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Frackal
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polarpixie said:
Ya, I'd love my girl even if she was 300 lbs, but I sure as hell wouldn't fuck her or look at her naked.
the issue of WEIGHT.. with a chick.. how do you address it? do you?
Ya, I'd love my girl even if she was 300 lbs, but I sure as hell wouldn't fuck her or look at her naked.
polarpixie
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madbomber31 said:
Sounds like you do understand to me!
See....I think most guys who say things like that don't put themselves in the woman's shoes...what if the girl you were with wasn't too happy with the way you looked? Wouldn't you be thinking...screw that!! Which brings to the next point with what Frackal says:Frackal said:
Which....HAHAHAHHAHA!!! That was funny, seriiously!
Although I suppose that's the thing ---- to let you know into a secret about how girls think ------ just knowing that you would love them even if they were makes them feel secure enough and happy enough to want to be the best they can be.....not always the case, but...usually it is!!! Honestly, sometimes girls unconsiously let themseleves go to test their guy...see, what they'd do, you know? But, I mean honestly, who the hell really wants to be 300 lbs?!?!?!?!
Taps
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Dude you'd better be in killer shape if you're ready to say all this. I hate guys with beer guts always complaining how fat their wives are. 
First, go buy your girl some flowers or something. Give her a hug and apologize for being a dick. Sound sincere when you do this...
Tell here that you didn't mean to insinuate that she's fat; be sure to mention that you love the way she looks. Tell her about how great you feel becuase you have a healthy lifestyle, and you just wanted her to feel the same way.
Now, if it's really important to you that she get in shape--tell her. Say "I need to live healthy, work out, etc. I also need a partner who's into that as well."
Ultimately, if you're so superficial (no flame, just callin it as I see it) that you need a perfect girl...well, be prepared to break things off.
First, go buy your girl some flowers or something. Give her a hug and apologize for being a dick. Sound sincere when you do this...
Tell here that you didn't mean to insinuate that she's fat; be sure to mention that you love the way she looks. Tell her about how great you feel becuase you have a healthy lifestyle, and you just wanted her to feel the same way.
Now, if it's really important to you that she get in shape--tell her. Say "I need to live healthy, work out, etc. I also need a partner who's into that as well."
Ultimately, if you're so superficial (no flame, just callin it as I see it) that you need a perfect girl...well, be prepared to break things off.
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plifter
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Does she have a brother? If so then have her brother tell her she's a lard ass. That way she gets the point and you aren't blamed for anything. Pretty clever, eh!
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OK I was going to just pass this thread by and not say anything....but Plifter dude - WHAT IS UP WITH THAT?! You know, I never said ANYTHING NEGATIVE ABOUT YOU ON ANY THREAD (I am not calling you out now, either...but DUDE YOU REALLY PISSED ME OFF!). WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU TO TALK ABOUT LARD ASSES?!!?!?!?!!! OBVIOUSLY you DO NOT have a sister who calls YOU A LARD ASS with a SAD PHYSIQUE....perhaps you should GET ONE!
Why is it that the guys who have THE CRAPPIEST PHYSIQUES are the ones to down a chick?!
MadB - You know I love you baby and I understand your question. The truth of the matter is that no matter WHAT YOU WANT for your girl - if SHE DOES NOT WANT IT......IT AIN'T HAPPENING!!!! On top of that, if you have a "problem" (not calling you a schmuck - I think that you were just being honest) with the way she looks now.....what will you do in time when the color starts to leave her cheeks, fine lines start to show and her breasts head south?
What I am trying to say is that if SHE is not inspired enough by YOU and your lifestyle to ask questions and try to emulate it THEN FORGET IT! If she is satisfied with her appearance then THERE ISN'T A MOTHERFUCKING THING THAT YOU CAN DO!!!!
So you have a decision to make. Either sit back and accept her the way she is or pretty much break it off now.
My ex NEVER made a comment about my weight OR my appearance (until the last 2 years or so when we were pretty much living to make each other miserable ANYWAYS so it doesn't really count). I ALWAYS wanted to look as appealing as possible to him so that he would not stray..... WE HAD FOUR KIDS. How UNNAPPEALING DO YOU THINK I LOOKED AFTER GIVING BIRTH?!....'tweren't pretty!!!
If she asks for your advice, give it and be supportive of her efforts, if not then THE ONLY THING THAT YOU CAN DO IS GRIN AND BEAR IT.
OK, rant over.
Why is it that the guys who have THE CRAPPIEST PHYSIQUES are the ones to down a chick?!
MadB - You know I love you baby and I understand your question. The truth of the matter is that no matter WHAT YOU WANT for your girl - if SHE DOES NOT WANT IT......IT AIN'T HAPPENING!!!! On top of that, if you have a "problem" (not calling you a schmuck - I think that you were just being honest) with the way she looks now.....what will you do in time when the color starts to leave her cheeks, fine lines start to show and her breasts head south?
What I am trying to say is that if SHE is not inspired enough by YOU and your lifestyle to ask questions and try to emulate it THEN FORGET IT! If she is satisfied with her appearance then THERE ISN'T A MOTHERFUCKING THING THAT YOU CAN DO!!!!
So you have a decision to make. Either sit back and accept her the way she is or pretty much break it off now.
My ex NEVER made a comment about my weight OR my appearance (until the last 2 years or so when we were pretty much living to make each other miserable ANYWAYS so it doesn't really count). I ALWAYS wanted to look as appealing as possible to him so that he would not stray..... WE HAD FOUR KIDS. How UNNAPPEALING DO YOU THINK I LOOKED AFTER GIVING BIRTH?!....'tweren't pretty!!!
If she asks for your advice, give it and be supportive of her efforts, if not then THE ONLY THING THAT YOU CAN DO IS GRIN AND BEAR IT.
OK, rant over.
I remember a thread just like this already...I had to check the dates to see if it was the old one come back again...
Well anyway, it's no fun to be loved only for your appearance although that is rather exalted here...maybe somewhat justifiably it being a fitness board; maybe not.
You can figure that people don't actually want to be fat and most of them already know if they are a bit overweight.
Although your idea of 'ideal weight' may not actually be the most natural weight for someone anyhow, madbomber
I guess if you care about someone's feelings more than whether they look how you think they ought to look you are going to say less rather than more about their weight.
If she brought it up though, she rather asked for it
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Helen
Well anyway, it's no fun to be loved only for your appearance although that is rather exalted here...maybe somewhat justifiably it being a fitness board; maybe not.
You can figure that people don't actually want to be fat and most of them already know if they are a bit overweight.
Although your idea of 'ideal weight' may not actually be the most natural weight for someone anyhow, madbomber
I guess if you care about someone's feelings more than whether they look how you think they ought to look you are going to say less rather than more about their weight.
If she brought it up though, she rather asked for it
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Helen
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plifter
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Bikini, chill out ho. Couldn't you tell I was joking? I don't have a bad physique either.
Milhouse
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Appeal to her higher cause.
What I mean is say something like,
"You know sweetheart, I love you with all my heart and want to spend my life with you. But I worry about you because you are diabetic and dont take care of yourself physically which is just as important as watching what you eat when diabetic. You are so beautiful and I think you have great genetics for working out and all I want is to share this activity I love so much with you. This is a great outlet we can do together and we can be a wonderful example for our future family. I think you understand what I am saying now, don't you?"
Hope that helps.
What I mean is say something like,
"You know sweetheart, I love you with all my heart and want to spend my life with you. But I worry about you because you are diabetic and dont take care of yourself physically which is just as important as watching what you eat when diabetic. You are so beautiful and I think you have great genetics for working out and all I want is to share this activity I love so much with you. This is a great outlet we can do together and we can be a wonderful example for our future family. I think you understand what I am saying now, don't you?"
Hope that helps.
Lord_Suston
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If she don't wanto to lose weight then you have a real problem!!!!
My friend use to give his girl some clen tabs and say they were vitamins casue she was dumb as a rock... you know what, it work and was that girl the fuckin bomb.
You can never and I MEAN NEVER get a girl who doesn't want to workout to workout it just can't happen!!!!!
You need to ask her male friends to suggetst her to lose some weight cause the female friends will try to murder you in your sleep if you even bring it up... and try not the gay ones cause the think she's beautiful anyway...
If she is the jealous typoe then hang aroung a cute skinny girl a little that works out and maybe just maybe she'll get jealous enought to lose some lard.
My friend use to give his girl some clen tabs and say they were vitamins casue she was dumb as a rock... you know what, it work and was that girl the fuckin bomb.
You can never and I MEAN NEVER get a girl who doesn't want to workout to workout it just can't happen!!!!!
You need to ask her male friends to suggetst her to lose some weight cause the female friends will try to murder you in your sleep if you even bring it up... and try not the gay ones cause the think she's beautiful anyway...
If she is the jealous typoe then hang aroung a cute skinny girl a little that works out and maybe just maybe she'll get jealous enought to lose some lard.
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madbomber31
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she aint fat!!! lets get that straight now...
she is about 132lbs... she's like 5'5" - 5'6"
i AM more worried about the future than now... i would feel horrible if in say 10 years she ended up being a blimp... how could i look at someone who is 175lbs and want to sleep with them?
she is about 132lbs... she's like 5'5" - 5'6"
i AM more worried about the future than now... i would feel horrible if in say 10 years she ended up being a blimp... how could i look at someone who is 175lbs and want to sleep with them?
