Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below this is something i may have to consider soon. shes been having strange stomach pains off and on the last 2 weeks...not everyday but she has them at random times. we took a home pregnanct test and it showed not pregnant but her last period was only maybe 12 days ago. neither of us would be ready for this. im 24 working 2 jobs and i dont have a career path. shes 20 and barely making 400 every 2 weeks and is planning to go back to school. having a child right now would pretty much ruin both of our lives. how simple of a procedure is this? and religious issues aside (because religion plays no role in reality) how right do you all think this would be to have done with what i had just said?
the abortion issue
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GoldenDelicious
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technically pregnancy tests can detect pregnancy about a day after conception.
the smart thing to do is 1) chill the fuck out. take a few deep breaths. 2) re-test with home pregnancy tests. make sure you follow the instructions. theyre cheap and easy. 3) decide waht to do after that. for what its worth, abortions done only a few weeks in are quite low fuss/not terribly invasive.
the fact that youre already talking about life impact/money/career paths indicated that youre a tad stressed about it right now. take solace in piece of advice number 3, practice number 1, and stfu while you do number 2
and if you have it, consider calling the child "golden" its a mad name
hahahahahahhahaaaa
ahem. 3. 1. 2. lol
the smart thing to do is 1) chill the fuck out. take a few deep breaths. 2) re-test with home pregnancy tests. make sure you follow the instructions. theyre cheap and easy. 3) decide waht to do after that. for what its worth, abortions done only a few weeks in are quite low fuss/not terribly invasive.
the fact that youre already talking about life impact/money/career paths indicated that youre a tad stressed about it right now. take solace in piece of advice number 3, practice number 1, and stfu while you do number 2
and if you have it, consider calling the child "golden" its a mad name
hahahahahahhahaaaaahem. 3. 1. 2. lol
rudeboyja
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markshark said:
Easy for you. You just walk through a small group of 3 or 4 old ladies picketing outside telling you to "be a hero". Sit inside for an hour reading a magazine and not making much eye contact with anyone. Make a payment and fill out some lite paperwork. And you're out in about an hour. No sex with her for 4 weeks.
You're paranoid...stomach pains wouldn't indicate pregnany and a woman's high point of fertility is seven days after the end of her period. Pregnancy tests can only be used after she MISSES a period.
I just realized something else, too. You said her last period was 12 days ago, but she's been having stomach pains for two weeks. Do the math, sugar. I HIGHLY doubt she's pregnant.
I just realized something else, too. You said her last period was 12 days ago, but she's been having stomach pains for two weeks. Do the math, sugar. I HIGHLY doubt she's pregnant.
b0und
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GoldenDelicious said:technically pregnancy tests can detect pregnancy about a day after conception.
the smart thing to do is 1) chill the fuck out. take a few deep breaths. 2) re-test with home pregnancy tests. make sure you follow the instructions. theyre cheap and easy. 3) decide waht to do after that. for what its worth, abortions done only a few weeks in are quite low fuss/not terribly invasive.
the fact that youre already talking about life impact/money/career paths indicated that youre a tad stressed about it right now. take solace in piece of advice number 3, practice number 1, and stfu while you do number 2
and if you have it, consider calling the child "golden" its a mad name
ahem. 3. 1. 2. lol
Some quality adviced from a good bor member, except for that last bit.
Who would name a child 'golden'? What kind of a fucked up, narcissistic, dumb ass name is that? Don't ever name your child 'golden' anything unless you want him/her to grow into some egocentric, self-absorbed, 'think-I'm-oh-so-hot-shit, kind of person who thinks he/she needs to tag every ass in sight and post about it on the net...
Just kidding, dude...
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asking for advice on this issue makes no sense really because you will have a million differing opinions and the only opinion that really matters is yours and your girls. No one here can tell you what would be best for your own personal circumstance, but that wont stop them from doing so.markshark said:
seaking420
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I use to think that it should be done within the first trimester, but after having ababy and seeing all its different stages I would say do it within the first month. But like some said above I think you're just freaking out and she's not pregnant, based on what you said. Everyone goes through a pregnancy scare once or twice in there late teens early 20's.
GoldenDelicious
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if my kid turns out like that im totally hi fiving my wifeb0und said:Some quality adviced from a good bor member, except for that last bit.
Who would name a child 'golden'? What kind of a fucked up, narcissistic, dumb ass name is that? Don't ever name your child 'golden' anything unless you want him/her to grow into some egocentric, self-absorbed, 'think-I'm-oh-so-hot-shit, kind of person who thinks he/she needs to tag every ass in sight and post about it on the net...
Just kidding, dude...
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then having groups sex and making an EF thread yeeeaaahhhhhhhhh wooooooooo lol
domoljub
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i know a couple of girls who had an abortion, none with any of my seed in them.
anyways, i found them to take the psychological impact of that rather rough, i would dare to say they never really got over it.
thats just my opinion anyways. what does everybody else have to say about this? especially the women?
anyways, i found them to take the psychological impact of that rather rough, i would dare to say they never really got over it.
thats just my opinion anyways. what does everybody else have to say about this? especially the women?
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heatherrae
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She most likely isn't pregnant. Stomach pains aren't really all that common of a first symptom and the pregnancy test came up negative. She may have gas/constipation, inflamed appendix? If it is bad tell her to go to the doctor.markshark said:
Abortions are not all that difficult of a thing medically if they are done very soon after finding out. I won't touch the ethical, psychological or moral issues. I think that is for each person to decide for themselves. From a medical standpoint, though, it is pretty simple in the first few weeks.
Use condoms from now on so that you don't have to worry every single month. =-)
markshark said:
Well, what do you use for birth control - if anything?
There are so many reasons for stomach pains.... and when you say stomach pain what part of the abodminal area are you speaking of exactly?
She could just have ovarian cysts that are giving her pain as well.
When was her last OB/GYN visit?
No matter the outcome this is a life lesson - learn from it.
covergrl80
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I totally understand where your coming from. You have you whole life a head of you and there are so many things you still want to see and do. But I was in your shoes 9 years ago. I was still in high school, no job and just trying to get out of school when I got pregnant at the age of 17. I thought about what I was going to do for just about a week. I chose to keep the baby and just have faith that everything would turn out for the best. Here I am now 27 with a beautiful 9 year old daughter who is my life and I would not give that up for the world. Don’t get me wrong, life moves a little slow for me and I still have not the finished the schooling I wanted so badly. But you know I can do that anytime in my life and when ever I finish is not going to matter. But looking at my Daughter every day is a wonderful gift.
You will make the right decision. Just take your time.
You will make the right decision. Just take your time.
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heatherrae
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Awwww...that is a nice story. I'm worried now, and I am 37. I can't imagine how I would have handled it at 17.covergrl80 said:
covergrl80
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heatherrae said:
Honey you only have one shot at being the best MOM you can be. Put your all into it. There have been days where I put my head down and cry because it's just been a rough day. Being a Mom is a tough job, but even harder being a single mom. when you lay them to bed at night and you find yourself standing over them just to watch them breath, it makes all those tears worth it.
You will be a wonderful MOM! no worry.
Hardest decision I ever made, and I've regretted it every day ever since. Glad I didnt have a kid, wish I could have just given it up for adoption when she had it.domoljub said:
GoldenDelicious
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some women ovulate 3x a monthGymgurl said:
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heatherrae
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I'm confused. Are you kidding or do you know something about this guy that he hasn't stated on this thread?boxhdn said:
i think this is based on their emotional stability going into it. i had 3 different girlfriends have one and 2 (fruitcakes) were completely retarded after the surgery...cried for what seemed like years. (they aren't friends of mine anymore) ((not cuz they had an abortion but cuz they are retarded)) the other chic has her head on straight, is an extremely emotionally strong gal yada yada....she was laughing and crackin' jokes about an hour after. none of them had pain after.domoljub said:
to each their own. do what's best in your situation.
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heatherrae
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I don't see how any woman can give birth to a child and then give it up for adoption. Right now I'm struggling but it would seriously break my heart to carry this baby and then hand it over. I think for some who give the kids up, it is the ultimate sacrifice of love. For others, maybe they don't really feel the bond while the baby is still inside.
I think I would kill myself if I had to give my baby away. I would steal first.
I think I would kill myself if I had to give my baby away. I would steal first.
that's called pmsGoldenDelicious said:
heatherrae said:
I dont' think i could ever do it either... but there are so many couples out there that are begging for a child yet cant have one. At least in the end you know you gave that child the right to live.
But I do agree with you... When I had my first, things were not all that great... my second was very sudden and I still was young and hadn't actually settled into financial stability. I put off school, and worked sometimes 3 jobs just to make ends meet. I wouldn't trade a single day of that... ever.
I was saying that was an option, one that would allow someone to enjoy the life of a child that they can't have on their own.
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