Success honkeys, i have a date

[Lao Tzu]

I dont know if i talked about this particular woman, but i talked to her for about 40 seconds last thursday (i think it was thursday).

So i saw her on the bus again today and figured i'd talk to her again. I talked about grad school and her goals with her education. All the while i was thinking 'just go on and ask her out, you have a 12.5% success rate and there is really nothing she can give you anyway'. So after a minute of talking i say 'so what are youd oing this thursday' and she says 'for what' and i said something like 'are you open, so we can go out'. So she gave me her school email address. My main mentality was 'lets get rejected so the sting of that wont bother me anymore'. i figure after 4 or 5 rejections (which im guaranteed to get) it wont bother me anymore.

That was totally painless. And thats the first time i've ever asked a woman out and had her know it was a date. yay me.

 

[Lao Tzu]

PS i dont think she is too into the idea of a date (she kinda hesitated when i asked her before saying 'yes'), and i figure it wont go anywhere. But its a nice start for me.

 

[danielson]

nice
must be the new handle

sounds like you dont have any trouble picking woman up...

 

[havoc]

Get yourself a reputable date rape drug!

 

[GoldenDelicious]

it wont go anywhere just like you got rejected

think positive

 

[jerseyart]

Good for you bro.

But next time don't ask her that way. Be more confident, along the lines of "You and me are going out Thursday night" (basic, add some style, but it communicates done deal)

 

[gonelifting]

good... The long road of experience starts here. Everyone MUST take the first steps.

 

[from zero]

Get yourself a reputable date rape drug!

lmao

 

[Robert Jan]

Sounds good you're coming along. Relax. Don't let your pulse hit 80. until you fuck her at least.

 

[Moderate_THIS]

Congrats nord, hopefully she lets you Abu Ghirab her ass, and quite soon

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Cool. Hope you get laid orb. Give us all the details when you get back. Don't take any sex tips from hammy.

 

[gonelifting]

Bring a camera and tell her you`re gonna post pics of her on the internet.

Don`t.

 

[Lao Tzu]

I want to get rejected though, because i want the sting of it to wear off. I think/hope i just got rejected by a different girl. I started talking to her and she left to go to the bathroom. Its kinda embarassing but after a few more rejections i wont care anymore.

Jersey - yeah ive heard of that method, assuming the deal. i should try that next time.

 

[Lao Tzu]

it wont go anywhere just like you got rejected

think positive

i prefer to keep my hopes low, its a buddhist tradition. But i do think negatively, and i'm actively trying to fix that.

I think/hope i just got blown off. I saw some woman i talked to 4 weeks ago in class. So being uber suave i walked up to her and said 'did i talk to you about 4 weeks ago', she furrowed her brow and said something like 'i dont remember, maybe. let me think'. My goal was to start a conversation than when we went in different directions close with 'i have to go this way, we should meet outside of class'. However after that she followed her friend into the womens bathroom. I think this was a demeaning blowoff.

Yeah the come on line may have been corny. But whats important is that I am getting rejected so it won't bug me anymore. The goal honestly isn't to make everyone love you, its to wade through endless people to find the ones you like, who like you, who are available and whose personalities you have at least minimal (and hopefully alot more) compatibility with. There are guaranteed to be many more failures than successes if someone has to meet all 4 criteria.

And i should listen to my instincts more. I saw a girl who is on the same bus as me that i wanted to approach but something in me said 'dont do it, thats a train wreck' so i didnt. yesterday at the bus stop i saw a girl and i wanted to talk to her but something said 'theres no point' and a minute later her boyfriend pulled up to pick her up.

I think my goal is to end up like supernav. Supernav can pick up women but he doesn't, and thats what i want. I don't want to hit on endless strange women for the rest of my life, i just want to do it for the next few months until i become reasonably good at it. After that i'll probably quit and lose interest in women unless i see one who actually strikes my fancy. Right now i'm just going up to most anyone i have any attraction too. Each one is a new experience. I want to gain experience, gain the ability and keep my dignity in the meantime. Even the women who reject me i want to leave with a positive impression of me, so they will respect me and still want to be friendly with me even if we don't date.

And i think i've asked out 5 women actually, not 1. I got 2 nos, 1 yes (this last one), 1 yes from a woman who didnt think it was a date and 1 yes from a woman who really liked me but must've chickened out.

 

[SoreArms]

Good luck bro

 

[jerkbox]

see, i told ya bro

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

It was my post about ending up in the woods like me, that set you off, wasn't it? j/k
That's great. I hope you make it all the way! I'm very happy for you!

 

[Lao Tzu]

jerkbox - what chu talking bout willis?

ulcaster - actually i love the woods. There is a really nice walking trail here in bloomington i can show you if you're ever in the area. Nobody can hear you scream as your wallet is stolen and you are pushed into the river.

And graci jerseyart, i totally forgot about 'assuming the deal'. I just emailed her and i closed the email with "Do you just want to meet uptown or should I come pick you up?". So now i am either a controlling asshole or a take charge guy. i dont know which.

 

[jerkbox]

jerkbox - what chu talking bout willis?
.

i told you to just go for it and nevermind any rejection.....but i guess you didn't read my post

 

[jackangel]

but i guess you didn't read my post

this pretty much goes for everyone, yup.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

i prefer to keep my hopes low, its a buddhist tradition. But i do think negatively, and i'm actively trying to fix that.

well, so is celibacy

the way i see it (lol im going to sound like i love myself) is that im in the upper crust of all the people i know, so if i cant go and hit a girl up, well then, who the fuck can?

if she says no, well what can i say. shes only human. they cant be prefect

 

[chewyxrage]

that took some balls.

keep it up

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Orb, your making progress. Good luck. Stay after it.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

So, when you start tapping ass on a regular basis , you gonna drop the buddhist stuff?

 

[Lao Tzu]

that took some balls.

keep it up

Thank you, i've been waiting for someone to say that. It wasn't even painful either. Or stressful. Had she said no i would've just said 'oh well, it was worth asking' and not gotten defensive.

 

[Robert Jan]

Buddhism is nonsense and a stupid US West Coast trend.

A passé one at that. Isn't it all about Kabbalah now or some crap.

 

[havoc]

Buddhism is nonsense and a stupid US West Coast trend.

A passé one at that. Isn't it all about Kabbalah now or some crap.

Kaballah = Jewish mysticism = poop w/astrology involved, Madonna likes it so you know it's cool

 

[jerseyart]

Why is it so stressful Nordie? I've never understood that with people

 

[Lao Tzu]

Why is it so stressful Nordie? I've never understood that with people

Its not, thats the thing. I figured it would be.

My only real concern is maintaining my dignity while i approach women. Stress or fear aren't really big concerns anymore.

 

[jerseyart]

Bor, just understand that your "dignity" isnt comprimised by appraoching a woman and asking her out. At worst you will likely make her day, so long as your generally respectful (not stodgy, just not a perv) and listen if she expresses disinterest (read: don't force the issue, move on). They talk about this crap all day long. The first thing she will do is call her friends to tell them some guy hit on her. They live for that

The only hard part for most guys is that they are slwo witted. You arent. You should be racking up numbers and dates like a mofo. Your funny and bright. If a guy can talk, he will never have any trouble meeting women. Just be yourself.

Most guys dont' have a sense of humor. So it is worthless to tell them to be funny. The best they can manage is memorizing a few jokes and doing a few impressions. If you make her laugh, you are so fucking in. Just dont try preteneding that you are seeking friendship if you aren't . It isnt necessary.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Its not, thats the thing. I figured it would be.

My only real concern is maintaining my dignity while i approach women. Stress or fear aren't really big concerns anymore.

Right. I got over that one by just in a period of several weeks asking every cute girl that I struck up a conversatoin with anywhere if she would like to have dinner sometime and asking for her digits (even cashiers at the grocery store). LoL