this is a important question mainly for EF ladies.

[HighIntensity]

so no smart ass comments by the peanut gallery. I know the situation my sound childish, but

heres the question, I have been seeing this girl for about three weeks now. We are at the point of talking on the phone ED and being fairly intimate.

Now my last couple GF's just came into my life, I believe one of them I did ask "would you be my GF," but this was 5 years ago and she was 17. My Ex of three years we just never really said anything it was just BF and GF one day.

Now fast fowarding to the future, how do women like to be asked out. Do they need the whole are we BF GF., it sounds so third grade? Is it more like would you like to make this offical...That sounds so cold and impersional. It's just weird when you get older thinking about this stuff.

anythoughts.

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

Thrid grade may seem third grade to you, but it sounds cute and adorable to them (assuming you're dating a chick with some personality behind her eyes).

Just tell her you'd like to take it up a level, be exclusive, and see how far you two can go in time. Ask her if she's comfortable with that.

That's really all you have to do. The rest is up to her.

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

Third*


This keyboard shall pay a thousand fold for its insolence.

 

[HighIntensity]

thanks for all the impute

I tend to be very romantic, but I have already given her sunflowers last week and don't want to fall into the perverbial 2 much 2 soon trap. I just want it to be cute but simple.

 

[anabolicmd]

Why say anything? Just let her come up with the idea, you know she will sooner rather than later, girls alays do.

 

[Stangfriik]

Third*


This keyboard shall pay a thousand fold for its insolence.

Damn R and I keep keep switching places eh?

 

[HighIntensity]

Why say anything? Just let her come up with the idea, you know she will sooner rather than later, girls alays do.

true she did ask me out, but iv always thought this is part of the guys job? no.

 

[flexygrl]

When my husband and I made it official I brought it up. A girl A work was trying to fix me up with a guy she new. I told her that I was seeing someone and then I told him. We just started talking about how we are no longer seeing other people. Just let nature takes its course. It makes it more special! You will know when the time is right to bring it up.

 

[velvett]

Weird.

I can't ever remember having a discussion - I think the fact that our hips were glued together made it obvious that we were an item.

I knew my last beau was "the beau" when he had planned out our next three dates over our second date.


Although I think Spatts idea is most precious.

 

[flex123]

Hey HI. I totally understand were you are coming from about how things work. I truely have no idea how I would ask a girl to be my girlfriend either.

I was in the same boat as you, some of my relationships (HS ones) were just assumed. Start hanging out and nothinbg was ever really said. My last girl who I was with from 19 till recently, she is the one that eventually asked me after hanging out with me for a month or two.

If I got involved with another girl now I would probbly just hang out with them and wait till they bring up the whole relationship bf/gf thing. or just bring it up in a conversation about you to hanging out a lot or something. maybe tell her how much you're into her and that you think you guys would be good together and you think you should be together. That would probbly work if she wanted the same thing herself.

 

[HighIntensity]

Hey HI. I totally understand were you are coming from about how things work. I truely have no idea how I would ask a girl to be my girlfriend either.

I was in the same boat as you, some of my relationships (HS ones) were just assumed. Start hanging out and nothinbg was ever really said. My last girl who I was with from 19 till recently, she is the one that eventually asked me after hanging out with me for a month or two.

If I got involved with another girl now I would probbly just hang out with them and wait till they bring up the whole relationship bf/gf thing. or just bring it up in a conversation about you to hanging out a lot or something. maybe tell her how much you're into her and that you think you guys would be good together and you think you should be together. That would probbly work if she wanted the same thing herself.

yea bro I read your story...

this is the first girl I have really dated since the bad breakup, it's wonderful yet scary at the same time. Kinda like riding a bike it all comes back quickly...I really suppressed anytype of love in my life for a good year and a half.

 

[Drunken_Weasel]

Bitch.

 

[biteme]

I moved in with my ex-wife after our first date. I guess that pretty much solved the BF/GF issue. We had known each other a long time though, and as soon as she was set free, it's like it was meant to happen and we both knew it.

 

[presguy]

i usually dont ask or say anything regarding bf gf. after a while the girl will usually ask something like.........if i was to introduce you to a friend what would i say? then you say whatcha mean? then you can figure it from there.

 

[velvett]

I moved in with my ex-wife after our first date.

That should have been your first red flag.

 

[biteme]

That should have been your first red flag.

Why? We didn't have sex until 3 weeks later. She had always liked me and vice versa. I was in love with her after 2 weeks. She really was a good person in many ways. I don't know what happened to her.

 

[velvett]

Why? We didn't have sex until 3 weeks later. She had always liked me and vice versa. I was in love with her after 2 weeks. She really was a good person in many ways. I don't know what happened to her.

Have you heard the term, "where fools rush in"?

To each their own.


I personally think that is crazy. Even if you were friends for years - being romantically involved is completely different and moving in together after one date is well....impulsive - IMO

 

[biteme]

Have you heard the term, "where fools rush in"?

To each their own.


I personally think that is crazy. Even if you were friends for years - being romantically involved is completely different and moving in together after one date is well....impulsive - IMO

We will agree to disagree. It worked out great for many years and then the bottom fell out as it does in so many marriages.

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

I have lived with every gf I have ever had the day we started dating.

The first one lasted two years before a trust insufficiency forced my hand to end it. The second lasted no longer once I had sex with her. Incompatible on every level. The latest and seemingly last hasn't let me down in any capacity, and has surprised me in most.

 

[Lumberg]

thanks for all the impute

<sniggle>

 

[-SD-]

I moved in with my ex-wife after our first date. I guess that pretty much solved the BF/GF issue. We had known each other a long time though, and as soon as she was set free, it's like it was meant to happen and we both knew it.

That may be part of the reason she is your ex now, huh?

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

Damn R and I keep keep switching places eh?

My keyboard pauses its transmissions at times. I think it's because I do keystrokes with fingertips like I'm trying to crack and iron plate, like in those cool, old Kung Fu movies.

 

[biteme]

That may be part of the reason she is your ex now, huh?

Easy for you people to sit back and judge. It doesn't mean you're right.