Relationship Help!

[pumped5540]

ok here it is..... I've been married for 2 years now & my wife and I have had problems in the past, fighting due to her getting mean while drinking, etc. We have a business together & work together everyday. We were fighting alot a few weeks ago & I was talking to a good friend of mine about it. I was out of town for a week and talking to my friend daily, we found out that we have strong feelings for each other. She has a 4 years old lil girl & $ is tight for her right now.

I have no doubt that she really cares for me, but I still love my wife, but I don't know if I'm really happy right now. I have kissed my friend on a few occasions and loved it. I can see myself with her, but I'm scared of loosing the house & business! Some of my friends that have met her said to go for it & they really don't care for my wife. Please help!!

Oh yea, my friend is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen & she makes me feel like anything is possible. I'm not a dog, just confused!

 

[seaking420]

Bro welcome to the fucked up relationship club here on elite. not sure if I can help you much but one thing is I wouldnt listen to your freinds that say go for it, I bet most are not married and dont have a business either, so they have no idea what your going through.

If you and your wife have been only fighting for a few weeks........thats nothing....every marriage goes through ups and downs......the bottom line is are you happy in your marriage. Take everything out of the equation.....business/friends/other woman.......are you happy with your wife? Thats what you have to ask yourself.

I hear ya.....Im going through alot of shit too, am very close to leaving my wife, have talked about here alot and many people have tried to help me.....but no matter what any of us say here, it all falls on you......what you really want to do

Do you have any kids with your wife and what kind of business do you have with her?

 

[princesa]

Whatever happened to for better or for worse? Try to remember why you married her in the first place. It wasnt that long ago-2 yrs its not that long. Why cant you try and make it work. I hate quitters. Are you gonna take the easy way out in your next relationship-nothing is peachy.

 

[EnderJE]

Dude, the grass is always greener. The question to ask is "Are you happier with your wife (warts and all) in your life"? I don't think anyone's marriage is perfect and happy happy joy joy all the time, but still some marriages are worth saving.

 

[HAYEZ]

if i was in that situation i would probally do the friend and wait a few months and see what comes out of it...it could be some bullshit thats over and wasnt right and you could be assed out on a house and job alimony

 

[Wulfgar]

I guess I am the only guy here who really has never had anything but perfect relationships.... call me crazy
Its my cross to bear

 

[seaking420]

if i was in that situation i would probally do the friend and wait a few months and see what comes out of it...it could be some bullshit thats over and wasnt right and you could be assed out on a house and job alimony

I wouldnt do that.........trust me once you bring another woman into the mix it will make the situation MUCH MORE COMPLICATED!!!! I know from experience. I will never do that again. Plus when your wife finds out.........because she will.....they always do.....you will crush her.....and thats worse than anything else you can possibly imagine.

 

[HAYEZ]

I wouldnt do that.........trust me once you bring another woman into the mix it will make the situation MUCH MORE COMPLICATED!!!! I know from experience. I will never do that again. Plus when your wife finds out.........because she will.....they always do.....you will crush her.....and thats worse than anything else you can possibly imagine.

dont open your mouth to anyone nothing is ever to be known...

 

[pumped5540]

no kids.... We have fought over her drinking for the last 6 years. She promised to quit! I do love her although not attracted nearly as much.

 

[HAYEZ]

no kids just sell thge house and split the business and divorce then...i would divorce my wife but we have a daughter together so il have to hold out till shes older and can understand

 

[all the whey]

no kids.... We have fought over her drinking for the last 6 years. She promised to quit! I do love her although not attracted nearly as much.

Then, get rid of "friend" and work on it more.

Or, get rid of "friend" and get a divorce.


Either way get rid of "friend"!

It is weak to leave someone for someone else. And, it almost always never works out.

 

[pumped5540]

I judt don't want to loose her as a friend, but I guess I fucked that all up!

 

[bw1]

I guess I am the only guy here who really has never had anything but perfect relationships.... call me crazy
Its my cross to bear

Droppin a steamer on her chest makes a perfect relationship
lol

 

[rudeboyja]

wife+friend=best of both words.

Present the idea to your wife. If she says yes ( and the friend is down) then you will have a fun couple of months. Eventually it will all blow up in your face, but you might as well have some fun

 

[digimon7068]

no kids.... We have fought over her drinking for the last 6 years. She promised to quit! I do love her although not attracted nearly as much.

you've been fighting over her drinking for 6 years. . .but you've only been married for 2 years? something is messed up with your timeline. . .she had a problem that you lived with for 4 years BEFORE you got married? you thought it would go away after you got married or worse, you thought that getting married would make it better?? at the risk of being rude, those are stereotypically "female" mistakes that you made. i couldn't live with a woman that had substance problems. . .let alone one that was a mean drunk. sounds like you're headed down a bumpy road. . .might want to find yourself a good lawyer. . .

 

[stosstruppe]

wife+friend=best of both words.

Present the idea to your wife. If she says yes ( and the friend is down) then you will have a fun couple of months. Eventually it will all blow up in your face, but you might as well have some fun

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