relationship advice needed

[hillbilly21]

if you love her then be blunt. tell her that. so what if you look like a desperate fool. if this is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, then its worth the humitity. just remeber seize the day. dont pass up the thing you want most in your life. bro dont make the same mistake i did. learn from other peoples mistakes

 

[argent]

I feel that you are suffering from your ego. You appear like a man who is very seldom rejected and when you finally found a girl who you liked and she became uninterested (for the reasons you posted, etc).

I personally believe honesty is one of the fundamental building blocks of a relationship. She didn't seem honest with you about her feelings in the beginning and for all you know she has other issues. Maybe the reasons she gave you were just hiding something else.


You mentioned you dated but it appears that you haven't really tried any new meaningful relationships. By the way, sexual encounters don't classify as meaningful.


All I can say is: Move on.

Solid..

 

[MuscularWarrier]

I'm so sorry for what happened guy but the only reason she must have left you is because you aint given her woman-pleasure. When a woman dont get the woman-pleasure that she deserves then she is bound to wander. You can be sure that she was surely going to that party to be sexed up which is what she wanted.

Old saying: When the cats away, the mouse will play.

Muscular Warrior

 

[hookuprx]

BTW - Whatever you do don't show her your piss drinking, your porn movie producer, or the Had Sex With a Whore in a Club Last Night threads. She'll think you're a complete tool.

HAHHAHAHAHHA

This is just exactly what I was thinking...

thederrickm

 

[chrisoh]

And she said that she wanted to take some time off. I told her no way. You take some time off and we end the relationship.

She just wanted some time off and you told her "no way", I think you got what you deserved.

 

[DaIronFist2]

move on.. if she wanted to be with you she would. she doesn't so why try to force her? plenty of fish in the sea!

 

[drveejay11]

I hope it all works out for you bro

 

[MrDbol]

drveejay,

And I fucked this whore in this club last week because I was pissed off at the break-up, if I get hiv on top of this, I am fucked real nice.

 

[Silent Method]

MrDbol, you asked for our thoughts so here is mine. You sound like a total child in a mans body. I'll be the first to admit that any girl who stone face lies like your girl did is doing you wrong. However, I have a strong hunch that her lie in this situation stemed from her desire to breathe - something I'm willing to bet you didn't let her do unless you could be holding her hand at the same time. I think you smothered her.

You tried to boil down your relationship problems into two issues. I'm not buying it, but lets address those two issues shall we?

1.) I didn't have a job and she thought that I wasn't taking on enough responsibilities.

I told her that I go to college, and I don't have time for a job. I didn't tell her that my parents give me $30,000 every year for expenses. I never asked her to pay, but she ALWAYS offered to pay when we went out. We go into a few fights over that.

Your in college. You don't have the initiative or work ethic to get a job. Fine. I understand it's hard to do both and for some it's just too much. But many people do work and go to school, some even work full time while PAYING for their own damn classes.

BUT MOMMY AND DADDY ARE GIVING YOU $30,000 FOR EXPENSES? Must be nice and I can't say I would turn down that money if offered to me - but some women like their man to be detatched from the umbilical cord. (Yes yes, I know you didn't tell her about the 30K part. I'm just doing my best to piece together your character from what you have given us). My point is, I bet she had some valid reason for issue #1.

2.) She thought that I was too ambitious

I didn't even want to elaborate on that topic. I told her my plans for the future in the beginning of the relationship. But I decided not to talk about it as time went on.

Please elaborate here. We can't much comment if we don't know what the hell she may have meant by too ambitious. Does that she felt you had foolish ideas? Were your plans such that she felt her prefered lifestyle could not be met with you?

Who knows, but it seems that either way she did not have some misguided fantasy image labeling you as perfect. This is no crime. You guys dated for a little while and broke up. You miss her. Thats fine, let her be that pleasant memory of what might have been when you are a 70 year old man relaxing in the comfort your life of ambition has afforded you. For now, begin to focus on the man you need to become.

 

[drveejay11]

drveejay,

And I fucked this whore in this club last week because I was pissed off at the break-up, if I get hiv on top of this, I am fucked real nice.

Like I said- best of luck- but what you do is your business as far as that goes. My best advice.... tell this girl how you feel and if you guys cannot work things out and get through everything, maybe you need to entertain the thought that you guys did not belong together. She needs to be into you the same way you are into her.... otherwise- it will not work.