ugly breakup with ex/opinions please?

[dexter4321]

ok heres my situation, i'm not going to beet around the bush with my story.
my girlfriend for about 4 years told me out of guilt awhile ago that she was pregnant and hid it from me and had an abortion behind my back.
i keept my feelings about it private for a long time never talked about with friends or family. i moved in with her already knowing what she did thinking i would be able to put it behind me. i wasnt able to put it behind me it festered into an ugly situation. i felt disrespected, i felt she broke my trust and i felt i was decieved by someone i loved and cared about. any way i finally broke my silence about the situation by discussing it with friends and family. it ended up getting back to her family. she has the nerve to call me crying and bitching about me telling people our buisness. my response was if it was our buisiness then it would have been our decision, hence i couldn't be angry because i would of had say in the final outcome. am i in the wrong, should i feel at fault here. also she threatened me with her brother. hahaha if that piece of shit ever says one word to me about this situation i will hand him an ass beating that will make him wish he was a fucking girl. thanks for listening. any advice would greatly be appreciated.

 

[saint808]

my avatar might help... bottom line... you got 2 options... end it andleave.. or try and forgive... things will never be the same but that is not to say they cannot achieve a level of trust and love again. Also tell her it was killing you to keep it inside and you couldn't talk to her about it because she hid it from you... i mean c'mon.... that's some heavy shit. Also do you love her? Do you really?

 

[canadianhitman]

Well, I wouldn't ever be able to trust someone who hid something like that from me, so my advice would be to cut all ties and to consider yourself lucky that you found out her deceptive tendencies while it's still easy to walk.

 

[chefbone]

If you still love her, don't leave her. Work it out. 4 years is a long time. How old are you?

 

[Lestat]

I think it does suck that people found out about it that she didn't want to know based on your conversations.

 

[saint808]

the getting back ot her is the problem... just tell her how hurt you were and you wanted to talk to her about it but just couldn't.

 

[dexter4321]

we're over i moved out and havent seen each other or spoke with each other since.
yes i did love her, more than anything i made alot of sacrifices for her or us and this is how she repays me by shitting on me. its not like she lied to me about how much money she spent at the gap. were talking about the posability of me being a father. theres not a day that dosent go by that i dont think about what happened. i dont think i will ever be able to forget it hopefully just learn to live with it.
i'm 27 will be 28 in september. women are scandalice bitches. i hope in time i will be able to trust women again.
also, why should i lie about what happened i mean what to protect her. fuck her. if shes big enough to make that decision behind my back and then tell me 5 mounths later because she fells guilty then she better be fucking big enough to handle the repocusions of making a decision like that. why shoulf i feel guilty about people knowing about it know. me finally being able to talk about it has been almost like therapy for me getting it of my chest.

 

[EnderJE]

Bor...love is a verb. If you care, then love her. If you don't, then let it be and try men because they don't get pregnant.

 

[PBR]

IMHO...the entire situation should have ONLY been handled between the two of you...that is now water under the bridge however....in the future, keep intimate details to the one your with...its the best advice i could give you bro....