Totally lost in an abusive relationship - HELP

[showtime2004]

I know you already said that you would never hit her, but I can't stress the fact more, if you ever do you will never see your child on a regular basis again.

Unfortunately the courts/legal system are extremely bias when it comes to custody rights toward men. You need to have every abusive physical encounter with her documented, take photos if you can of any bruises, scratches,etc.

Call the police in every occurance.

Get a restraining order against her, and make every attempt to get custody of this child.

I've had several bros go through this kind of shit. The women they are involved with are abusive but they call the cops and have daddy carted away, then comes the restraining order and they have spent 1000's of dollars just to see their own children for 2 days a month.

Play this one safe and be cool headed.

Best of luck.

Listen to this guy. This is the best advice going.

 

[Surviving]

How old are you two?

26 and 26

Trying to make it on our own. No family support financially or locally. Both our parents live away from us.

 

[Surviving]

Thanks

Thanks for all the advice, bros. I never imagined I'd get this many replies. Thanks again.

 

[buffer1]

keep your head on straight for the little one,your life is,nt all that fucked up as you see,you still have a little daughter

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Letting some bitch beat on you

 

[hamstershaver]

. except the chick thing

i thought banging a new chick was the best advice i gave him

 

[Rex]

i thought banging a new chick was the best advice i gave him

Apparently my never marry a wop quote from the godfather 2 was better advice.

 

[Viking850]

#1. Move out immediately.
#2. Go to the nearest Superior Court and find out what papers you need to file for a child custody hearing. Take all previous police reports with you to the hearing.
#3. Obtain a restraining order and stop ALL contact with her immediately(except for child visitation related stuff, which insist be done via email only).
#4. Move on with your life, spend as much time as the court will allow with your daughter.
#5. If you ever have ANY inclination to reunite with this woman, punch yourself as hard as you can and get back to reality.

 

[-SD-]

#1. Move out immediately.
#2. Go to the nearest Superior Court and find out what papers you need to file for a child custody hearing. Take all previous police reports with you to the hearing.
#3. Obtain a restraining order and stop ALL contact with her immediately(except for child visitation related stuff, which insist be done via email only).
#4. Move on with your life, spend as much time as the court will allow with your daughter.
#5. If you ever have ANY inclination to reunite with this woman, punch yourself as hard as you can and get back to reality.

This is as good as it gets. Some things cant be fixed and a violent person is one of those things that cant be fixed. I would focus on getting custody of your child, which means gaining evidence that her mother is abusive. Overall I would say you made your bed on this one.

 

[Surviving]

This is as good as it gets. Some things cant be fixed and a violent person is one of those things that cant be fixed. I would focus on getting custody of your child, which means gaining evidence that her mother is abusive. Overall I would say you made your bed on this one.

You are absolutely right there. It took me two years to dig this deep of a hole, I dont expect to get out in a day.