Can't you work up a safe word with him? Maybe tell him that when you say, in advance, "I need a real hug" means that you just want to be hugged without any of the sexual stuff?
Can't you work up a safe word with him? Maybe tell him that when you say, in advance, "I need a real hug" means that you just want to be hugged without any of the sexual stuff?
Can't you work up a safe word with him? Maybe tell him that when you say, in advance, "I need a real hug" means that you just want to be hugged without any of the sexual stuff?
We do... LOL When I see him coming at me (which is often - not complaining about that I LOVE physical contact) and I see him "winding up" for a pornohug I say, "Let's stop and think a moment. When was the last time you actually got a POSITIVE response from your wife? Let us go back to THAT moment and reproduce THAT approach."
(I'm not kidding. The scene is EXACTLY like that.)
Yea, we are wierd.
Which reminds of another one of his hugs... the "sneak-up". It usually yields a chuckling result, that is, if it doesn't scare the crap outta me.