The more you push someone away.....

[Freak Show]

the closer you actually draw them to you.

my friend and i have been doing "research" in this area for a few years now and we think we finally have conclusive evidence that this theory is 100% true. Its amazing how many times we have been dicks to girls or told them "hey, i can't commit right now." or something like that. It never fails, the moment that happens, BLAM-O!!! they're all over us like stink on a monkey. its almost scary how well this works. here's a quick example:
i start chatting with this girl at my gym. she's a cutie, seemed cool, so we hung out a bit. very casual, usually with friends. one day i knew i better tell her that i was seeing someone and wasn't sure if we could take it any further. what did she do? grabbed me and plants one on me. for weeks she was calling me every day, doing everything she could to win my affection.
There is a flip side to this coin. i am now in a relationship with a girl who is unwilling to take things further at the moment. now i find myself doin the same shit i saw girls do for years. unreal.

is this "new" or a "revolutionary" theory? hardly. but its unbelievable how many times it happens this way.

 

[Bobber]

Everyone has their breaking point and once it is reached the attention and futile attempts at "winning" what they can't have go out the window. Good luck with your chick.

 

[Ceebs]

"We pursue that which retreats from us." (Ever see The Tao of Steve?)

 

[Freak Show]

"We pursue that which retreats from us." (Ever see The Tao of Steve?)

Can't say that i saw it, but it about sums up my post perfectly.

is it the challenge alone or maybe something else? Sometimes i think that's what it is( the challenge). that's why i never gave in to these girls who tried so damn hard. i figured, once they got me, the mystery and fun would be over and then we'd realize there was nothing real holding us together.

 

[Bobber]

figured, once they got me, the mystery and fun would be over and then we'd realize there was nothing real holding us together.

Oh how fucking true that is!!!!!!!!

 

[HS Lifter]

I think that apllies to girls with serious baggage and issues.

Well at least not all girls.

Because if I said something like that to the girl im seeing now.

She would be like "Ok bye"

And we would never talk again.

 

[plornive]

I think that apllies to girls with serious baggage and issues.

Well at least not all girls.

Because if I said something like that to the girl im seeing now.

She would be like "Ok bye"

And we would never talk again.

It sounds like she is the one that is "pulling away".

If she said, "ok bye", would you chase after her? That is the question.

 

[Lestat]

"We pursue that which retreats from us." (Ever see The Tao of Steve?)

That is a great movie!

Not because I think this Taoisms were all gospel, that movie just had a great feel to it, really well done.

 

[bullett]

Probably related to how competitive someone is... I suspect that a good looking girl who frequents the gym a lot is at least somewhat competitive, and therefore probably views it as a challenge.

 

[Bullit]

I think that apllies to girls with serious baggage and issues.
Well at least not all girls.
Because if I said something like that to the girl im seeing now.
She would be like "Ok bye"
And we would never talk again.

I agree HSL.

Unfortunately I think that there are no girls with baggage and issues here cuz they all say "Ok bye" to me.

PROPS TO CHIX WITH BAGGAGE AND ISSUES!!!

 

[HS Lifter]

lol.

Plornive-No I wouldnt chase after her, if i noticed things arent going so well, I would give one or two more calls, and depending on those calls, it would make or break the reltionship.

My point is that for the girls the like to play games/fucked in the head, it works.

But with sane, intelligent girls, If you were to say "Im seeing someone else" or some crap like that. They would know better not to continue the reltionship.

And they would promptly move on.

 

[Bullit]

Honestly I agree HSL.

Its way too easy for chicks to get guys. If you push em away they just go "Allrighty then...NEXT" and there is another broly there for her.
I can't see the 'push away' technique working unless they are really into you.

 

[HS Lifter]

Honestly I agree HSL.

Its way too easy for chicks to get guys. If you push em away they just go "Allrighty then...NEXT" and there is another broly there for her.
I can't see the 'push away' technique working unless they are really into you.

Good points.

And living in California, theres a shitload of compettion.

Everywhere I go it seems like theres 11 guys to one girl.(dunno if its like this everywhere)

From clubs, to malls, to school, to parties. Theres always a shitload of guys.

I guess they key is to seperate yourself from the pack.

But I havent found that key yet..and probably never will.

 

[Bullit]

Everywhere I go it seems like theres 11 guys to one girl.(dunno if its like this everywhere)

From clubs, to malls, to school, to parties. Theres always a shitload of guys.

LOL.... its EXACLTY the same here! My friends and I complain about this all the time.
WTF is up with that? I guess its an international phenomena. Do most girls just hate going out... and I dont mean just to clubs/parties?

Worst Ive ever seen tho is Vegas. The ratio in Vegas sucks TheProjectballs.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

I think it all depends on the girl, and the attraction level, but overall, a more challenge-inducing person is going to be more of an interest to pursue.