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Toddler Temper Tantrums

WODIN

WODIN

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As my two darling, lovely, wonderful apples of my eye have discovered the wonders of walking and being vertical as they trot merrily along into their 15th month of life they have also now discovered the arts of whining and throwing an all out tantrum. My son is the master of the whine and my daughter is the Buddha of yelling. She yells, therefore she is!

I know it’s all about attention and control, so what I need are techniques I can employ beyond taping their mouths shut.
 
Ignoring them is a huge plus......but if you even pay them the slighest amount of attention the ignore feature is lost.

Saying something like "Dad can't uderstand you , won't listen etc........" is what Parenting mag says to do.

I've tried both and my 9 yr old still falls back into it every once in awhile. Bribery works best....... "If you stop I will give you a cookie, $5, popsicle, whatever it takes LMAO
 
They have dog training collars at the pet store that provide a gentle corrective electric shock. They also have choke chains and pinch collars but those require the kids to be on a leash.
 
frorider6 said:
They have dog training collars at the pet store that provide a gentle corrective electric shock. They also have choke chains and pinch collars but those require the kids to be on a leash.
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when I worked at a lumber yard we sold those. we sold one model and then we had a sales representative come in and tell us about a customer situation where everytime the family came home in the car and hit the garage door opener, it would shock the dog. so they changed the way the system was done and we had to sell this new system.
they said the poor dog, even though it had a new system, it didn't know that, so it would hear the family car coming and start whining and curl up in a ball in the corner pissing itself.
 
I've always made sure that the crying isn't out of insecurity. And am willing to hold them and give them my attention always. Outside of that, I let the just flip out as they need be to work out there emotions and do not give in. Kids need to thow temper tantrums sometimes. Its a stress releiver!

When my 5 yr old does it I will rationalizer with her sometimes. Or send her to her room to calm down or tickle her to get her to change her focus on the thing she wanted. Again, outside of attention and affection, which I alway supply regardless of circumstances, I will NOT give in to a temper tantrum for them to get there way, otherwise it becomes a re-inforcement of the temper tantrum

bottomline: let them tantrum away and have a good laugh at it. It can be funny to watch sometimes!
 
Most of the time i wil let it go for a few minutes, if it doesn't end either threatening to send her to her room, or actually doing it does the trick....but @ 15 months the ignore feature would probably do the trick....
 
I believe everyone knows you can't hold a baby enough when they are tiny.
They need it.
When they get older you must break them of the habit of always being held of getting constant attention..

We found that just turning your back to them or walking away right when they start makes them think like:
Yo Dad, I'm yelling over here... Hello ... Yo ! ..
Ah forget it, I'll just suck on my toes or something.

Eventually they get the idea that they should hold the yelling for something really important like busting their butts on the coffee table or wanting that 5 Lbs of crap removed from their diaper.
 
Thanks all for your replies. I think the Dog Collar trick might work. I'm all about the push button age.

Seriously... Thanks for the solid info all.
 
I use to play the "quiet game" with Bri when she got a tad bit older to understand what the "quiet game" entailed.

Tell them that the first person to talk during the "quiet game" loses. Hell, I could get her to shut up for 15-20 minutes at a pop at times. Try it when they are a bit older. If you make things a game, they'll be more apt to play along.

Good luck...Damn I think lil girl's need to have volume CONTROLS on them. Yelling must be a girl trait, cuz Bri's still has a big mouth. I'm always telling her that she needs her "inside" voice! I allow her to yell outside ONLY!
 
I think you are right vix. Lil girls can wail.

I cuddle them silly. I am literally holding one of them from the moment I get home till they go to bed. I get about 4 hours with them a day which isn't enough really.

Sometimes they get into competitions for attention and those can get a little out of line.
 
Wodin, you're a GREAT dad!Hold 'em tight every night!

Cuddles only makes them well balanced kids!

My mom use to say " You've spoiled Gabby." My dad would reply: "Nah, she just smells that way".
 
Gotta LOVE a good temper tantrum. My girls are older now (Yea, I agree about the whining and creaming thing!... I don't know how my hearing is still intact!) but every now and then one of them still gets this major bug up thier butt.

The answer? Simple -IF YOU WANT TO BE ANTI-SOCIAL THEN GO TO YOUR ROOM UNTIL YOU ARE READY TO BEHAVE IN A SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE MANNER!

We called it "The walk of shame"... the loooooong walk to your room to "think about it". 15 months may seem young, but IT IS NOT.

I started doing this when they were very young and it DOES work. By sending them to their rooms the desired result is not achieved as they can not see you OBVIOUSLY about to blow a headgasket by listening to thier screaming and they are taught SELF-CONTROL. They are the ones to ultimately decide when they are done torturing THEMSELVES as there is no one else present for them to torture!

PS - Kicking a door or throwing things is NEVER allowed during a tantrum - EVER. If this happened, it only happened ONCE where I IMMEDIATELY opened the door to thier room and explained in no uncertain terms that though I knew they were angry and upset they still must ALWAYS exercise a certain amount of self-control. TRUST ME - IT DIDN'T HAPPEN MORE THAN ONCE WITH EACH OF MY KIDS.

GOOD LUCK OLD MAN!!!

tee-hee
 
They do understand us now, I know it for sure because they're saying a few more words now beyond baba, dada and mama and they're responding to conversation.

Yesterday I my wife told me that our daughter was saying "my, my my" over and over...I said I was singing a bit of a song to her on and off.

Oh my my.
Oh my my.
Can you boogie.
Can you try.

Because she would start wiggling her but and laughing and clapping..Too funny.

I told my wife about it and said "boogie", my daughter and son were in their booster seats at the kitchen table at the time. When they heard the word boogie both of them started giggling and wiggling about in their seats.

My wife was stunned. She started laughing so hard she had tears in her eyes over it. I told her that was what we were doing this past weekend in the mornings while she was sleeping in.

:)

Didn't feel "Old" this morning when I was Doing Tri Pushdowns overhead pull supersets with 225.
 
Cute "boogie" story Wodin. I bet that was beyond darling.

The tantrums we threw tended to be at stores when we didn't get our way. My sister never threw them the way I did-- where I tended to lay on my back and scream and generally be a pain in the ass. My mom would just ignore me and start wandering off. That would pretty much stop it as I didn't want to be alone.

Then my mom and dad set a new rule-- if we asked for something, even if we were at the store for the purpose of buying said item, we couldn't have it. If you asked, then you knew you shot your chances. That's how we learned not to whine and beg. Pitching fits is mostly about attention-- they aren't too fun when there's nobody there to react.
 
Raina thanks for sharing your insights. The temper tantrum in a store is something that I hope never to see, but eventually I know it will happen. LOL!!!
 
WODIN said:
I get about 4 hours with them a day which isn't enough really.
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I hear ya on that one. I was out of the country/away from home off and on for about 1 year over the first couple of years after my daughter was born. I missed a lot of things with her. Since my son was born, I've been able to be home much, much more.

That's the hardest part about being in the military - being away from the family. In my opinion, it's one of the major reasons for a lot of people getting out. Being deployed half way across the world post 9/11 reinforces the point. This job is tough on the family.
 
Wodin - you ARE old, just accept it! heheheheee

Raina - you are going to be a good mom!

VBabe - howa doin' hot stuff?! LOVE the new avatar... I am definitely AROUSED! :)
 
bikinimom said:


YOU KNOW I AM!!! tee-hee

(I can't believe that there is anyone around that STILL remembers that!)
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Unforgettable - that's what you are......blah, blah, blah......
 
Originally posted by bikinimom
VBabe - howa doin' hot stuff?! LOVE the new avatar... I am definitely AROUSED! :)

YOU always make me blush! You know, for a little man you sure are pretty!:D

I 'm doing well thanks! I'm hitting the lake in a few hours so I'll be doing much better.

By the way, I found a really sweet pic of you from the Arnold Classic . No, it's the NOT the one of us 2-gether, if you recall my hubby took that picture and it was blury. I think he got excited when he took that picture!lol ...Anyhoo, if you do not mind ,may I post the picture in my gallery? I can send it for your approval first, if you wish! Kisses, Gabrielle
 
Originally posted by bikinimom
You can post it baby... I would LOVE to see! (ONLY IF I DONT LOOK REAAAAAL BAD THOUGH! LOL)

:)

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It's NOT possible for YOU to EVER look bad! Take a look in my gallery when you get a second. Enjoy!

pssst....look at Lee Labrada's pic in there as well! He's a short lil shit-lol..But he's a cutie pie!He gave me one of his tee-shirts and signed it for me...SWEEET MAN and took time to chat with me! Us short lil shits gotta stick "2-getha"!:)
 
Hehehehheheee I look like I just ate something REALLY YUCKY!!! But my ass looks sweet! hehehehehehhehehehe

Thanx gurl... I vote you ELITE'S QUEEN OF THE AVATAR!
 
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