The numbers game

[fyxgel2]

I know that a lot of people who are into the whole "picking up chicks" thing, and this is a method they suggest.

they suggest that one should just go and ask out every hot girl they run into, this way they are bound to eventually get a date.
play the numbers game. you are bound to get a girl, if you go out and try many many many times.

The idea is to be 'fearless' and not be afraid of 'rejection'.


However I see a problem with this idea. Couldnt it backfire? couldnt it make you look like a loser, for getting turned down so many times.
Couldnt it lower your level of confidence, by having gotten turned down many times, so that when you ask girls out in the future it would be worse because they would see you as less confident?
I mean, u gotta protect that ego, and not get rejected too much right?
so all in all, wouldnt u want to be pretty sure a girl was going to say yes, before you asked her out on a date?

lets hear some thoughts fellas.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=336833
I posted how my night transpired for you, since we talked about int he otehr thread my plans for last night.

No, if you get in the habit of asking girls out, and learning to strike up conversations with the, eventually it will become so easy, even if you get rejected and make an ass out of yourself the first few times, that you will no longer be nervous doing it. Stop over analyzing this, and just go out and do it. As long as you keep talking yourself out of it, you are going to stay right where you are.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

You're better looking then me. Unless your standards are incredibly high, I think you'll get lucky with one, especially if there's alcohol involved.

Couldnt it backfire?

What can't?
Your OCD is off the hizzle....

 

[Deleted member 33117]

You're better looking then me. Unless your standards are incredibly high, I think you'll get lucky with one, especially if there's alcohol involved.

What can't?
Your OCD is off the hizzle....

Yep. My advice, for him it to pop a xanex tonight, to calm his nerves and deal with his anxiety disorders, wake up mellow, and ask out every girl he sees tomarrow.

 

[crew9]

Your OCD is off the hizzle....

fo shizzle my ulcasternizzle

 

[jackangel]

and daddy doesn't understand it
he always said she was good as gold
and he can see no reasons
'cause there are no reasons
what reason do you need to die...die...ooooh

 

[awittyusername]

I know that a lot of people who are into the whole "picking up chicks" thing, and this is a method they suggest.

they suggest that one should just go and ask out every hot girl they run into, this way they are bound to eventually get a date.
play the numbers game. you are bound to get a girl, if you go out and try many many many times.

The idea is to be 'fearless' and not be afraid of 'rejection'.


However I see a problem with this idea. Couldnt it backfire? couldnt it make you look like a loser, for getting turned down so many times.
Couldnt it lower your level of confidence, by having gotten turned down many times, so that when you ask girls out in the future it would be worse because they would see you as less confident?
I mean, u gotta protect that ego, and not get rejected too much right?
so all in all, wouldnt u want to be pretty sure a girl was going to say yes, before you asked her out on a date?

lets hear some thoughts fellas.

You are correct about everything. Except the Hot chick part. DON'T START OUT WITH A HOT CHICK.

Before, you remind us you are a christian and its wrong blah blah blah. Remember.

1. The girl is doing the same thing to you. She's working her way up the food chain also. (unless, you think shes at home every night dreaming of being w/flxyge2 forever)

2. You are not going to marry the first girl you meet, so just relax and get to know people.

3. You are going to do something stupid to F it up. (everyone does) So, you may as well learn how to deal w/chicks on someone who is not your dream girl.

 

[theoak01]

? couldnt it make you look like a loser, for getting turned down so many times.
.

who is gonna know you asked but the two fo you right? just man the fuck up and do it bro,things will go smooth once you get in the groove

 

[Deleted member 33117]

You are correct about everything. Except the Hot chick part. DON'T START OUT WITH A HOT CHICK.

Before, you remind us you are a christian and its wrong blah blah blah. Remember.

1. The girl is doing the same thing to you. She's working her way up the food chain also. (unless, you think shes at home every night dreaming of being w/flxyge2 forever)

2. You are not going to marry the first girl you meet, so just relax and get to know people.

3. You are going to do something stupid to F it up. (everyone does) So, you may as well learn how to deal w/chicks on someone who is not your dream girl.

Solid post to the kid...we'll yours have been as of late... too bad he does not listen to you.

 

[jackangel]

question is, when will y'all realize that you've said the same thing enough times already, and it's just a waste. granted, we all enjoy seeing ourselves 'in print', especially those of us who fancy ourselves intelligent, good writers, and able to give good advice. but even that grows tired after a certain amount of time. assuming he's a real character, he's not a bad guy, and you don't have to hate on him or insult him (too much), but you should still recognize something that just ain't working.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

question is, when will y'all realize that you've said the same thing enough times already, and it's just a waste. granted, we all enjoy seeing ourselves 'in print', especially those of us who fancy ourselves intelligent, good writers, and able to give good advice. but even that grows tired after a certain amount of time. assuming he's a real character, he's not a bad guy, and you don't have to hate on him or insult him (too much), but you should still recognize something that just ain't working.

An angle I have not considered. The possibility that he is not real. Unless there reason to believe otherwise, I tend to give people on here the benefit of the doubt on them presenting their real persona, or at least an aspect of it. Then again, I'm a very trusting person, often to my own detriment.

 

[crew9]

An angle I have not considered. The possibility that he is not real. Unless there reason to believe otherwise, I tend to give people on here the benefit of the doubt on them presenting their real persona, or at least an aspect of it. Then again, I'm a very trusting person, often to my own detriment.

He has to be real. For someone to play a character like this so well is just blahhakjdf

 

[awittyusername]

question is, when will y'all realize that you've said the same thing enough times already, and it's just a waste. granted, we all enjoy seeing ourselves 'in print', especially those of us who fancy ourselves intelligent, good writers, and able to give good advice. but even that grows tired after a certain amount of time. assuming he's a real character, he's not a bad guy, and you don't have to hate on him or insult him (too much), but you should still recognize something that just ain't working.

Agreed. Its like Bran said about all flxygel2 threads we just flock to them. And, its always the same results. I have only 600 post and I think 400 is to flxygel2. Its like I can't stop.

At first, I thought he was an alter. But, he kept playing the role of a niave christian boy so well. ???? He is either real. Or, the person who created flxygel2 is a genious.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Agreed. Its like Bran said about all flxygel2 threads we just flock to them. And, its always the same results. I have only 600 post and I think 400 is to flxygel2. Its like I can't stop.

At first, I thought he was an alter. But, he kept playing the role of a niave christian boy so well. ???? He is either real. Or, the person who created flxygel2 is a genious.

Agreed.

 

[fyxgel2]

Okay, just got back...

I think you guys are missing the point to this thread. I know that rejection will always be an issue with every girl you face. Its just like it is with jobs. You cant ever know 'for sure' that you are going to get a job, unless someone gives it to you or you ask.
What I'm questioning is not whether I should ask girls out, (for I know that needs to be done if one day you eventually want to have a girlfriend)
But what I'm questioning is the notion of asking out every girl that you are attracted to. I mean that's a lot of girls, and a lot of possible rejections?

Wouldnt it be better to limit your asking out of girls, to when the odds will be more so in your favor (like with girls you know better, or stuff like that?)
That way your confidence doesnt get trampled. Say you ask out a 100 girls, at 3 say yes. Granted 3 said yes, but 97 still said no, and that doesnt feel very good.

Suppose you ask out only 10, (ones that u were friends with and knew they were single) and 7 of them say yes. Your confidence would be higher as a result, since you had 70% success in your results instead of 3%. So instead of looking like an unconfident douschbag in front of the next lady you ask out, you instead are a confident man that knows he's had a high percentage of success before.

I dont know whats better. To ask out more girls, and have more options, or to preserve your self esteem, by limiting your asking to girls that are more likely to say yes.


PS:
By the way, I would agree that sometimes I tend to repeat myself, but as a whole my threads are usually about different things, its just that its relating to the same topic: girls. So give me a little benefit eh, and stop telling me that I just ask the same question over and over again. Sorry, I dont mean to be rude, I'm just sayin... I'm not a complete idiot.

 

[RADAR]

Damn! Will this ever happen.........................................

Dude quit analyzing and do something.

RADAR

 

[crew9]

Okay, just got back...

I think you guys are missing the point to this thread. I know that rejection will always be an issue with every girl you face. Its just like it is with jobs. You cant ever know 'for sure' that you are going to get a job, unless someone gives it to you or you ask.
What I'm questioning is not whether I should ask girls out, (for I know that needs to be done if one day you eventually want to have a girlfriend)
But what I'm questioning is the notion of asking out every girl that you are attracted to. I mean that's a lot of girls, and a lot of possible rejections?

Wouldnt it be better to limit your asking out of girls, to when the odds will be more so in your favor (like with girls you know better, or stuff like that?)
That way your confidence doesnt get trampled. Say you ask out a 100 girls, at 3 say yes. Granted 3 said yes, but 97 still said no, and that doesnt feel very good.

Suppose you ask out only 10, (ones that u were friends with and knew they were single) and 7 of them say yes. Your confidence would be higher as a result, since you had 70% success in your results instead of 3%. So instead of looking like an unconfident douschbag in front of the next lady you ask out, you instead are a confident man that knows he's had a high percentage of success before.

I dont know whats better. To ask out more girls, and have more options, or to preserve your self esteem, by limiting your asking to girls that are more likely to say yes.


PS:
By the way, I would agree that sometimes I tend to repeat myself, but as a whole my threads are usually about different things, its just that its relating to the same topic: girls. So give me a little benefit eh, and stop telling me that I just ask the same question over and over again. Sorry, I dont mean to be rude, I'm just sayin... I'm not a complete idiot.

I've got an idea. Why don't you go test your own hypothesis. That way your question will be answered and then you can tell us.

PS: How do you think the people giving you advice learned what they're preaching? They went out and they tried and they got experience. Some good some bad but experience none the less. Something you can't get online. No matter how many questions you ask or topics you start. The ONLY thing that will help you is getting off your ass and doing it yourself.

 

[MAX 300]

More importantly than advice on how to get laid, could somebody tell me how I can stop that terrible itch I got in my ass right now?

Oh wait, don't answer that!

 

[ringperm]

and daddy doesn't understand it
he always said she was good as gold
and he can see no reasons
'cause there are no reasons
what reason do you need to die...die...ooooh

Somthing tells me you don't like mondays

 

[-SD-]

When we say to go out and ask out every women you are attracted to, you just dont go up to her like a monkey with no game and ask her out. You gotta have good intentions and actually throw game at her instead of saying to yourself "there will be 50 more girls I ask out this month so I dont care how I approach this girl since she is one in a long line of many". That is a sure way to get rejected over and over and over again. Its like a baseball player that knows hes going to be at bat a 1000 times and every time he goes to the plate he doesnt try to hit the ball. He will strike out way more times that way and of course his confidence will be low. But if the player goes to the plate and actually tries to hit the ball every time, if he hits 3/10 life time then he is in the hall of fame. Same thing with girls, you know you are going to ask out a ton of them to get experience, but you need to have the goal of actually going out with each one you ask, not just blindly setting yourself up for rejection for the sake of gaining experience. So, yes, ask out a ton of women, but dont do it half assed and set yourself up for rejection just for the sake of gaining experience.

 

[Tryn2]

I didnt read this thread so I have no clue what everyone says.
But you either got it or you dont. Im not being mean but you can maybe polish it up and get a little better but it wont change 100%.
Just be yourself. If you get the hot chics great if you dont you will atleast be happy and not faking it. I have friends that complain all the time about not talking to the hottedt chics in the room. If they would just shut the fuck up for a sec and talk to somebody they would be alot better off....
Oh and I saw some hotties last night.......If this chic would get up out of my bed I could be knapping right now instead of typing away. See I think Im still drunk so I have to keep retyping over all these mistakes.....
Anyhow The only thing that makes hot chics different is nothing so dont make it too complicated.....

 

[sigweed]

well said, and thats a great analogy
fxygel, listen to the guy and just do it

start low, approach 2 or 3 girls on the first night, whie their friends are in the bathroom or something, just say hi and talk to them like you would another guy (minus the machismo)
jesus is with you!

When we say to go out and ask out every women you are attracted to, you just dont go up to her like a monkey with no game and ask her out. You gotta have good intentions and actually throw game at her instead of saying to yourself "there will be 50 more girls I ask out this month so I dont care how I approach this girl since she is one in a long line of many". That is a sure way to get rejected over and over and over again. Its like a baseball player that knows hes going to be at bat a 1000 times and every time he goes to the plate he doesnt try to hit the ball. He will strike out way more times that way and of course his confidence will be low. But if the player goes to the plate and actually tries to hit the ball every time, if he hits 3/10 life time then he is in the hall of fame. Same thing with girls, you know you are going to ask out a ton of them to get experience, but you need to have the goal of actually going out with each one you ask, not just blindly setting yourself up for rejection for the sake of gaining experience. So, yes, ask out a ton of women, but dont do it half assed and set yourself up for rejection just for the sake of gaining experience.

 

[fyxgel2]

When we say to go out and ask out every women you are attracted to, you just dont go up to her like a monkey with no game and ask her out. You gotta have good intentions and actually throw game at her instead of saying to yourself "there will be 50 more girls I ask out this month so I dont care how I approach this girl since she is one in a long line of many". That is a sure way to get rejected over and over and over again. Its like a baseball player that knows hes going to be at bat a 1000 times and every time he goes to the plate he doesnt try to hit the ball. He will strike out way more times that way and of course his confidence will be low. But if the player goes to the plate and actually tries to hit the ball every time, if he hits 3/10 life time then he is in the hall of fame. Same thing with girls, you know you are going to ask out a ton of them to get experience, but you need to have the goal of actually going out with each one you ask, not just blindly setting yourself up for rejection for the sake of gaining experience. So, yes, ask out a ton of women, but dont do it half assed and set yourself up for rejection just for the sake of gaining experience.

This is an excellent analogy (baseball),

And I find this to be good advice.

Thank you, very much.

EDIT: thought of something else to say too. your analogy is good because it works like the way it does in life. if you are at bat, and you dont swing, you miss that opportunity. granted you didnt swing and miss, but you still missed it. and you have to bear that burden.
same way it is with girls. if you dont try, you are still striking out, to tell yourself otherwise is to deceive yourself.

and in baseball, in order to get better, you have to not be so down about how much you suck when you first go out there to play, because the purpose is to get better. who cares if your first season sucks, you have a lifetime to improve, and you cant let that those first few games or even the first season for that matter, bother you.

if you let your early failures prevent you from being successful later on in life, you perhaps are carrying one of the most damaging attitudes you possibly can be.
you can change that attitude for a better one. or maybe switch into a lower league if you absolutely have to.

 

[-SD-]

or maybe switch into a lower league if you absolutely have to.

Dont have that option of switching into a lower league in your mind otherwise you will have it as a safety net and an excuse to not do well in the big leagues.

 

[fyxgel2]

Dont have that option of switching into a lower league in your mind otherwise you will have it as a safety net and an excuse to not do well in the big leagues.

you should definately try to get into the big leagues,

but lets face is, not everyone has the ability to become a Barry Bonds.

But people do have the ability to do a lot better than they originally could, through betterment by practice and improvement.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Flexygel, agreed, try to get into the big leagues, but spend a few months in teh little league, working your way up. Now, get out and start asking girls out first thing monday morning. This is our task. If you come back and tell us tomarrow night you asked out less than 3 girls... you failed your mission.

Anywho, i ahve to go shower and shave... have a fuck buddy on her way over...good night.

 

[fyxgel2]

Flexygel, agreed, try to get into the big leagues, but spend a few months in teh little league, working your way up. Now, get out and start asking girls out first thing monday morning. This is our task. If you come back and tell us tomarrow night you asked out less than 3 girls... you failed your mission.

Anywho, i ahve to go shower and shave... have a fuck buddy on her way over...good night.

lol, you make a good mentor.

I will try my best to succeed tomorrow.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

lol, you make a good mentor.

I will try my best to succeed tomorrow.

Ok, I'm free to type on the computer now. Orb, there is no try. There is only do or do not.

 

[-SD-]

"fuck buddy on the way over"
nice touch for the kid here, rob lol

 

[Deleted member 33117]

"fuck buddy on the way over"
nice touch for the kid here, rob lol

Well, I really did, but yeah it was a nice touch for him, and that's why I mentioned it.

 

[-SD-]

Well, I really did, but yeah it was a nice touch for him, and that's why I mentioned it.

Im actually starting to get tired of things like booty calls. Ive had so many that Im only going to take them from top shelf ass. Its like Id rather jerk off then go through the hassle of a booty call with just an average piece of ass. fxygel must think Im insane lol

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Im actually starting to get tired of things like booty calls. Ive had so many that Im only going to take them from top shelf ass. Its like Id rather jerk off then go through the hassle of a booty call with just an average piece of ass. fxygel must think Im insane lol

Hell no, the girl who just came over gives great head, and even gave me a massage afterwards. Besides, there is no hassal. I just have to call her ahead of time and let her know I want her to come over.

Last night I turned one down at that party, because she was one of Kristy's firends, and I still want to keep her on the backburner in case she decides she is interested in a relationship with me. Chick did not want to take no for an answer, and grabbed me and was making out with me where Kristy could see me (I was pretty drunk so didn't stop her for a minute)... I walked away though and sat down by a friend and chatted for a few. Guess that all started in good fun, snice the girls were taking turns grabbing my ass after one of them was compairing asses on guys and said mine was the best one she grabbed. But yeah, I felt pretty uncomfortable with this girl doing that in front of a girl I am trying to get with, especailly when she was grabing my dick and saying she wanted me to fuck her. It didn't help taht I had a bit too much to drink and was kissing ehr for a minute or so before I realized what was going on. Well...that's my story at least...and I'm sticking too it on that one...

 

[awittyusername]

Im actually starting to get tired of things like booty calls. Ive had so many that Im only going to take them from top shelf ass. Its like Id rather jerk off then go through the hassle of a booty call with just an average piece of ass. fxygel must think Im insane lol

I feel the same way as you. Except I gave up on the top shelf ass. Its usually too much of a pain in the ass or its too easy to get P-whipped.

 

[-SD-]

Hell no, the girl who just came over gives great head, and even gave me a massage afterwards. Besides, there is no hassal. I just have to call her ahead of time and let her know I want her to come over.

Last night I turned one down at that party, because she was one of Kristy's firends, and I still want to keep her on the backburner in case she decides she is interested in a relationship with me. Chick did not want to take no for an answer, and grabbed me and was making out with me where Kristy could see me (I was pretty drunk so didn't stop her for a minute)... I walked away though and sat down by a friend and chatted for a few. Guess that all started in good fun, snice the girls were taking turns grabbing my ass after one of them was compairing asses on guys and said mine was the best one she grabbed. But yeah, I felt pretty uncomfortable with this girl doing that in front of a girl I am trying to get with, especailly when she was grabing my dick and saying she wanted me to fuck her. It didn't help taht I had a bit too much to drink and was kissing ehr for a minute or so before I realized what was going on. Well...that's my story at least...and I'm sticking too it on that one...

bwaahaaaa, interesting life youve carved out for yourself.

 

[fyxgel2]

Ok, I'm free to type on the computer now. Orb, there is no try. There is only do or do not.

fuck yoda. I aim to do it, but i cant guarantee it. (cuz I aim to do a lot of things in life, and I guess I am just not superhuman)