This married chick wants me...need advice

[HelenSL]

Don't be the guy that I fear. Don't be the guy that doesn't care. Whatever you do is your choice... I just hope you make the right one.

I think that sums it up really well...if the husband was your friend and you know he wanted his marriage to work, would you have sex with his wife? (By any definition, not just the Clinton one )

Or even if you didn't know?

*sigh*

I'd say please don't get involved sexually with anyone whose heart is less shut up than yours because you will really hurt them.

Even if you've been hurt by others whose hearts were more shut up than yours...that still doesn't make it ok to do it to an innocent person who had nothing to do with your past hurts...

love
Helen

 

[badazzwhitedude]

Re: I see it like this Helen

She is the one wanting him and she is the one married.
If he should go for it, is up to him. Sometimes it can be very hard to say no even to a married woman.

This is very true man. She hit on me initially. After a short time of us keeping in touch, her husband called me. Then I thought, "Oh well. That's the end of that." But then she called me back again the other night. She is persuing me big time. She wants it, is persuing me, and is quite nice-looking. It is very hard, to resist such a temptation, especially when she seems to be so nice, wants me in that way, and her marriage is not good. For all I know, she may be planning on getting divorced. I haven't dicussed that with her yet. It's very hard indeed.

 

[HelenSL]

Re: Re: I see it like this Helen

This is very true man. She hit on me initially. After a short time of us keeping in touch, her husband called me. Then I thought, "Oh well. That's the end of that." But then she called me back again the other night. She is persuing me big time. She wants it, is persuing me, and is quite nice-looking. It is very hard, to resist such a temptation, especially when she seems to be so nice, wants me in that way, and her marriage is not good. For all I know, she may be planning on getting divorced. I haven't dicussed that with her yet. It's very hard indeed.

If it's that hard maybe it's already too late for you heart-wise.

If it's not a heart-thing how come you can't take care of it otherwise than being with her...?! There are other ways if you just want an orgasm

Why does it have to be HER in other words???

I'm just asking...and the reason I'm asking is that if you've created some dream around her, then having sex with her isn't going to fulfill it...and if your getting attached to her emotionally then the more contact you have the worse it will get...AND NO COMMITMENT FROM HER...

I'd be very careful about assuming you could get her to leave her husband...

Oh and if she's cheating on him, then she won't stop cheating just because she's with you...even if you DO get her in the end...don't kid yourself about that...she'd have to change.

It could be you down the road that she's cheating on...how would you feel about that...?

I'm concerned that mentally you've got some dreams about her that aren't much like the reality and you ARE going to get really hurt if that's true...

love
Helen

 

[badazzwhitedude]

Helen, I am not persuing a relationship with this woman. I just want my own nice girl, really. But I cannot stand females many times. Most are the devil's right hand. They are crazy. And besides, I want a female around my age. She is 9 years older than me. This would only be for some attention and sexual gratification.

 

[CN1]

I think you should just load up about 6 sustanons and bang her pussy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The sun will still come up the next day, and you will still be in the same situation.........you get your piece and she gets hers!

 

[HelenSL]

Helen, I am not persuing a relationship with this woman. I just want my own nice girl, really. But I cannot stand females many times. Most are the devil's right hand. They are crazy. And besides, I want a female around my age. She is 9 years older than me. This would only be for some attention and sexual gratification.

Well, no offense but the situation seems rather ironic to me because evidently both of you have your own reasons for wanting to come together that aren't especially to do with the other person.

If physical intimacy DOES kinda bond people then you might both be in for a bit of a shock, perhaps - I mean, you might both get more than you bargained for, planned for.

Don't you have any dreams of someone to LOVE you??? That seems kinda weird to me. Or are you saying you've given up on that and this is the best you'll get -- for now at least -- so, may as well have a few orgasms care of some attractive hispanic woman since she is offering them to you???

It all sounds horribly unsatisfying to me...

love
Helen

 

[badazzwhitedude]

Don't you have any dreams of someone to LOVE you??? That seems kinda weird to me. Or are you saying you've given up on that and this is the best you'll get -- for now at least -- so, may as well have a few orgasms care of some attractive hispanic woman since she is offering them to you???

It all sounds horribly unsatisfying to me...

love
Helen

Absolutely. But like I said, most women are the devil's right hand. And that is the best I feel I will get for right now, at least 'till I get to the age when perhaps a few more women actually have a brain: late 20's, early 30's.

It's not what I really want. Some people would think this is great and they live for this shit. Not me, but it's better than nothing.

 

[badazzwhitedude]

I think you should just load up about 6 sustanons and bang her pussy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The sun will still come up the next day, and you will still be in the same situation.........you get your piece and she gets hers!

I am currently on Test/EQ.

By the way, Helen. I am curious. How do you feel about the use of anabolic steroids? Do you think it is wrong just because the government says so? Or do you belive it is better to able to make your own EDUCATED decisions on such matters? I know this is off topic, but I am just curious.

 

[Big Brother Val]

This really sucks, man. You have all these reasons to go after it... and a lot of reasons not to.

As you say... it's not really your thing... but it's helping you to feel good at least in SOME way. And that's better than feeling all around shitty.

The equation would be simple if she wasn't married.

I just can't respect a gal who would do that to her husband.... and I can't sleep with a gal I don't respect. If she had it so bad... she'd leave him. So it can't be THAT bad. She just may need some release. Get some nudie videos, whack it... and see what you think for the first half hour afterwards, when you aren't needing the attention.

If your interest is purely the sex, then I'm sure all parties involved would end up being hurt in one way or another. And I can't imagine sex being worth that. But at the same time, when you're really feeling down... ANYTHING seems better than feeling that way. Hard situation to be in, man.

 

[badazzwhitedude]

The equation would be simple if she wasn't married.

Exactly.