I didnt read the whole thread (too long) but all I can say is........A woman does not want a man doing worse than she is. Period. If a man is 18 years old then he should have a car IMO. You should have a job or go to school and you shouldn't live with your parents unless you are going to school/working to save up enough money to eventually get out on your own. Or you are helping your parents out. If you don't want to open the door etc fine, but you need to find a woman that wants a man like that. Don't try to change a woman or convince her she's being silly.