sorry for mood change.....

[GYSER]

My girl had an abortion behind my back,....

every thing was fine last week man...we were talking about mooving in together, we spoke about so many things, we went to the doctors had an altra sound done...

it was so tinny, with such a big beating heart..the heart was beating so fast..how could she do this man...
it was alive...my child, our child, a living creature,

Valitines day she told me she was very tired and could not come over because she needed sleep, granted I was a bit upset, but hey I got over it I thought to my self -ok- she's pregnant, she need alot of rest. The following morning I had an early morning class (sat, 9:15-12:50)
I woke up wanting to call out of class, but at the last minute I went....
the time went on and our firts break came, I called her on her cell phone but she did not pick up....I was a bit worried, but I had to get back to class....
to make a long story short..
11:49 she had a 4 min procedure done in white plains NY...
I was calling her at 11:40...
she was getting preped for it....

what makes it worse, is I love her so much, and I am lost now on what to do...I know the reall me wants to take her and break her back in two...
but then my other half can see that she was pressured into this by her family, and even though it was her final thought, I know she is going through a rough time, and because I love her so much I want to be there for her.....

I was so happy to becomming a father..
I think that womans rights should be wre-written..

it should be illigal for a woman to have an abortion out of convienence.

she is 24, I am 25 we have been together for 4 years..we both knew what we were getting into when we layed down together...I'm so lost right now...
can some one give some input...my brain is running 100000 mile a minute, and I can't think straight enough to focus, on what's truly in my heart...

and please no sarcastic words, this is hard enough on me as is...

thx bro's and broet's

 

[WODIN]

Honestly. Move on, even if you think you're in love with her now, you will grow to hate her very existance over time. She didn't even consult you on the absolute, most iimportant decision the two of you as a couple will ever make.

Move on.

 

[velvett]

I have no words.. that's horrible.

I'm really sorry, if I could see you I would give you a hug.

 

[GYSER]

I want to leave, I do...

but I love her, I truly feel that she is the one for me, like we are supose to be together for life...she is my complete other half...and even though she made this choice, I feel that I should be there for her...

I know I mean after I say those words I think to my self...wow you need help..but it's true...I love her..

my mother always told me what doesn't kill us makes us stronger..

she has told me that if I choose to stay with her, that being there for each other right now, can bring us that much more together...I know it was wrong, and I hate her for it..I can't stop crying man, she killed a poor defenceless creature...

for that I hate her...her friends and all of her family...

but my love for her is in the middle of this pain I feel....

I need a hug, man, these tears have not stopped in 3 days, I just want it all to go away...

 

[velvett]

I wasn't going to ask but I have to ask because it's killing me.

Did she tell you why?

 

[beastboy]

To me trust has been broken at the greatest degree...I wouldn't ever be able to overcome that loss in trust.

 

[PoyeBoy]

Wow, that sux

I thought a chick couldnt get an abortion without notifying the father?

It was as much yours as it was hers.

 

[Blubber]

Abortion is evil, this is just another facet of why. It should be illegalized and treated like murder. She basically murdered your kid, and it's all nice and legal, it makes ME WANT TO FUCKING PUKE!!! She should be charged with conspiracy and the "doctor" should be given 20 to life.

 

[Blubber]

bump

 

[KAYNE]

my mother always told me what doesn't kill us makes us stronger..

I USED TO BELIEVE THIS MYSELF. HOWEVER, I HAVE FOUND THAT IT IS NOT TRUE. THAT WHICH DOESNT KILL YOU, CHIPS AWAY AT YOU LITTLE BY LITTLE OVER TIME. AND EVENTUALLY, IT WILL KILL YOU. ONE WAY OR ANOTHER, IT WILL.




KAYNE

 

[GYSER]

I thank you all for your input....

velvett :
all she told me was she was under a great deal of stress and she did not know what to do.
she told me that it was the hardest thing for her to do and will effect her for life, all she really wanted was for her mother to tell her that she would be there for her.

she also said that every one (friends/family) told her to do it, and as much as she did not want to it was like 50 people telling her to do it, and only me telling her I would be there for her.

she was overwhelmed by it all, and in a way I can see how that might be....at least I try to see it....
all I know is that in this case it should be against the law and she should be tried for murder.

I am not against abortion 100%
I truly belive there is a place for it

rape/insest/baby's having baby's...

but not two consenting adults who have been together for four years....

 

[strider364]

I agree with WODIN, just move on. You'll find another. She pulled some shady shit man.

 

[Optimus B]

I USED TO BELIEVE THIS MYSELF. HOWEVER, I HAVE FOUND THAT IT IS NOT TRUE. THAT WHICH DOESNT KILL YOU, CHIPS AWAY AT YOU LITTLE BY LITTLE OVER TIME. AND EVENTUALLY, IT WILL KILL YOU. ONE WAY OR ANOTHER, IT WILL.




KAYNE

that is so unbelievably true