Skeletons in the Closet...

[b fold the truth]

We were discussing self-image and keeping your "skeletons in the closet" yesterday in class and comparing men and women in this situation. We got on the debate that both men and women tend to have about the same past but women keep the skeletons in the closet unlike men do.

This was the professor's explaination. Women want to be perceived as being lady like and classy at all times. For this reason they keep all of their secrets deeply hidden as well as their skeletons hidden in the closet. If they avoid them and don't tell anyone about them that maybe they will be thought of as classy and lady like..."like women should be anyway."

Men tend not to care what others think of them so they just put it all out there. They don't care to be thought of as classy but wish to be thought of as macho, tough, rough, etc...so they don't keep the skeletons and secrets deeply hidden.

Ohh...my professor is a woman also...a married woman.

Any thoughts on this issue?

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[Y_lifter]

True except for when it's 2 or more women together.
They seem to dish it all to each other.

Just keeping the dirty secrets from the Men so they seem more desirable to us...

 

[FreeballinDC]

I tend to disagree. I would never ever put my business out on the street like that. Even if it were something as bad as a gay stalker, you wouldn't see me talking about it.

 

[gettinlarger]

I don't know about that particular explanation ... but yeah, I kinda agree. From my experiences with people, it does seem that the chicks keep their stuff locked away more than the guys. However, I do the same thing. I'm willing to bet that not even the closest of my friends knows some of the thoughts, feelings, and actions I have kept hidden. Just my nature.

 

[knight69]

no skeletons here.

 

[NJSerious]

i love macaroni and cheese. its a tasty dish.

 

[68GT350]

I personally agree but I'm sure this theory isn't absolute. I bet the girls that aren't consider lady like--the ones who we perceive as slutty are likely the more honest girls who let it all out like us. Ironic how the more honest girls are put in a negative light, then.

 

[big4life]

Of the people who I have known, who were "open books" all have been women. I have known a couple who were telling me everything about themselves and we barely knew each other.

As for me, I am fairly open once I get to know someone. I am more open with some people, those who I have complete trust in. They are very few, but also very special.

 

[Bikini Mod]

You know, it is scary how YOU should put a thread by this title up Bfold....

A gentleman that I know said THESE EXACT WORDS to me today when he was trying to explain why it was that he was not good enough for me. When I gave him the question mark thingie, his only response was that it was a French expression....

I just have to shake my head.

Because I am done trying to figure this shit out.

DONE.

If yall can shed light on the situation, it would be appreciated. I for one, am dumbfounded.

As for me personally, I have never been one to hide anything. It has always been my opinion that it does no good to try to hide as sooner or later it will come out in the wash. I prefer to be upfront from the getco. This way no one can say down the line, "You misled me."

HONESTY - I can forgive many things, but dishonesty - No, I have a REAL hard time with that shit.

There are many things that can be said about me, but LIAR is not one of them.

"You are all that you said you were.... and so much more."

Yes, these words describe me to a T.

 

[BigRedCat]

All women have secrets. It has to do with the way women have been percieved throughout the ages. It also has to do with the availability of women. Back in the Victorian 1800's when there were 6 men to 1 women- men were able to overlook women that were essentially sluts because they were just happy to get laid. They would marry these women and no doubt the women would continue sleeping with other men but it would be a secret. What we are really talking about is infidelities anyway and it is sad that so many people choose to indulge in this passing fancy. Dosen't seem worth it to me. On the other hand, if you have a girl that is bi you can indulge without having "secrets". Looks like B-fold's teacher is cheating on her husband!!

 

[b fold the truth]

BigRedCat: I hope to the Good Lord that my professor never cheats...or even gets naked...lol. J/K...both her and her husband teach in the dept...

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[The Shadow]

dunno....

Not so much about skeletons...but I have difficulty expressing my innermost emotions such as fear, my hopes and dreams and the fact that I am desparately clueless

 

[vinylgroover]

Tough one Bfold. I guess it comes down to the individual person and whether they are ashamed of things they have done in the past. There are not too many things i have done which i feel ashamed of, if i did, i wouldn't have done that thing in the first place. However, when i tell others they're like 'wtf'. So i guess it comes down to each individuals own standards and standards by which they judge others.

I personally try to be as open as possible, and prefer to be friends with people like that.

Many of my girlfriends are quite open and don't hide too much if anything at all, but then they are not trying to impress me, we are only friends after all.

 

[BigRedCat]

If your not ashamed of the dog licking your balls incident than you truly have no regrets about anything! haha.

 

[Canuck4]

I got a skeleton in my closet and I dont know if noone knows it
So before they throw me inside my coffin and close it
Im a expose it.

 

[Bigsatan13]

Women have so many skeletons in their closet that when they talk bones fall out of their mouths.

 

[b fold the truth]

When the right woman finds the right man...she doesn't have to hide the skeletons though...and vice versa...

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