relationship question...

[magman1]

has a girl ever broke up with her long term boyfriend for you? im sorta in that situation now...she's a very good girl, its not like she jumps from guy to guy...we've been clicking together for about 5 months now, and its become too hard to ignore our feelings...but we dont wana jump into things too soon bc of her situation...just wondering if you guys think this could work out with us, or im just setting myself up for disappointment

 

[Raina]

I think that sometimes someone in a long term relationship can be unhappy for a long while-- and if they end their relationship and jump into a new one (which I've been stupid enought to do in the past) it usually won't work. There's the initial excitement of something new etc but it's hard to really give all of yourself to another person if you've not given yourself time to mourn the loss of the previous relationship.

 

[magman1]

she said i make her realize how one should feel in a relationship, but i would know that her feelings for him would not automatically stop...we are gona try a somewhat casual relationship when we get back to school, but our feelings for each other seem to be a little stronger then just a casual relationship

 

[EnderJE]

has a girl ever broke up with her long term boyfriend for you? im sorta in that situation now...she's a very good girl, its not like she jumps from guy to guy...we've been clicking together for about 5 months now, and its become too hard to ignore our feelings...but we dont wana jump into things too soon bc of her situation...just wondering if you guys think this could work out with us, or im just setting myself up for disappointment

Can you every see yourself marry this person? If yes, then tread carefully because of the potential issues from jumping from one long term relationship into another one. If not, then who cares?

 

[Raina]

I hope it works out for you. It's hard to be attatched to someone who's not over someone else. Is she trying to deal with those feelings or just hoping they do away? Life would be easier if our emotions for people had on/off switches.

 

[EnderJE]

But, then we wouldn't have the drama.

 

[mdd]

its tough to say, she could be ready for something new

or

she could be bored or whatever crazy women do and eventually go back to him

howd u meet her?

 

[magman1]

marry??? not thinking of that, im a junior in college...we are both serious about each other, and we say a relationship wouldnt be the best thing, but it just feels so right when we are together! its great cuz i allow her to be open about her feelings and she feels comfortable expressing them to me...its not like we are trying to hide the fact she is on the outs with her bf for me...

 

[ElvisP]

anything is possible

It could work out man. Everyone on this board meets people in a different way. I met my lady different than you but that doesnt mean your girl & you are doomed. Go with your gut, your heart & your head.
Jake
If you don't have a gut then just your heart & head.

 

[lucidblue]

I think that sometimes someone in a long term relationship can be unhappy for a long while-- and if they end their relationship and jump into a new one (which I've been stupid enought to do in the past) it usually won't work. There's the initial excitement of something new etc but it's hard to really give all of yourself to another person if you've not given yourself time to mourn the loss of the previous relationship.

I agree, but I don't think it means it won't work. Sometimes you are so unhappy in a long relationship and you can't find your way out (hard to explain if you haven't been there). At this point, sometimes there is nothing left to mourn...

Give it a chance with her. Just take it slow and don't jump into something serious right away.

Good luck and Happy New Year!

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

how old is she?

if under 25, then all of this "how she should feel in a relationship" is straight nonsense.

 

[Fragadelic]

 

[Dial_tone]

Am I reading right that she's a good girl but has been seeing you behind her long-term boyfriend's back for 5 months?
Kids these days..........

 

[magman1]

no, we just became intimate in the last few weeks, but we have been friends for five months, and there has been an obvidous connection/attraction since day one, but up until now we tried ignoring it bc of her situation...i never wanted to lose her as a friend

 

[Boss101]

no, we just became intimate in the last few weeks

Yeah, good job bro! :thumbsup:

http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=290580

 

[magman1]

okay...so we know that we should take this slowly, almost be friends with sexual benefits and feel free to see other people, but we both have feelings that run a little deeper then just sexual, and we both admitted how hurt we would be if we saw each other with someone else...this fuckin sucks! i never ever catch feelings for girls, and i love the feeling of liking her, its been sooo long, but i hate the uncertainty...just felt like venting!

 

[Cuthbert]

Don't bother. Find a girl who is single.

 

[magman1]

id love to and i know i should but me and this girl click sooo much! i never really enjoyed being around girls if i wasnt gettting ass, but id say im as attracted to her personality as i aam to her looks, which has NEVER been the case with me...usually il find the hottest chick possible and try and adjust to her personality

 

[Dial_tone]

I'm having a fuck buddy relationship with a girl out of state who claims to be "commitment phobic". Normally this would be great but I want to see her every dang day. LOL

 

[crew9]

I think your being smart by not getting into a relationship with this girl. How you got her is exactly how your going to lose her.

 

[magman1]

I think your being smart by not getting into a relationship with this girl. How you got her is exactly how your going to lose her.

it sounds nieve to say, but really she is not that type of girl...i mean, it took us five months to even kiss, and she was devastated how she put people in that situation when it happened...im home from school now, and my mind is constantly on her, and i keep telling myself i want a relationship(even tho thats not what we will have) when we get back to school, but hopefully being at school will help take my mind off things...or it could give me the urge to see her every day, which i hope is not the case....it'd be great if it was only a fuck buddy, but my feelings run deeper then taht, and this is very unusual for me

 

[TC2]

how old is she?

if under 25, then all of this "how she should feel in a relationship" is straight nonsense.

 

[javaguru]

A lot of people don't leave a bad relationship until they have another dating option.

 

[TC2]

Women are alot like monkeys.

Have you ever seen a monkey swing from branch to branch??

A monkey WILL NOT let go of the 1st branch until it has a FIRM grasp on the next.

Then it lets go of the 1st branch as if it never existed.

 

[HighIntensity]

Women are alot like monkeys.

Have you ever seen a monkey swing from branch to branch??

A monkey WILL NOT let go of the 1st branch until it has a FIRM grasp on the next.

Then it lets go of the 1st branch as if it never existed.

BEST QUoTE EVER!

 

[TC2]

BEST QUoTE EVER!

sad but true.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I've been thru this before:

-she started showing interest in me even though she had a long-term BF at the time.
-one thing led to another, friendship became flirting, flirting became messing around.
-we ended up falling for each other, she dumps BF.

Then the whole process repeats ....Only this time YOU are the long-term boyfriend getting cheated on/dumped.

 

[magman1]

if anyone watched real world las vegas, its almost identical to the situation between the black dude, and the hot ass chick...but we havnt fought yet

 

[magman1]

she's coming over tonite, we're going out to the bar as friends, and have my house to ourselves tonite...il update later for all who care

 

[lamamacita]

check pm's magman