This married chick wants me...need advice

[Jeff_rys]

Helen quote you:

"Jeff it doesn't seem to be true of the one who started this thread that he's not interested in married women. Are you suggesting he lie to get her off his back? (I mean, it could work...was that what you meant?) "

Well as i see it, it is up to him. He should make up his mind what he wants. Anyway if she wants him, and he says no, then it will be someone else.
You know the saying: "what you don't find at home, you will find somewhere else".

I don't think Badazz only wants married women. Sometimes it is hard for a man to say no to a woman, certainly when she is a knock out. Bottom line is : it isn't his problem, her being married.

 

[Jeff_rys]

Re: Re: Don't tell her husband

He has the right to know that he married a trashy whore.

-Warik

Look Warik life is not that simple.
I am not addressing this to you personally, but i feel that in situations like this, younger people should have no say over it.
And it is not because she is married, that she is trash.

 

[KAYNE]

YOU HAVENT EVEN VIOLATED THIS CHICK YET AND HER HUSBAND IS CALLING YOU!!!

DUDE, SAVE YOURSELF THE HEADACHES AND LEAVE HER ALONE!!!


KAYNE

 

[HelenSL]

likewise Jeff

Well as i see it, it is up to him. He should make up his mind what he wants.

Hi Jeff

That makes a lot of sense to me.

I hope that he takes all the warnings on this thread into consideration in making his decision. People are serious in making them, as best I can tell, and they seem wise, to me.

I don't think Badazz only wants married women. Sometimes it is hard for a man to say no to a woman, certainly when she is a knock out. Bottom line is : it isn't his problem, her being married.

Do you mean:

a) Her being married and looking for sex outside her marriage is her problem not his (and therefore her husband ought to focus his attention on her not her lovers that she seduces)
-- or --
b) He has a problem and it is not that the woman he wants is married
-- or --
c) none of the above/all of the above/some of the above/something else entirely?

Call me stupid if you like but I really didn't understand what you meant by your 'bottom line' and since it's the 'bottom line' I would like to know... (if you would be so kind as to say more about it...)

love
Helen

 

[Big Brother Val]

Hey, bigman. Just found this thread as I wasn't at work much this week.

It looks like you got some temptation of your own. She sounds great. Beautiful, dark, and she wants to be with you in the most personal of ways. Sounds like something to jump at. I mean why not? What could possibly happen? Regret? Resentment? What happens if you end up really caring for her, and she won't leave her husband? Then what?

I know you got your ass kicked before, man. You and I are in similar boats on this one.

I personally think if you have the testicular fortitude to walk away from a gal that was very important to you, then you can handle anything.

Now I agree that people don't much give a damn about anyone anymore. But you yourself said you hate that, right? Why are women the way they are? Why do they need attention from other people? If you have that type of mindset... then how could you join that side of things?

What if you slept with her, then found out she was MY gal? And I posted saying she told me she slept with someone else? Would you feel bad then?

You've been very supportive with me through my whole ordeal. You really seem to understand my situation. I really don't want to see you do something you'll regret. I also don't want to see you join that side of the population. From telling me it has to be heartbreaking for my gal to treat me like that, yet destroy another guy by doing something worse than my gal is doing to me.... it's self-contradiction.

If she's going to leave her husband... wait until she or he moves out, and the divorce process is started. If not... you're just asking for a shitty situation.

I appreciate all your help and support, my friend. But don't be that guy. Don't be the guy that I fear. Don't be the guy that doesn't care. Whatever you do is your choice... I just hope you make the right one.

 

[Jeff_rys]

I see it like this Helen

She is the one wanting him and she is the one married.
If he should go for it, is up to him. Sometimes it can be very hard to say no even to a married woman.
Obviously she needs something more then just being married.
That does not mean she does not love her husband.
Now saying he should refuse is easy for us, we are not involved.
It is really not his problem, it will become his problem when the husband finds out afterwarts and cannot handle it. By that i mean, we don't know if it is her first time and we don't know if the husband knows all she does and has been doing. Afterall, the husband found the emails too easy. Also they already did come together doing what?

 

[HelenSL]

fair enough

thanks for explaining more Jeff. You are right. There is a lot we don't know. I hope, as I said, that the initiator of this thread will be able to make a more informed decision now. It certainly is his to make and not anyone else's.

Woody thanks and peace to you sir

love
Helen

 

[badazzwhitedude]

You make a good point Big Bro'. Like I said before, I always go out of my way big time for my good friends, and would never do anything like that. But when you are in a bad situation, and feel down, and shit happens time and again, it really gets to you man. I know it's kind of like quick fix, and that morally it's not correct.

I know I said I hate it the way women are and stuff in your thread. Playing games and whatnot. But if you are the nice guy, like I have been for the last while, you just lose man. I remember you said you have only been with 2 girls the past several years, as you stayed with each for quite some time. Man, I have dated several girls, and since I have been the nice guy, at least towards my girl (but I tend to have a fairly tough rep overall with a lot of people), you just lose. That's why "joining the ranks" of other people, so to speak.

Even Jeff Rys said it can be hard to say no, and it is. Especaily that I am a young guy (23), she is 32, which I would love to have her show me a few things. On top of that she is quite nice looking to boot. I have had sexual freinds before, and that is what I really feel like I need right now. I wish she wasn't a married chick, but that's how it worked out for me.

I wouldn't allow myself to develop any feeling for her. She is married, and I want someone around my age. You just have to "close your heart" to someone it isn't going to work out with long-term. Like I said, I have had a couple of sexual friends before, and it is a good find to have such a thing if you are single.

I have some time to think about it. I may end up feeling the urge and in need of some attention and go ahead and do it. But then again, I may just walk away from it. I will see how I feel and how things go in the next little while.

 

[Big Brother Val]

I hear you, man. Hopefully I didn't come accross as insulting or anything. And I totally agree with you and Jeff... it's ONE HELL of a temptation. Who wouldn't be tempted by it? ESPECIALLY when you're feeling down like you are.

I get tempted to get attention also. You know how I feel. I sometimes want so bad to feel appreciated. That's why I almost hit up the blond and her friend. Not because I cared for them... but because I wanted so bad to be appreciated... even if just in a physical way. So hell yeah... I'd be tempted too.

But I'm also tempted to rob a bank when my financial difficulties get really bad. I actually sometimes think of ways to get away with it. Not to be evil. Not to start a life of crime. But because it would help. But I don't because it's wrong... and I could go to prison. Good reasons not to do it.

And it sucks that nice guys finish last. Being nice and caring usually gets you stepped on, and wondering how the other person could care so little.

I'm sure the sex would be great. The attention would be great. Feeling good knowing that even though she has a man... she still wants you. It's a difficult internal conflict.

But in my opinion, unless the man is your enemy, you HAVE to consider him. Imagine what it would do to you if it was your wife. I know deep down you don't want to damage anyone. But you also don't want to be damaged. It's hard.

 

[Si|vio]

man are you people that inconsiderate?

don't bust up her marriage for nookie... the fuck is wrong with you?