Think I know a 31 yr old closet gay man

[musclemom]

Should I tell him I suspect so?
I heard people told him before and he denied.

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Anything I should do?

I appreciate and respect him a lot.

1. NOBODY is truly, PURELY straight. We all fall along a continuum.

2. IMO, someone finding gay porn erotic has nothing to do with "gayness." Think of it this way, if a guy is watching porn is it ever PURELY lesbian porn??? Why are facials and cum shots so big in porn ... c'mon. Who wants to watch a porn star with a teeny weenie?

3. His sexuality is really none of your business. If he needs therapy to address his depression only he can make that decision. If he's not interested in being involved with "attractive" women that's not really your problem unless he's trying to get you to play wingman and sending some nasty hookups your way.

4. If you respect and/or like him and/or care for him, would you feel any differently about him knowing he's gay? or not, for that matter? What's the difference, would you interact with him differently, respect him any less???

I thought Europe was progressive, even permissive.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Here's how I'd break it down:

There's a chance he's straight and a little fucked in the head about sex. Some grow up that way. There's also a decent chance he's gay, or perhaps this-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual

 

[rnch]

dude.............mind your own goddamn business already.

 

[wootoom]

hiatussin more gay talk man. whats up? i think u should confront him with ur tool

 

[Hiatussin]

1. NOBODY is truly, PURELY straight. We all fall along a continuum.

true. not very relevant

2. IMO, someone finding gay porn erotic has nothing to do with "gayness." Think of it this way, if a guy is watching porn is it ever PURELY lesbian porn??? Why are facials and cum shots so big in porn ... c'mon. Who wants to watch a porn star with a teeny weenie?

It was not gay porn. It was a gay dating site, in his language, based in his town, coming up as a suggestion on the address bar.

4. If you respect and/or like him and/or care for him, would you feel any differently about him knowing he's gay? or not, for that matter? What's the difference, would you interact with him differently, respect him any less???

No I would not. I´m actually fairly sure and I still like him.

I thought Europe was progressive, even permissive.

I am not Europe.

 

[hotzie]

just tell him that you want to fuck him and save yourself some embarrasement



btw i hope if you do tell him he knocks your teeth out for being a dumbass

 

[starfish]

dude.............mind your own goddamn business already.

I agree. If he is gay, maybe he has reasons for keepingit private, especially in the work place. Not because he is "ashamed' but because people can't be nice....I have a gay brother and I've seen many sides of the coming out thing with his friends....people can be just plain nasty with how they act, fag comments etc.


Maybe he is bisexual....anyway. Who cares.

 

[big4life]

Should I tell him I suspect so?
I heard people told him before and he denied.

He´s 31, takes great effort to look good, has low bf and lifts and runs, eats well. Never been in a serious relationship. hundreds of one night stands with ugly women. Even says he prefers ugly ones, less hassle. Has bouts of depression and is generally cynical.

He´s got two masters degrees. has still to work a day in his life, although he made some money off books he translated for fun and language practice.

Anything I should do?

I appreciate and respect him a lot.

You do realize that you just described 98.7% of the men on elite, except for the dating ugly women part, they only go after 9's or 10's.

 

[biteme]

1. NOBODY is truly, PURELY straight. We all fall along a continuum.

I agree with you usually, but not here. I have 0% gayness in my blood.

 

[biteme]

Although I do like it when certain men touch me out of affection and genuine care. Definitely no sexual feelings though.