCC to send positive motivation to each other. Even if you screw up it will send everyone an email back basically saying you are the best thing on earth.

I sent an e-mail to my coworker saying she screwed up and the thing e-mailed back, "Wow.Please. Take. A. Bow. I stand in awe of your strategic brilliance. Well done. We are not worthy." LOL