Totally lost in an abusive relationship - HELP

[Marauder79]

Survivor,

You need to get definently seperate yourself from your wife but see if you can get enough against your wife to take your daughter away. Its a disaster waiting to happen for her.

Its hard to realize when its over, but people do actually move on. Look at those famalies who divorce after 20 years of marrage. Keeping your kids in an abusive relationship for that long does nothing but hurt them. You WILL be able to move on and still raise your daughter the way she should. THose who divorce ARE able to move onto better lifes for themselves and those they care about.

Get out while you can before someone get hurt. Think of all the times your daughter watches her mom deal with her anger. Shes eventually going to think that what her mom does is normal and will probably repeat the abuse in her future family.

Coming from somone who watched theyre parents stay together for the kids, dont let it drag on. Its only doing more invisible damage on your daughter. PLEASE

 

[Gemini_Man]

http://www.batteredmen.com/

 

[cornfish]

Move out

Get 4 cases of Meister Brau and drink them all because you are about to spend the next 17 years forking over most of your income in child support.

After this step it's widely accepted to make some cry for help like banging a fat girl at the office or joining a curling league.

Follow other poster's advice more closely than this advice.

If none of the above work, give the 4 cases of Meister Brau another shot and cheer up cause by the time you are done paying child support you only have about 20 years left to save for retirement

 

[Y_lifter]

Call the cops "Every time" she hits you but make sure she leaves marks on you..

Eventually they will have enough information and a record that she will lose custody of your Daugher in court and only have visitation rights..

Is that what you want ?
If not, get her help to find out the real reason she hits and help her get over it.
You said she was violent Before you cheated on her so IMO that isnt the real reason. Sounds like a jealousy things she has over you..

 

[Spartacus]

Call the cops "Every time" she hits you but make sure she leaves marks on you..

Eventually they will have enough information and a record that she will lose custody of your Daugher in court and only have visitation rights..

Is that what you want ?
If not, get her help to find out the real reason she hits and help her get over it.
You said she was violent Before you cheated on her so IMO that isnt the real reason. Sounds like a jealousy things she has over you..

failing that
anytime a woman hits you,get away
they know that the majority of us won't strike back
if any guys out there have been struck in a really harmful manner
your best decision is to disassociate yourself from her

 

[thelegacy again]

if she truly loves you she will forgive and forget--she needs to realize yea you screwed up big time but if she decides to go on with this relationship she needs to forgive and forget..if she doesnt well then im not sure cuz i am not a fan of divorce by any means so if you decided to marry this women then do what you can as a man and make it work.

 

[thelegacy again]

oh yea--anyone can take the easy way out aka-get up and leave her and the kid..be a man and face it

 

[Gemini_Man]

There is absolutely nothing un-manly about leaving a relationship with a violent woman. All this "be a man" talk is just shaming language.