relationship advice needed

[MrDbol]

I had been dating this girl for the past 8 months. About a month ago we broke up. She was hard working, smart, and very beautiful, with a heavenly personality.

We were very close. I introduced her to my parents and my whole extended family. My mother and father loved her like they loved me. She was coming over for dinner once a week with my family. It was a classical relationship. Everything seemed perfect. I never cheated on her. I called her everyday. Never went out without her, etc.

What happened was I was spying on her, and I found out that she was going to this party without me. I asked her in advance if she was going to that party and she kept saying no, no, no. I must have asked her about 20 times, because I knew that she was going. The night of the party I called her to ask her to go to the party, and she said that she had to study for finals. I put the pressure on her, and I told her that she was already on the highway (don't ask my how I knew that), and she confessed. And she said that she wanted to take some time off. I told her no way. You take some time off and we end the relationship. That's when she said that she wants to break up.

I told her that she broke my heart and I hung up. Two weeks later I called her and had this big conversation over the phone, and she still refused to get back together.

These were the issues:

1.) I didn't have a job and she thought that I wasn't taking on enough responsibilities.

I told her that I go to college, and I don't have time for a job. I didn't tell her that my parents give me $30,000 every year for expenses. I never asked her to pay, but she ALWAYS offered to pay when we went out. We go into a few fights over that.

2.) She thought that I was too ambitious

I didn't even want to elaborate on that topic. I told her my plans for the future in the beginning of the relationship. But I decided not to talk about it as time went on.

I really love this girl. It's been a month now and I have dreams about her every night that we are back together. I know she has been with a few guys on a few dates since we broke up. I have also had a few sexual encounters, but I still love her. I was planning to marry her as soon as I graduate next year. But I never told her that.

I want to get back with her. But I don't know how to approach her without looking like a desperate fool. I know she is the one for me, and that she is the one I love and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

Help me out. I've dated about half a dozen girls since we broke up, and I still can't get my mind off of her. I want her, and her only.

Karma for you all!

 

[Silverback316]

Either you really love this girl or you are already in the early stages of becoming a stalker.

 

[OAKBOX]

If your name is Dustin, then you got what you deserve! Thank You God, you are truly merciful.

 

[Green]

This is the wrong forum stalker!

jk

 

[Dirty Boy]

I feel that you are suffering from your ego. You appear like a man who is very seldom rejected and when you finally found a girl who you liked and she became uninterested (for the reasons you posted, etc).

I personally believe honesty is one of the fundamental building blocks of a relationship. She didn't seem honest with you about her feelings in the beginning and for all you know she has other issues. Maybe the reasons she gave you were just hiding something else.


You mentioned you dated but it appears that you haven't really tried any new meaningful relationships. By the way, sexual encounters don't classify as meaningful.


All I can say is: Move on.

 

[monkeyballs]

Do not ask her to drink piss. It never works out the way you want it to.

 

[MrDbol]

Monkey,

I never did. But actually, I think she had a piss fetish. She always liked to watch me piss, and she confessed herself that she treated her hair with her own pee.

 

[monkeyballs]

Then perhaps your golden juices are the key to this unbriddled love.

Piss in her mouth while she is brushing her teeth.

And mods...please move this post to siberia.

 

[OAKBOX]

Then perhaps your golden juices are the key to this unbriddled love.

Piss in her mouth while she is brushing her teeth.

And mods...please move this post to siberia.

 

[genarr3]

You could get a place far out in the country, with no neighbors for hundreds of miles. Think of a credible story to get her in the car with you, make sure you bring your gun, then put it to her head and say - "We're taking a ride honey".
Bring her to your country house and keep her there forever. Sure she might be mad at first but she'll come around sooner or later.
Try this, it could work for you.

BTW - Whatever you do don't show her your piss drinking, your porn movie producer, or the Had Sex With a Whore in a Club Last Night threads. She'll think you're a complete tool.

 

[hillbilly21]

if you love her then be blunt. tell her that. so what if you look like a desperate fool. if this is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, then its worth the humitity. just remeber seize the day. dont pass up the thing you want most in your life. bro dont make the same mistake i did. learn from other peoples mistakes

 

[argent]

I feel that you are suffering from your ego. You appear like a man who is very seldom rejected and when you finally found a girl who you liked and she became uninterested (for the reasons you posted, etc).

I personally believe honesty is one of the fundamental building blocks of a relationship. She didn't seem honest with you about her feelings in the beginning and for all you know she has other issues. Maybe the reasons she gave you were just hiding something else.


You mentioned you dated but it appears that you haven't really tried any new meaningful relationships. By the way, sexual encounters don't classify as meaningful.


All I can say is: Move on.

Solid..

 

[MuscularWarrier]

I'm so sorry for what happened guy but the only reason she must have left you is because you aint given her woman-pleasure. When a woman dont get the woman-pleasure that she deserves then she is bound to wander. You can be sure that she was surely going to that party to be sexed up which is what she wanted.

Old saying: When the cats away, the mouse will play.

Muscular Warrior

 

[hookuprx]

BTW - Whatever you do don't show her your piss drinking, your porn movie producer, or the Had Sex With a Whore in a Club Last Night threads. She'll think you're a complete tool.

HAHHAHAHAHHA

This is just exactly what I was thinking...

thederrickm

 

[chrisoh]

And she said that she wanted to take some time off. I told her no way. You take some time off and we end the relationship.

She just wanted some time off and you told her "no way", I think you got what you deserved.

 

[DaIronFist2]

move on.. if she wanted to be with you she would. she doesn't so why try to force her? plenty of fish in the sea!

 

[drveejay11]

I hope it all works out for you bro

 

[MrDbol]

drveejay,

And I fucked this whore in this club last week because I was pissed off at the break-up, if I get hiv on top of this, I am fucked real nice.

 

[Silent Method]

MrDbol, you asked for our thoughts so here is mine. You sound like a total child in a mans body. I'll be the first to admit that any girl who stone face lies like your girl did is doing you wrong. However, I have a strong hunch that her lie in this situation stemed from her desire to breathe - something I'm willing to bet you didn't let her do unless you could be holding her hand at the same time. I think you smothered her.

You tried to boil down your relationship problems into two issues. I'm not buying it, but lets address those two issues shall we?

1.) I didn't have a job and she thought that I wasn't taking on enough responsibilities.

I told her that I go to college, and I don't have time for a job. I didn't tell her that my parents give me $30,000 every year for expenses. I never asked her to pay, but she ALWAYS offered to pay when we went out. We go into a few fights over that.

Your in college. You don't have the initiative or work ethic to get a job. Fine. I understand it's hard to do both and for some it's just too much. But many people do work and go to school, some even work full time while PAYING for their own damn classes.

BUT MOMMY AND DADDY ARE GIVING YOU $30,000 FOR EXPENSES? Must be nice and I can't say I would turn down that money if offered to me - but some women like their man to be detatched from the umbilical cord. (Yes yes, I know you didn't tell her about the 30K part. I'm just doing my best to piece together your character from what you have given us). My point is, I bet she had some valid reason for issue #1.

2.) She thought that I was too ambitious

I didn't even want to elaborate on that topic. I told her my plans for the future in the beginning of the relationship. But I decided not to talk about it as time went on.

Please elaborate here. We can't much comment if we don't know what the hell she may have meant by too ambitious. Does that she felt you had foolish ideas? Were your plans such that she felt her prefered lifestyle could not be met with you?

Who knows, but it seems that either way she did not have some misguided fantasy image labeling you as perfect. This is no crime. You guys dated for a little while and broke up. You miss her. Thats fine, let her be that pleasant memory of what might have been when you are a 70 year old man relaxing in the comfort your life of ambition has afforded you. For now, begin to focus on the man you need to become.

 

[drveejay11]

drveejay,

And I fucked this whore in this club last week because I was pissed off at the break-up, if I get hiv on top of this, I am fucked real nice.

Like I said- best of luck- but what you do is your business as far as that goes. My best advice.... tell this girl how you feel and if you guys cannot work things out and get through everything, maybe you need to entertain the thought that you guys did not belong together. She needs to be into you the same way you are into her.... otherwise- it will not work.

 

[mvmaxx]

BTW - Whatever you do don't show her your piss drinking, your porn movie producer, or the Had Sex With a Whore in a Club Last Night threads. She'll think you're a complete tool.

Just when I think genarr3 can't come up with any smart ass comments that top his previous....he pulls one out of the hat.

 

[scout420]

Bro, I was in almost the same situation except my girl dumped me because I was a dick, wish i could go back and do shit over but the thing is you can't. Stalking her isn't going to help either. If I was you i'd call her up and just tell her you love her and all you want is for her to be happy and if that means not being with me than thats ok but tell her you'd still like to be friends and hang out sometime. if she goes along with that than you have a chance to atleast hang out with her and possably charm her back into wanting to be with you.

 

[me2dammit]

I wish I could say

me2dammit!!!!! 30,000$ a year from your parents. They could adopt me any time.

Man you have no problems. You are in school got good parents(i guess) and need to get more confidence about yourself.

She is only one girl and you have your whole life ahead of you. You are still young right, trust me you wont be settling down until 26,27.

And a girl that has to "party" is not worth it. Especially since you are loaded(or your family is).

Treat a lady like a queen sometimes and like a slut sometimes. Keep them guessing, they hate and I mean they hate when you are predictable. Women love mystery and "bad boys" Nice guys finish last. You should always call the shots but value her opinion.

Always express yourself, and always make sure you pay attention to their little hints that they are getting bored, so you could nip future situations like this in the ass next time.

And to be honest if you are laying the pipe right in the bed room a young girl isnt going anywhere, hell most older ones wont leave. They know the value of ggod sex and thats half the battle right there.

Before I became a 10th degree black belt at pipe laying, game spitting, and perception I had these problems to. Live and learn.

 

[Nutri-Wrestler]

Mr.Pbol

Scout has a great point of view. I was personally in the same boat as you (kinda). My girl would lie sometimes and go out to parties, but ask yourself honestly how many times you have lied to her.

Now, scouts idea of just calling her up and being blunt with you feelings i.e. telling her that you love her is a great idea.

Me and my girl broke up after 2 and a half years, i loved her with all my heart and i still do. However, we are going to seperate colleges (me at LSU and her at Northwestern).

We broke up over many issues, but one issue was b/c i was smothering her. Sometimes time apart is a wonderful thing. Think of the saying "Distance only makes the heart grow fonder," or something like that. Personally, i have met a beautiful girl named cassie who is absolutely amazing. I wouldnt giver her up for the world. But just b/c me and cassie are dating doesnt mean i dont not love my ex anymore.

Anyways, what you should do is call her up, tell her you love her and that you want her to be happy, even if it isnt with you. Tell her you still want to be friends. I did this with my ex, and amazingly, about a week after, she wanted back into my life, so now we are fucking and going on dates.

Download "smile" by lonestar and "knowbody knows" by i forogt who. Listen to those a couple hundred times.

Ross

 

[pac]

I understand your situation. I still have to occasional dream about my one ex. I had a dream about her the other day and sent her an email and then an hour later I ran into her for the first time in over a year, the feelings don't go away. But maybe it's best to move on.

Pac

 

[wartime100]

Wtf! I thought this was an anabolic discussion board not a fuck therapy session. If you want advice on your lovelife talk to a fucking therapist.

 

[Silverback316]

To make this a lil more fitting for an anabolic board why don't you shoot synthol in your lil pecker and than maybe she will want you back, than again maybe not. Also maybe she left you because of your lack of intelligence, eg. posting a love question on an anabolic board.

 

[wartime100]

LOL!

 

[Axe]

Sounds like she aint interested, period. She dumped you the way a lot of guys break up with chicks...and now you are acting like one. She is over you, now you've got to get over her.