the issue of WEIGHT.. with a chick.. how do you address it? do you?

[the People's Champ]

I am with the sex kitten. a little bit of beef on the side is all right. just a little. but then again, if you really wanted to help her lose 10 lbs, work out with her. thinkn about it, what if she told you to do something you really didn't want to do? now if she did it with you, it wouldn't be sooo bad. I say if you want her to lose it, you have to help her lose it, by being by her side. just my two cents

 

[madbomber31]

she belongs to a different gym...
she doesnt use this gym nearly enough... but she belongs to it.
i told her that if she got in shape she would be very dangerous...

 

[polarpixie]

If you annoy her enough about it and make her feel like you won't love her anymore or that she's not good enough for you unless she sheds the lbs. then she might do it.....and if she does that, then she might start to think and realize how superficial that was and that maybe she could do better and leave you....

Sorry! Don't mean to sound so harsh, but I've been thru it...and that is exactly what I did....except for the part about thinking I could do better, I just didn't want to be with someone who constantly nagged me and criticized me.

Serious point is --- unless she wants to do it for herself, nothing you say will convince her, because everything you say will sound like a criticism and you can't love her the way she is.

Girls, back me up on this one, doesn't every woman just want someone who loves them no matter what size they are??? Just knowing that would b a motivation enough to want to look great for my guy.

 

[Johnny Zampon]

you should bring up the weight issue to her. it will lower her self esteem and then she will never leave you.

 

[KAYNE]

I SIMPLY SAY "IF YOU GET FAT, I'LL LEAVE YOU" LOL JK


KAYNE

 

[madbomber31]

funny thing is kayne.. i really have said that... i've told friends for years that "if my wife gets fat, i'd divorce her"... ya, i am shallow...


johnny z, its been brought up like i said... this isnt something i have been thinking, its actually out in the open with her...

polar pixie i havent nagged about losing weight... i have said she needs to work out and watch what she eats due to future health.. i also let her know earlier that if she thinks i should accept her as she is then we are gonna have a problem at some point and she would be best off to tell me now that i am an asshole... i also told her that this could lead to the thought that "he didnt appreciate me so i am gonna find someone who does"...

i understand all these things.... i am willing to accept all these things... i dont want to settle, and i am sure she doesnt either... so if she thinks that being with me is settling then she needs to re-examine things and tell me to fuck off and die...

 

[Dread Lord Good Guy]

call her fat
tell her to stop eating

 

[KAYNE]

funny thing is kayne.. i really have said that... i've told friends for years that "if my wife gets fat, i'd divorce her"... ya, i am shallow...

MB......I USED TO TELL MY EX THAT IF SHE GOT FAT I WOULD LEAVE HER. WHATS ODD ABOUT IT IS IF SHE WOULD HAVE GOTTEN FAT WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER, I WOULD HAVE TRIED MY HARDEST TO GET HER BACK IN SHAPE. IF SHE JUST DIDNT CARE ANYMORE THEN I WOULD HAVE LEFT HER. I'M KINDA SHALLOW MYSELF.

OH YEAH, AFTER WE BROKE UP, SHE GOT FAT!!! LOL

KAYNE

 

[Frackal]

Man, what the fuck...I'm sick of this treading lightly around the fat issue bullshit. Just say, "Bitch, you're fucking fat, lose it or hit the fuckin' door."

If she just needs to tone up a bit, just say, "Honey, look, I know you enjoy my body and my being in shape, well, it is very important to me to have the same..."

 

[Johnny Zampon]

be straight up. tell her if she doesnt lose the weight, your going to break up with her.