single parents?

[The_Ghost]

I guess this applies mostly to single Dad's but I am know there are some Mom's as well.

How do you cope with not being able to see your child everyday? This has got to be the worst feeling I have ever experienced and I go through some days in a zombie like trance.

I go to the gym but that can only fill so much time.

 

[Dial_tone]

I thought you got married? I can't keep up with you for shit. lol

 

[Rex]

Fortunatly for me my parents didn't try to punish the other by holding me and my brother from seeing the said parent. My mom had custody because I lived with her, but I went to my dad's everday after school. When I went to HS there was no fuss from my mom when I chose to go to school in my dad's neighborhood.

Kids aren't bargaining chips.

 

[The_Ghost]

I thought you got married? I can't keep up with you for shit. lol

Was, still am I guess, long story I am not about to get into/no one wants to hear, just wait for the Movie of the week, hell i can't even keep up anymore.

 

[The_Ghost]

Fortunatly for me my parents didn't try to punish the other by holding me and my brother from seeing the said parent. My mom had custody because I lived with her, but I went to my dad's everday after school. When I went to HS there was no fuss from my mom when I chose to go to school in my dad's neighborhood.

Kids aren't bargaining chips.

Yea I was lucky that way too, my parents, especially my mother was very unselfish. Had all the access we wanted to my father. I will never use my child as a chip, EVER.

 

[Rex]

Yea I was lucky that way too, my parents, especially my mother was very unselfish. Had all the access we wanted to my father. I will never use my child as a chip, EVER.

Having some baby mama drama?

 

[HumorMe]

Was, still am I guess, long story I am not about to get into/no one wants to hear, just wait for the Movie of the week, hell i can't even keep up anymore.

WTF???

Not trying to meddle or anything but this doesn't sound good.

I can't imagine being seperated from my wife and kids. It would kill me.

 

[The_Ghost]

WTF???

Not trying to meddle or anything but this doesn't sound good.

I can't imagine being seperated from my wife and kids. It would kill me.

Not seeing my little girl for the last week is killing me bro, more then I am able to let on to those close to me.

 

[HumorMe]

Not seeing my little girl for the last week is killing me bro, more then I am able to let on to those close to me.

I hope things get better soon Dawg! Being apart from my kids whether voluntary or involuntary would rip my world apart. My family is my life.

 

[The_Ghost]

I hope things get better soon Dawg! Being apart from my kids whether voluntary or involuntary would rip my world apart. My family is my life.

This is not voluntary and shows no sign of getting better soon.

 

[awittyusername]

Not seeing my little girl for the last week is killing me bro, more then I am able to let on to those close to me.

You are more of a man than most. Most guys don't seem to give a shit. Do what you can to see her. And, I hope everything works out for you bro.

 

[HumorMe]

This is not voluntary and shows no sign of getting better soon.

I know how excited you were when she was born and it really saddens me to see you have to go through something like this.

My prayers are with you Dawg.

 

[The_Ghost]

I know how excited you were when she was born and it really saddens me to see you have to go through something like this.

My prayers are with you Dawg.

Thanks bro, she is everything to me.

I have made so many mistakes in my life but if I do one thing right it will be me being a great father to her. Lets just hope i learn how to say no to her before she learns to talk lol.

 

[HumorMe]

Thanks bro, she is everything to me.

I have made so many mistakes in my life but if I do one thing right it will be me being a great father to her. Lets just hope i learn how to say no to her before she learns to talk lol.

She's your heart Dawg. I have two daughters and it is hard to say no to them even when I know I should. They are only young once and they grow up so fast. You will make mistakes as a parent (Lord knows I have made my fair share) just be the best father you can be and hope the things you taught them stick.

 

[Razorguns]

You just had a baby! The drama's already started? Sounds like a Denise Richards scenario here.

Sorry man -- hope things work out. Eveyr kid deserves two parents in his/her life.

 

[pintoca]

Dawg, I have also a 4 months old baby and righzt now I could not even think about not being there everyday for him. Granted, with the kid, thinks look less rosy for the parents, what with the lack of sleep and increased workload and stress levels, but you have to make it work.

A kid is supposed to bring parents together even more, not break them apart.

 

[The_Ghost]

Dawg, I have also a 4 months old baby and righzt now I could not even think about not being there everyday for him. Granted, with the kid, thinks look less rosy for the parents, what with the lack of sleep and increased workload and stress levels, but you have to make it work.

A kid is supposed to bring parents together even more, not break them apart.

So much has happened, making it work isn't an option at this point. Our child is my main priority right now.

 

[Gymgurl]

The sad thing...is that you will get used to it somehow.....but maybe you two can work out a visitation schedule that isn't so rigid....can you go to counseling or anything at this point....your daughter really needs both parents and not just one or the other....but stuff happens and they are pretty resilient.....Sorry BigD I know your heart hurts! (((HUGS))

 

[pintoca]

sad to hear that.

 

[tuc biscuit]

dang bigdawg, sorry bro


hope it all works out well for you

 

[The_Ghost]

The sad thing...is that you will get used to it somehow.....but maybe you two can work out a visitation schedule that isn't so rigid....can you go to counseling or anything at this point....your daughter really needs both parents and not just one or the other....but stuff happens and they are pretty resilient.....Sorry BigD I know your heart hurts! (((HUGS))

Yea i know I will have to get used to it. Working out something in the best interest of our daughter is not something she is thinking about right now. Its more about bitterness towards me.

I have more rights then she realizes, I just would rather not drag this stuff through court as it could get really ugly and a lot of people could get hurt.

I am not asking for the world, just want to be a part of my little angels life and she is using this to bargain for things she wants right now.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Yea i know I will have to get used to it. Working out something in the best interest of our daughter is not something she is thinking about right now. Its more about bitterness towards me.

I have more rights then she realizes, I just would rather not drag this stuff through court as it could get really ugly and a lot of people could get hurt.

I am not asking for the world, just want to be a part of my little angels life and she is using this to bargain for things she wants right now.

Oh man I was hoping things would get better. I dunno what else to say :hug:

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Yea i know I will have to get used to it. Working out something in the best interest of our daughter is not something she is thinking about right now. Its more about bitterness towards me.

I have more rights then she realizes, I just would rather not drag this stuff through court as it could get really ugly and a lot of people could get hurt.

I am not asking for the world, just want to be a part of my little angels life and she is using this to bargain for things she wants right now.

So sorry to hear that BD.. Sadly enough this is too common. I don't and never will understand why or how a mother can deny not only the father.. but their child the right to see his/her father.. for no other reason than being angry and bitter.

There are women out there that would love to have in a father what she has in you... to bad she doesn't realize it. Hopefully the smoke will clear and she will see past all the me me me.. and do whats right for the most important part of both of your lives... that beautiful bundle of joy

 

[Seashell]

Oh man I was hoping things would get better. I dunno what else to say :hug:

Me too.. You don't deserve it Cosmo, I wish there was some way to sort it all out..

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

This very issue was the covedr of the NY Times magazine this past week.

Hope it all gets sorted out in the best interests of you and your daughter.

 

[Zebo]

I guess this applies mostly to single Dad's but I am know there are some Mom's as well.

How do you cope with not being able to see your child everyday? This has got to be the worst feeling I have ever experienced and I go through some days in a zombie like trance.

I go to the gym but that can only fill so much time.

I don't know.......but I'm about to find out within a month's time.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

That lasted about as long as Britney Spears' marriage.
I feel bad for the baby....

 

[biteme]

Sorry to hear that. I know how hard it is. We separated when my daughter was six and I was relegated to seeing her half the time. I adjusted to it after awhile, but I don't know if she ever did. Divorce is not a good thing for children. Fight for your rights bro, if that's what it takes.

 

[canadianhitman]

If you have to use the courts in order to gain meaningful access to your daughter, then by all means...do it. You'll make the money you spend on lawyers back over time, but you'll never get this period of your daughter's life back. Give the baby mama a calm and rational argument as to why she should voluntarily give you ample visitation...and if she can't listen to reason, drop the hammer and take it to court.