Should I be bothered by this?

[TheProject]

My parents came into town last weekend for a visit, and I have an arrangement with them so they can stay with me. Basically, it's their old house, and they're more comfortable here than in a hotel, so they have a guest room that they use.

Since they've gotten here, Dad's replaced the handle on the back screen door (which I wasn't concerned about, as I want to replace that door anyway), bought a new water bowl for the dog, and today, they bought a new litter box for the cats.

Now, none of these things are expensive...it's just the principle of the thing that kinda bothers me. It's almost like I'm getting a sense of disapproval from them. Granted, it's not like they're rearranging my kitchen, but it kinda feels like a lack of respect for my home.

Am I out of line here?

 

[Lumberg]

you're not out of line but they aren't either

why shouldn't you accept these gifts from your parents?

they are just trying to help

 

[TheProject]

I realize that they mean well...it's just that to me, it comes across as meddling or disrespectful.

Maybe I'm nuts, I don't know.

 

[jerkbox]

when they start rearranging your furniture....i would draw the line.

 

[TheProject]

They're just trying to be nice, that's all... Unless your parents have a history (which you'd know if they did) of disapproving of your decisions/ideas, then you should be OK...

Well, that's a part of it...Mom's made disapproving comments behind my back to one of my sisters that I found highly offensive....that whole thing resulted in a minor falling out.

That could be why I'm a little more on guard about this.

 

[Bullit]

I completely understand.
My dad drives me NUTS with stuff like that... it feels like they are being very patronizing.

 

[Lumberg]

Maybe I'm nuts, I don't know.

You are. Now you know

 

[the nature boy]

they're just doing what parents do. it probably makes them feel good to do it, so just let them be.

 

[vinylgroover]

It's not like your dad's wiping his cock on your curtains after knocking one off........just chill a bit.

 

[slickdadd]

Are they asking beforehand or are you coming home and finding these things replaced? If it's the latter I wouldn't mind it because I would have the say, but otherwise it is quite disrespectful. I would never do that to anyone else's house.

 

[gymtime]

they're just doing what parents do. it probably makes them feel good to do it, so just let them be.

Exactamundo.

It's important for parents of grown children to still feel like they're needed and to be helpful in their kids' lives. Just let them do it.

It's kinda like the old saying about birthday parties being more for those throwing them than for the victim.....uh.....birthday boy.

 

[biteme]

Man, that's just parents. They're concerned about their son and want what's the best for you. I know they get on your nerves, mine do too. I will probably be asking my daughter if she took her vitamin and is eating properly, when she is 30.

 

[Hannibal]

Maybe I'm nuts, I don't know.

Maybe??!

 

[Citruscide]

Parents do stuff like that because they care.

C-ditty

 

[Chester_Copperpot]

You need to have them arrested immediately.

 

[Y_lifter]

Proj, Maybe this is thier small way of saying thanks for letting them stay at the house.

True is was their house, but now it is yours.
When I stay at someones house, I usually do something for them or get them a small gift to say thanks without it being too grand as to insult..

 

[WODIN]

Tell your dad if he really want to help he should reshingle the roof. LOL!!!

 

[c3bodybuilding]

It seems to me like they are just trying to be helpful. Perhaps as Y put, they are trying to show thanks for letting them stay there. Don't say anything about it, unless it becomes something serious, like them wanting to paint your walls different colors, or buy you all new dishes, or furniture, just take it as them doing little things for you.

 

[Chester_Copperpot]

Project-

My mom still can get under my skin when she comes over to our home.

First thing she does is start fussing with my shoe closet. I throw them in there an forget about 'em til I need 'em. She even went out and bought me a shoe rack and installed it. I never use it! She hits that closet EVERYTIME she visits and bitchs cuz it's a mess.

She's old, has nothing to do but fuss and try and change me into her.(Never happen btw)

Moral of my story: I love my mom. I know she loves me more than life.... We just have different views on shoes....

What's her take on the dildo closet?

 

[vixenbabe]

Project-

My mom still can get under my skin when she comes over to our home.

First thing she does is start fussing with my shoe closet. I throw them in there an forget about 'em til I need 'em. She even went out and bought me a shoe rack and installed it. I never use it! She hits that closet EVERYTIME she visits and bitchs cuz it's a mess.

She's old, has nothing to do but fuss and try and change me into her.(Never happen btw)

Moral of my story: I love my mom. I know she loves me more than life.... We just have different views on shoes....

 

[vixenbabe]

What's her take on the dildo closet?

LMAO!

Dear God, she'd have a stroke!

 

[WODIN]

LMAO!

Dear God, she'd have a stroke!

I know I damn near did when I saw it!!!

 

[beastboy]

You should see my wife's closet!


Project....what NB said! They don't want to let go of that parental instinct....you'll "feel" that one day. (Can gays adopt?)

If you are tired of it, I can put your dad to work at my house.

 

[Lumberg]

vix you need to change you location it's already 'kini season here

of course you need to post pics of your hard work

dildo closet

 

[velvett]

When are they leaving?

 

[TheProject]

When are they leaving?

That's a very good question...they're in town because my sister's having a baby. And since they're both retired, they can stay indefinitely.

I guess it is just parental instinct...just hope it doesn't carry on much longer.

 

[PHATchik]

I understand totally. It seems like they almost don't trust you to do what is best for your house and you. But it's not like that. Parents just have this thing that never goes away...the need or desire to help your children, no matter how old they get. Dont' feel insulted or that they don't respect/trust you. Just accept their help and say thanks. Besides, they'll be gone soon enough.

 

[TheProject]

Well, that didn't take long...

They're heading out tomorrow.