Rejection

[fyxgel2]

Would you ask out a woman if you were about 99% sure that she was going to reject you?
(suppose you had talked to her before and just gotten some bad vibes)

For me I wouldnt bother. There is an old saying that goes, "Ask anyone out, you have nothing to lose!" but I disagree. Rejection does suck, and when your odds of success are small sometimes it isnt even worth asking.

I dont know why, even though rejection shouldnt bother me, it somehow does. I don't know if getting reject a lot of times would make asking people out even easier, or if it would make it harder.

 

[crew9]

I need to make a macros that says something along the lines of "Everytime fxygel2 makes a thread God wants to kill himself"

just messin with ya buddy. Rejection is like anything. You experience it enough, eventually you'll just get used to it and not care.

 

[fyxgel2]

I need to make a macros that says something along the lines of "Everytime fxygel2 makes a thread God wants to kill himself"

just messin with ya buddy. Rejection is like anything. You experience it enough, eventually you'll just get used to it and not care.

Bah, this thread is reasonable I think, and not a waste of boardspace.
Crew9, u raise a good point tho, I'm sure once you experience a lot of rejection you will get more used to it and not care,

but how about the original question: If you had a suspicion that there was about a 99% chance that she would reject you, would you still ask her out?
(maybe 99% is a little strong, maybe i shoulda said something more like 95%)

 

[string_bean00]

I said it once before...stop using your brain so much dude. It never leads to anything good.

 

[fyxgel2]

I said it once before...stop using your brain so much dude. It never leads to anything good.

i cant turn it off dude, I'm sorry.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

fxygel2, you need to stop procrastinating and worrying about what the outcome will be. Yes, it's the hardest thing to do vs. someone just saying to do it, but just be upbeat and laid back around girls for starters. Don't appear needy, and be confident, if you know what that means.

And don't write another "what if" thread about girls until you've gone out there and at least tried to get a phone number, for God's sake.

 

[crew9]

I said it in a different thread but it holds true here. You have to follow your penis's heart.

 

[fyxgel2]

I think I've realized something.

As men, we shouldn't care about if we get rejected, but sometimes we just do, and thats what makes it all the harder to go out there and ask girls out.

So basically I should be willing and able to go up and ask any girl out regardless of how low I think my odds are of success, but in practice that is a much harder thing to do.

 

[jackangel]

what the f? wait a minute. you're talking about not asking a girl out if you're almost sure to get rejected...but under what circumstances WOULD you ask a girl out?

it seems that you won't do it at all...so what's the difference if your chances of rejection are 1% or 99%?

 

[fyxgel2]

let me get this straight, i shouldnt worry about rejection period, i should just ask her out.

 

[bran987]

if there were no fear of rejection there would be no excitement when successful

 

[jackangel]

let me get this straight, i shouldnt worry about rejection period, i should just ask her out.

if you can do that, you'd be in a good place. she may say no, that will happen. but i don't think it's possible to deal with rejection gracefully and positively unless you've had it happen and used reason/common sense/perspective to move past it. i

 

[jerseyart]

Dude, first if you can actually guess her answer to that degree then you should patent that gift, because I don't know of any other guy who can break the odds that close.

What exactly are you planning on asking the girl that you're 95% certain she will say no to exactly?

 

[jd_uk]

Oh finally i just had to reply to one of your threads. Can't take reading them anymore.

You know the answers to the questions you post, only you pretend you don't because it's much easier to re-assure yourself and pretend that if you keep doing this then you'll eventually get a girlfriend.

You won't. There's two ways you'll get a girlfriend: -

i) Luck. - She'll like you and have the guts to ask you out (not likely, especially with your attitude...dont ask what i mean by 'your atttitude' because you know by now)

ii) You'll pluck up the courage to risk rejection and ask a few girls if they'd like to hang out with you.


I'm not much good at this myself, in fact I'm not good at all. But those are the facts.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

If you write one more of these posts, I'm gonna ask her for you
Your walking in circles.....
Do you have any guy friends?

 

[Razorguns]

Okay fine.

I know none of yous will give a hundred bucks, but there's no harm in asking right?

Hey, can someone send me a $100??

I got nothing to lose right? PM me for my addy.

 

[strongsmartsexy]

Would you ask out a woman if you were about 99% sure that she was going to reject you?
(suppose you had talked to her before and just gotten some bad vibes)

For me I wouldnt bother. There is an old saying that goes, "Ask anyone out, you have nothing to lose!" but I disagree. Rejection does suck, and when your odds of success are small sometimes it isnt even worth asking.

I dont know why, even though rejection shouldnt bother me, it somehow does. I don't know if getting reject a lot of times would make asking people out even easier, or if it would make it harder.

Do this...

1) Get past puberty so your balls drop enough to start being a man
2) Know that everyone is a person and appreciates being treated as one.
3) Know that women are people too
4) Know that if you don't ask it's definately no
5) Know that women make excellent friends

 

[awittyusername]

fyxgel, I mean this in the nicesest way possible.

Shut-up or Nut-up!

 

[FitBlondeChick]

I get asked out about 40 times a month sweetie, and even though i dont like most of the guys i'm glad they are trying, even if it wasn't meant to be with me.

Keep trying!

 

[Lao Tzu]

Okay fine.

I know none of yous will give a hundred bucks, but there's no harm in asking right?

Hey, can someone send me a $100??

I got nothing to lose right? PM me for my addy.

wtf? why should i send you $1000

 

[biteme]

Noone likes rejection. Women hate it even more than men. It's a pride thing.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Fuck pride! Pride only hurts, it never helps...

 

[lavi]

Do this...

1) Get past puberty so your balls drop enough to start being a man
2) Know that everyone is a person and appreciates being treated as one.
3) Know that women are people too
4) Know that if you don't ask it's definately no
5) Know that women make excellent friends

excellent friends?

 

[The Red Dragon]

I try not to carry many women as friends. They are more likely to lie/betray you than guys in my experience...even without valid reason.

Women have the upper hand in these situations, they NEVER EVER have to risk their ego on the line by facing rejection. They're in the fun-seat.

You win some you lose some, you get as much out of life as you put into...after a certain point.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

fyxgel, I mean this in the nicesest way possible.

Shut-up or Nut-up!

you mean, step up, or step off

fyxgel, just go up to her ffs

 

[strongsmartsexy]

excellent friends?

Yes, not all women who come into your life will become girlfriends or lovers. There is no reason to toss out a good relationship with a person just because that person happens to be female.

 

[strongsmartsexy]

I try not to carry many women as friends. They are more likely to lie/betray you than guys in my experience...even without valid reason.

Women have the upper hand in these situations, they NEVER EVER have to risk their ego on the line by facing rejection. They're in the fun-seat.

You win some you lose some, you get as much out of life as you put into...after a certain point.

*blink* You can't be serious. Your best friend will lie his ass off to you so that he can sleep with your girlfriend of wife or ex-girlfriend, or ex-wife.

 

[HotBottom4U2NV]

*blink* You can't be serious. Your best friend will lie his ass off to you so that he can sleep with your girlfriend of wife or ex-girlfriend, or ex-wife.

RIP good bro

 

[-SD-]

holy shit, i had no idea there was a fyxgel2 in addition to fyxgel. Its a fucking alter to his alter. bwahahahah

 

[HotBottom4U2NV]

holy shit, i had no idea there was a fyxgel2 in addition to fyxgel. Its a fucking alter to his alter. bwahahahah

p60 is also a character, though i think you know that.
pretty interesting early threads, 02-03 when flexy was real green lol
if you thought he was green now, damn
i'm sifting thru the pile, i'll bump anything midly entertaining.
healother will always be flexygel

 

[-SD-]

p60 is also a character, though i think you know that.
pretty interesting early threads, 02-03 when flexy was real green lol
if you thought he was green now, damn
i'm sifting thru the pile, i'll bump anything midly entertaining.
healother will always be flexygel

bump all you can. I like seeing my lifes work on this board. even though its gone to waste so far lol