Should I say this to a chick

[Blue Star]

There's this chick at work i like. She's married but separated with a kid. I told her i like her but she said she doesn't like me in that way. However, afte constant flirting week in and week out and suggestive body language...i was going to say to her something along the lines of......

"I#You look very sexy in that red dress but you're giving me mixed singals cuz ur saying one thing and ur body language another..."

BTW, she wears red every saturday.

Also, i was thinking of saying to her that everytime i'm around her i feel drawn towards her and that i want to hold her, touch her kiss her.

Is this too much folks or?

 

[split endz]

yep, too much. Tease her a little; ignore her sometimes when she's trying for attention; make fun of her if you can. Have an air of mystery about yourself, mysterious but confident.

 

[musclemom]

There's this chick at work i like. She's married but separated with a kid. I told her i like her but she said she doesn't like me in that way. However, afte constant flirting week in and week out and suggestive body language...i was going to say to her something along the lines of......

"I#You look very sexy in that red dress but you're giving me mixed singals cuz ur saying one thing and ur body language another..."

BTW, she wears red every saturday.

Also, i was thinking of saying to her that everytime i'm around her i feel drawn towards her and that i want to hold her, touch her kiss her.

Is this too much folks or?

Sorry to barge in, I don't normally post in this forum but I'm a female sooooooo ...

IMO, if you want to have a meaningless physical relationship with this lady that will be short lived, you play games just like split endz suggested. Most women will ALWAYS rise to the occasion and chase down complicated or difficult prey (we've all heard the stories of women who want to turn a gay guy around). A meaningless relationship with a coworker is a recipe for disaster.

ON THE OTHER HAND, if you genuinely WANT a long term relationship with this woman you say EXACTLY what you're thinking of saying. If she doesn't want to be involved with you, then everything's on the table, at least she'll stop flirting.

Think here, you said she's separated, if she's just recently separated, she may not want to get into a serious relationship right now (dating is a whole issue on several levels in the beginings of divorce; and don't forget there's a kid involved, too). She MIGHT not want to go out with you because she's not ready to get involved with someone, for her own sake, or the sake of her child. She might genuinely like you as a friend (guess what, that is NOT a hopeless situation. My current husband and I -- whom I adore -- started out as "just friends.") Guys are so quick to dismiss the "just friends" comment. I have news, gentleman, you want to have a long term relationship with a woman, start out as being best friends. You'll be amazed what happens

The way to a woman's heart is through her mind.

Sorry to butt in if I did ...

 

[tanka]

i have to agree with musclemom the way to a womens heart is with out doubt through her mind but hey lets not totally dismiss how much fun a meaningless physical relationship can be for a guy.for me i would say in the third person hey did you ever meet someone and for some reason you just begain to feel totally drawn to this person and the more you listened to them the more it just seemed as though you had known them your whole life and the stronger this connection become it just felt so natural to want to get closer to them and feel the intensity of that conection and explore these feelings more deeply etc. when she begins to agree with the theme of the (conversation)as she must because who hasnt felt like that , just layer in some more along the same lines with some feeling in your voice blue star..you could be surprised just how effective this can be because when you can touch a woman deep in her heart deep in her soul and in all the special places a woman longs to be touched things will start to blossom and move in the right direction from my experience . good luck

 

[tanka]

the most important thing here guys is always set your self up as the prize here not her and if she is very lucky you may let her step into your world at some point in time , a calm and cool approach to women is essential at all times as they will try to test you in ther search for strength from time to time.

 

[H_T_]

why would you want to step into a situation like that? maybe you feel your chances are better cuz she's vulnerable.

 

[latinsteel]

why would you want to step into a situation like that? maybe you feel your chances are better cuz she's vulnerable.

PLAY games like split endz said!!

 

[tmk123]

yep, too much. Tease her a little; ignore her sometimes when she's trying for attention; make fun of her if you can. Have an air of mystery about yourself, mysterious but confident.

So you've read double your dating too?

 

[mrhoon]

Many years ago, I worked with a bunch of guys, and a few choice chicks. One of the girls was hot and in control of all the guys, had them wrapped. "Lift this, drive me here, buy me that." She got it no questions asked. Then I come along, I tell her to lift her own goddamn box, I won't drive her cause she could use the exercise, and fuck no I wont buy you shit. I'd still flirt, but I was runnin the game, not her. The guys would say you can't talk to girls like that! I'd just smile. Well, guess who was fucking her within a week? Me. There was another girl that was with a guy, but he apparently wasn't into sex anymore. I didn't want to get between a couple but when she started talking about missing sex so much, what is a knight in shining armor supposed to do. So I start flirting a little. Shes like WTF? I said " Listen, I'm not trying to steel you away from XXXX or anything, I just want to sample some of what he's not using." Bingo, she was in. Her whole demeeanor changed. Over the next few weeks, she would come to work to "visit" some of the other workers, and I'd be in the back, she would sneak back to see me and say "so, you wanna see some skin?" Then she would pull up her shirt and show me her titts!!!! Fuckin sweet. Before that I'd never seen her in street clothes before. We eventually set up a time to fuck at work, but I got transferred to another store that was being opened.
My point is, there is a time for honesty, there is a time for subtlety, there is a time to be the bad boy, and soon enough, there will be time to nail it to the wall.

 

[tanka]

first class attitude mrhoon, top notch.women will sometimes test a guy for strength look on it as a respect opportunity and well come it with both arms .... let them know you will not put up with the games. do this in a calm cool way and this seperates you non runners.you are the prize and if shes very lucky she may be able to step into your world and find out what she is really looking for.

 

[jdevlin1985]

Many years ago, I worked with a bunch of guys, and a few choice chicks. One of the girls was hot and in control of all the guys, had them wrapped. "Lift this, drive me here, buy me that." She got it no questions asked. Then I come along, I tell her to lift her own goddamn box, I won't drive her cause she could use the exercise, and fuck no I wont buy you shit. I'd still flirt, but I was runnin the game, not her. The guys would say you can't talk to girls like that! I'd just smile. Well, guess who was fucking her within a week? Me. There was another girl that was with a guy, but he apparently wasn't into sex anymore. I didn't want to get between a couple but when she started talking about missing sex so much, what is a knight in shining armor supposed to do. So I start flirting a little. Shes like WTF? I said " Listen, I'm not trying to steel you away from XXXX or anything, I just want to sample some of what he's not using." Bingo, she was in. Her whole demeeanor changed. Over the next few weeks, she would come to work to "visit" some of the other workers, and I'd be in the back, she would sneak back to see me and say "so, you wanna see some skin?" Then she would pull up her shirt and show me her titts!!!! Fuckin sweet. Before that I'd never seen her in street clothes before. We eventually set up a time to fuck at work, but I got transferred to another store that was being opened.
My point is, there is a time for honesty, there is a time for subtlety, there is a time to be the bad boy, and soon enough, there will be time to nail it to the wall.

So true!!!! 'Nice guys' are nothing but people pleasers. Emotionally greedy. Always concerned with what people think of them. Hence the lick ass attitude.

I am arrogant. Nothing more. Nothing less.

And let me tell you... it works a treat!!!!

 

[thelion2005]

There's this chick at work i like. She's married but separated with a kid. I told her i like her but she said she doesn't like me in that way. However, afte constant flirting week in and week out and suggestive body language...i was going to say to her something along the lines of......

"I#You look very sexy in that red dress but you're giving me mixed singals cuz ur saying one thing and ur body language another..."

BTW, she wears red every saturday.

Also, i was thinking of saying to her that everytime i'm around her i feel drawn towards her and that i want to hold her, touch her kiss her.

Is this too much folks or?

In the USA, this behavior at work is called harassment. One warning ... next time fired. She doesn't even have to make the complaint.

So ... what to do? Have patience until she comes to you.

 

[tanka]

any man who walks through this world wanting everyone to like him and fretting about what others might think of him, considering his own every little move or spoken word of the day should... or shortly will be ....crushed under foot or will soon be used as a foot stall probably by several very large women.the only attitude to have is, this is me and if you dont like it then..........can you just feel how much more simple life then becomes.power to you jdevlin 1985 about nice guys i agree with you.i think myself that women bracket nice guys as safe and generaly boring because there predictable and try too hard to please. they hide there masculinity and real women love masculinity just like we like feminine women.look guys, you know yourselves most of these women should feel lucky to have some of your precious time and feel good to be in your company for even five minutes......so let them know it with your attitude.this confident attitude will improve your success with them.and if you dont agree, you know just what you can do about it............it couldnt be more simple than that.

 

[pendit]

What are your goals? Do you want to bang her and call it good? Do you want something serious?? If you just want a quick in/out, I can help.

Do you know why she's separated? Going long term with someone who is separated has it's own set of problems. Either way you're going to complicate her life.

If you just want sex and don't care, I say it's Hammertime.
If you want sex or relationship and do care, I'd at least wait until the divorce is final

 

[split endz]

So you've read double your dating too?

yep

 

[Tytan]

show interest in other women in the office, especially if you know of one that`s kinda easy. She may look at you differntly if she thinks other women see you as a catch. Then drop the " let`s just go out as friends" and see what happens.......

 

[Introspective]

why do people play games, either she want's you or she doesn't, just wip out your dick jump up slap her across the face with it and scream tango'd. If she slaps you in the face and complains to the boss you know she's doesnt like you. No worries just follow her around the room and slip her 1 when she's not looking.

 

[BUBBLES]

first class attitude mrhoon, top notch.women will sometimes test a guy for strength look on it as a respect opportunity and well come it with both arms .... let them know you will not put up with the games. do this in a calm cool way and this seperates you non runners.you are the prize and if shes very lucky she may be able to step into your world and find out what she is really looking for.

That is very funny and a little eccentric.

If he is the prize what is she? lucky? hahaha He is probably just as lucky if not luckier if he likes her more than she likes him.

Perhaps a guy is not interpreting a girl's body language correctly or perhaps she is flirting with someone else and you have no clue who with thinking it is you.lol Now doesn't that make one look foolish?

 

[velvett]

Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeezus

I'd either laugh at you or ignore you from that moment on.
If she said she wasn't intrested she's not and even if she's lying she doesn't want to be interested for what ever the reason.

1 - you don't date/fuck around where you work unless you're like 18 and have a new job every season.

2 - if she is indeed flirting via body language she might just be doing it for her ego to make sure she is still attractive - it doesn't mean she wants a piece of ass specfically yours.

3 - she wears red every saturday...... i'm not sure what this could mean and how it would tie into you - do you work in retail?

 

[velvett]

Many years ago, I worked with a bunch of guys, and a few choice chicks. One of the girls was hot and in control of all the guys, had them wrapped. "Lift this, drive me here, buy me that." She got it no questions asked. Then I come along, I tell her to lift her own goddamn box, I won't drive her cause she could use the exercise, and fuck no I wont buy you shit. I'd still flirt, but I was runnin the game, not her. The guys would say you can't talk to girls like that! I'd just smile. Well, guess who was fucking her within a week? Me. There was another girl that was with a guy, but he apparently wasn't into sex anymore. I didn't want to get between a couple but when she started talking about missing sex so much, what is a knight in shining armor supposed to do. So I start flirting a little. Shes like WTF? I said " Listen, I'm not trying to steel you away from XXXX or anything, I just want to sample some of what he's not using." Bingo, she was in. Her whole demeeanor changed. Over the next few weeks, she would come to work to "visit" some of the other workers, and I'd be in the back, she would sneak back to see me and say "so, you wanna see some skin?" Then she would pull up her shirt and show me her titts!!!! Fuckin sweet. Before that I'd never seen her in street clothes before. We eventually set up a time to fuck at work, but I got transferred to another store that was being opened.
My point is, there is a time for honesty, there is a time for subtlety, there is a time to be the bad boy, and soon enough, there will be time to nail it to the wall.

OMG - it's stories like these that make me cringe that because I have breasts and a vagina I might behave in such a manner, men don't make women look bad women make women look bad.

 

[H_T_]

this thread makes me wanna put fireworks in someones ass........

 

[*MissFit*]

this thread makes me wanna put fireworks in someones ass........

If u put a firecracker up your ass make sure you haven't eaten tacos the nite before or a bean burito

 

[DZLS]

this sounds like a disaster in the making...

i would play it cool for awhile... no telling when she may end up back with the husband...

 

[Mach1]

Never date a women you work with. Of course i do it all the time and it always turns out ugly so i think i need to follow my advise as well.

 

[heatherrae]

Gee, she already told you she didn't like you that way. Believe me, when a girl says this, she means it. She is just flirting for fun/ego. Move on, preferably to someone with whom you don't work. Never shit where you eat.