Weddings!

[velvett]

I know there are quite a few women here getting married this year and I thought it would be cool to keep some sort of record of who, when and roughly where.

In addition:

Who wants to get married but hasn't discussed that step yet with their mate.

Who's hinting?

Who's looking for their mate?

Who's gone their separately ways from their mate and how are you doing?

 

[Werd]

Was "happily married" for over a decade. Took me 3 years and everything to get a divorce. That was one year ago.

Now involved in the ugliest custody battle imaginable, actually it defies all reasonable imagination.

What can I say? When I fuck up, I fuck up but good.

I am not sour on marriage though.... it just isn't for me.

 

[starfish]

I have never been married. I have an independent streak in me a mile long.

There is a beautiful resort down the street from me and I always see people getting married on the beach. It is gorgeous. I always catch myself getting all starry-eyed and daydreaming when I see a wedding going on, so you never know. lol

Just gotta find the right man.

 

[jenscats5]

Got married at 21 lasted for 5 years, got divorced, discovered independence is great!! (yay!) then was ready for another relationship, met man at the gym, got married & it'll be 3 years this Sept 22.....

I get all googly eyed thinking of everyone's wedding upcoming......[[[[[[sigh]]]]]]]]

 

[Raina]

I'm getting married October 15th.

I sure as hell wasn't looking for any sort of relationship when I started dating him 4 years ago. I was looking for a night out and maybe some snuggling. We've been through some high highs and some hellish lows-- including a multi-month split up (best thing ever to happen to us). We really had to split up for a while a couple of year ago to sort out what we wanted. We were going down different paths and there was no real sense staying in the relationship if we were moving in opposite directions.

Now all is well. We certainly have our moments but most of the time we're happy. Tonight was our usual "Monday night antiques roadshow" date and he had me laughing so much I was crying. Not too bad for being years later. I never knew that after 4 years I could be so excited to see someone at the end of the day that I got butterflies.

 

[lil'tangerine]

I've been tellin' my man we're gonna get married someday since before we even started dating! He's a chef and I LOVE to eat...I eat more than he does...So as long as he keeps my belly full! LOL
We're taking a big plunge of moving in together soon....in another country away from all of our friends and family! Which may be a good thing OR may be a bad thing...I guess we'll find out. He is a wonderful guy and the BEST thing that has happened to me!

 

[lucidblue]

I've found the man I love and want to marry. We've had ups and downs and are now giving a serious commitment another try. Right now, I'm taking it day by day.

 

[Lady Viking]

I´m not married yet but we´re planning to get in next couple of years.

 

[Werd]

I don't think I will ever re-marry.... it was too ugly getting un-married. But I would truly love to be committed again.

I just have to find a way to not think that commitment = ownership. When that happens along, I assume that me and the guy will be "in the thick of it" and that will be all she wrote.

Till then I am pleased to do what I want, when I want, with whom I want... Priority is making a safe life for me and my kids. Once that is accomplished I should think everything else will take care of itself.

 

[gypsy]

I'm getting married this year - November 4. We've been together for 4 years now, and I certainly didn't think we'd ever end up together. We were both just hanging out, looking for a good time then BAM we got hit in the face with love. We've had very serious ups and downs too. But we're going to do this now - we are going to Mexico to stay at a spa resort for 8 days. We get married on the 4th day of the trip in a gazebo over looking the ocean. Should be very nice. I just have to make sure I don't get burnt before the ceremony, I'd hate to be red and pealing in my pictures!!!

 

[velvett]

I've found the man I love and want to marry. We've had ups and downs and are now giving a serious commitment another try. Right now, I'm taking it day by day.

 

[velvett]

I can't see/feel myself ever being married and while I say that there are times that I see my friends that get engaged, married, etc - I think, gee I wish I could they things that they do - then I get over that feeling.

Sometimes I just think it's a norm that you want to fit in and never being married and over thirty people stare to wonder about you.

Ah well.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

I'm getting married this year - November 4. We've been together for 4 years now, and I certainly didn't think we'd ever end up together. We were both just hanging out, looking for a good time then BAM we got hit in the face with love. We've had very serious ups and downs too. But we're going to do this now - we are going to Mexico to stay at a spa resort for 8 days. We get married on the 4th day of the trip in a gazebo over looking the ocean. Should be very nice. I just have to make sure I don't get burnt before the ceremony, I'd hate to be red and pealing in my pictures!!!

Where?

(I'm looking for ideas)

 

[Daisy_Girl]

There is a beautiful resort down the street from me and I always see people getting married on the beach. It is gorgeous.

Where? (again, looking for ideas)

 

[Daisy_Girl]

BF and I have been together for about 3 years or so....I forget. Been living together for over 2 years, after we spent 6 months on separate coasts. While long-distance, we spoke EVERYDAY. Even now, we don't go a day without talking if one of us is out of town. I can't imagine going to bed without hearing him say good night to me.

We've been through a lot of tough times, things were majorly stacked against us for awhile. Looking back, I find it quite amazing we made it through and are so strong together. We are 2 different people in many ways, but we fit perfectly together. I honestly can't imagine there is anyone else out there for me. As silly as it sounds,we are totally meant for each other.

Bought a house, moving in later this year (if they ever break ground!). Talking marriage, have picked out engagemetn ring...now I am just waiting for it! UGH! lol We both want SMALL wedding, like just us and our parents. Probably a destination wedding where we can also honeymoon....living in Vegas we could run off tonight and get married...hahaha.

I know we'll marry soon, but I am really hoping by the end of the year...seeing how we are also talking children. We have talked about trying for a baby early next spring - I have major baby fever. Which is why I am doing my last SERIOUS attempt at cutting this summer.

 

[lamamacita]

Getting married January 2005.

We've been "together" for 3 years next week. "Together" is in quotes because he has been gone a lot as he is in the Marine Corps...currently serving in Iraq.

We are going to try out living together in August...which is exciting and scary to me. Don't know what I would do with out him...even though he isn't always here physically he is such an inspiration to me.

 

[jenscats5]

I can't see/feel myself ever being married and while I say that there are times that I see my friends that get engaged, married, etc - I think, gee I wish I could they things that they do - then I get over that feeling.

Sometimes I just think it's a norm that you want to fit in and never being married and over thirty people stare to wonder about you.

Ah well.

I know how you feel to a certain extent, V.....but mine is with kids....don't want kids, no desire to have kids, etc & a lot of people think I'm weird or a freak or will argue with me about it......

Eh, as long as you're happy, that's what's important!!

 

[FitFossil]

.....but mine is with kids....don't want kids, no desire to have kids, etc & a lot of people think I'm weird or a freak or will argue with me about it......

Boy can I relate to that! Even when I was a kid, I just always knew I wouldn't have kids. The way I look at it, not wanting to be a parent is really no different that not wanting to be a doctor, a fireman, or whatever. Besides, I've probably put more thought into my decision NOT to have kids than many people do TO have kids.

I just can't understand why some people have a problem with (or want an explanation for) someone else's very personal choice. Besides, my not having kids means more resources from my tax $$ for their kids.

 

[velvett]

I know how you feel to a certain extent, V.....but mine is with kids....don't want kids, no desire to have kids, etc & a lot of people think I'm weird or a freak or will argue with me about it......

Eh, as long as you're happy, that's what's important!!

True true - I feel the very same actually.

Happiness is what one should always strive for first.

 

[jenscats5]

Boy can I relate to that! Even when I was a kid, I just always knew I wouldn't have kids. The way I look at it, not wanting to be a parent is really no different that not wanting to be a doctor, a fireman, or whatever. Besides, I've probably put more thought into my decision NOT to have kids than many people do TO have kids.

I just can't understand why some people have a problem with (or want an explanation for) someone else's very personal choice. Besides, my not having kids means more resources from my tax $$ for their kids.

Exactly! There are some people who shouldn't have kids IMO....but I love how people want to argue with me about it.....mind your bidness!!

 

[L_Seven]

I know there are quite a few women here getting married this year and I thought it would be cool to keep some sort of record of who, when and roughly where.

Who's looking for their mate?

Who's gone their separately ways from their mate and how are you doing?

I would fit into the "looking for my mate" category;
however- am taking a much-needed break from being "the pursuer"
for awhile yet...

 

[Raina]

I would fit into the "looking for my mate" category;
however- am taking a much-needed break from being "the pursuer"
for awhile yet...

I don't think we usually find that right ones until we've decided to not actively look....then they just walk into our lives.

 

[starfish]

I don't think we usually find that right ones until we've decided to not actively look....then they just walk into our lives.

So true... Too many people are looking too hard.

 

[velvett]

I don't think we usually find that right ones until we've decided to not actively look....then they just walk into our lives.

100% true.

I always picked the wrong guys to like and then bam one appears at your doorstep and he's just right for you.

 

[L_Seven]

I can't see/feel myself ever being married and while I say that there are times that I see my friends that get engaged, married, etc - I think, gee I wish I could they things that they do - then I get over that feeling.

Sometimes I just think it's a norm that you want to fit in and never being married and over thirty people stare to wonder about you.

Ah well.

Being 34, I can really relate to the feeling that other people
wonder why youre "not married yet"-
as if that is such a crime...
for me- this process is just taking time...
"brary chick" in PA

 

[velvett]

Being 34, I can really relate to the feeling that other people
wonder why youre "not married yet"-
as if that is such a crime...
for me- this process is just taking time...
"brary chick" in PA

Cool.
I'm 34 too.

 

[L_Seven]

Yes, very cool!
I don't have children, either-
I've just started checking out this board a few days ago-
very informative indeed!
Sherri At the Library in PA