People can definitely get stuck in situations that make them unhappy, sometimes of their doing and choice, and sometimes because of things out of their control.
For me personally, finding a "wife" was never a priority for me. I enjoy being in a relationship and having a partner in life, a close confidant, but I also live in California and the communal property laws here scare me. If I was looking for a wife, I would be looking at their assets and income, because if they were not close to mine, I would be putting my own assets and income at risk due to state laws.
If there was no financial consideration involved, sure I have no problem getting married, but its never been a goal.
Kids was a tough one for me, I always thought that I wanted them, then sometime in my early 30s my thoughts on it started to change. I did not want that responsibility. I got more selfish and wanted to do more things for me instead of investing all of my passion and energy into children. At this point I have no plans to have any children.
I'm still trying to place you...as in what do I know about you. Since we're asking questions...are you the one who was managing bars? something to do with the nightlife?