In terms of the observation, I was only working from the information you provided in your own first post:
I have no other way of interpreting "I don't really clean and all that jazz," other than you don't do those things.
"Rubbing me the wrong way" would imply that I have some sort of emotional attachment or connection to you, which I do not.
Now in the above post, you contradict your original statement and say you DO do things with the children, and around the house ... so make up your mind. You do things around the home and with the children, that makes you a wife/mother/housewife.
Finally, take this as I'm saying it Heather (considering that I'm probably old enough to be your mother), reverse psychology doesn't work based on one or two sentences someone posts. Put another way, based on a LOT of threads you've started in C&C I COULD say you frequently come off reading like an immature, materialistically shallow, self-centered girl. I wouldn't do something like that because it would be presumptious of me, potentially rude and insulting ... see what I'm saying about assumptions of personality?