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Question: should i change dorms?

p60

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Well, its been almost a month now since i moved in hear at the University of Minnesota Morris, and I am a freshman.
It's been fun so far, but one of the things that really bothered me the first week i moved here, and still kinda does is my floor.

Most people have pretty tight floors where they go to supper together, hang out in their floor lounge a lot together and have fun with each other a lot.

My floor on the otherhand, is gay. in the 5 rooms on my side of the wing, me and my roomate are the only freshman. The floor R.A. lives next to us, she's a sophmore girl, seems pretty nice. Then the other room by us is occuppied by someone who works there, who is 24 years old, and has multiple signs on his door stating he's a homosexual, also a shut-in.
The other 2 rooms are single rooms as well, with upper classmen who are really shy and shut in.
On the other end of the hall, there are 3 other freshmen rooms that are doubles, where 3 of them seem kinda nerdy and annoying, and the other 3 are never around. and then there are 2 sophmore girls and sophmore guy who are never around.

basically i feel like i got shafted. I'm kinda getting used to my floor at least. my roomate seems easy to get along with but we dont really have much in common. There are a few other decent ppl on my floor when they are around.

However, the floor above us is pretty cool. I was up there one time and they were really open and nice, and i played cards with them. lately they asked why i havent been up there recently, which made me feel good that they still remembered me, and they invited us to come up there whenever, since they are in their lounge all the time.

I didn't really find out the floor above us was nice until recently, before that i was set on the decision to move out,
if I did stay tho, i still wouldnt be actually living on their floor (something else to keep in mind)

Unfortunately there are no openings on floors in the current hall im at, but there are several openings in a different hall. I've been mainly interested in one particular floor that i heard about from my R.A. who heard from their R.A. that they have a really cool floor and get along real well. I walked over there, and found out that the opening is with a freshman who usually isnt around because he's with his girlfriend a lot. I heard he was pretty cool and laid back though from the people on the floor.

i havent met him yet, so i dont know for sure, but it sounds like he might be an okay roomate.
im going to walk over there tomorrow and talk to him.

Anyways, i've been really split about this decision and i need to decide soon since its almost a month in, and people are kinda forming their friends and what not.
It's been on my mind making it really hard for me to do homework and what not, and i havent really been having fun up here yet since i dont feel settled at all. havent talked to as many ppl lately, but wanna get rollin on that again soon.

so what do you guys think about all of this?

i basically breaks down to two things. which is better:

1. staying where im at now, where im kinda used to it, can go up a floor to talk to ppl if they are in their lounge, but still have a real crappy floor. oh yea, but a good roomate

or

2. moving to a new floor new hall, with a supposedly really cool group of kids that get along well, although id have to get settled over there all over again, and have to make myself known to a group of ppl that have known each other for a month. Also dont know if the roomate will be as good as my last.

its a tough call, im neck to neck with both.

what do you guys think?
 
I would say, stay where you are at. even though your floor ain't where its at, you can get rest while the other floors are partying, when you don't want to. if you live on a floor where there is a party every freaking minute of the day, then, well, that could get old real quick. plus, you may nevder know, you may meet someone cool on your floor. don't give it up yet.
 
I think if you were looking for a good time and parties and what not you shouldn't be in Morris lol
 
lol,

i didnt come here looking for a good time and parties, but there are actually a fair amount of ppl like that here!!

i say many times, im alright with going to parties, i just wont be having a drop of alcohol.

actually some of the ppl on our floor who are never there, are usually out at parties, lol.


when i dont want to party ill do something else. when i need to study i got to the library, so that shouldnt be a factor.

the biggest factor is that i like ppl, and was a shy kid in high school, and i really want to break out of that now and meet a ton of ppl, and live on a tight floor!!!
 
Your posts always look like a novel, and I'm pretty sure that 95% of the people here are too lazy to read something that long, I suggest you keep your posts to one or two sentences- or maybe you should just not post at all. Yeah, thats good....:)
 
PinK233 said:
Your posts always look like a novel, and I'm pretty sure that 95% of the people here are too lazy to read something that long, I suggest you keep your posts to one or two sentences- or maybe you should just not post at all. Yeah, thats good....:)

:lmao:

dude Im just saying out of all the parts of the U, Morris would be the last place Id go, if I weren't here at the main one in the cities Id be in Duluth
 
well I don't drink much and I don't do drugs but I hang out with a lot of people and meet a lot of people every weekend now
 
p60 said:
any more ideas?

just fuckin' move!

If you are having trouble finding friends, join a fraternity. That way, you can always roam in a herd, wear you letter 24-7 and always talk about what you did at the house last night.

You can then proceed to think you are a badass because you just kicked the shit out of one guy with the help of you brothers. Then you will meet some good ole boys who are sick of your preppy bullshit that beats the living shit......fuck I am off on a tangent.

Anyway, move to a different dorm if you are not happy.

Good luck!

You will need it....
 
Bo, LOL


seriously, its weird, sometimes im unhappy other times I'm like wtf, I have a great situation, i just need to go upstairs more often.

if I knew what i wanted to do i woulda done it already.

The probably is that I waver back and forth all the time, and I simply cannot decide since the decisions are so close to each other.

its hard to tell which one would be better in the long run.
 
Move to another dorm for right now. Check it out and see how you like it.

If you find that it is a bad decision, you will have to stick it out for the remainder of the semester and then move to another dorm at the start of the second semester.

Does your school allow that?
 
p60,

stop trying so hard to fit in and being someone who you think other people would want to hang out with. stop trying to live up to what you think are other people's expectations of you. you should be yourself and do what makes you feel happy and good about yourself.

yeah, partying in college is fun, but don't think that being drunk 6 out of 7 days a week makes you cool. most of those so-called colle "party-animals" end up being nothing once they graduate, IF they actually do graduate.

also, stop worrying about your apperance so much. trust me, when you get a little older, like 24-25, you will realize that women don't go for you because of the way you look.

so, to answer your question, if i were you, i wouldn't move. being on that floor allows you to have quiet time when you need it for studying, plus you get the advantage of chosing which parties you want to go to, rather than feeling pressured to do something or go somewhere because "everyone else is going".
 
also, stop worrying about your apperance so much. trust me, when you get a little older, like 24-25, you will realize that women don't go for you because of the way you look.


YEA RIGHT
 
Millie said:
p60,

stop trying so hard to fit in and being someone who you think other people would want to hang out with. stop trying to live up to what you think are other people's expectations of you. you should be yourself and do what makes you feel happy and good about yourself.

yeah, partying in college is fun, but don't think that being drunk 6 out of 7 days a week makes you cool. most of those so-called colle "party-animals" end up being nothing once they graduate, IF they actually do graduate.

also, stop worrying about your apperance so much. trust me, when you get a little older, like 24-25, you will realize that women don't go for you because of the way you look.

so, to answer your question, if i were you, i wouldn't move. being on that floor allows you to have quiet time when you need it for studying, plus you get the advantage of chosing which parties you want to go to, rather than feeling pressured to do something or go somewhere because "everyone else is going".


thanks for the advice and all, but sometimes you guys really get the wrong impression of me..

lately i havent been worrying about my appearance as much (hence my dissapearance lately from these boards) and I'm not a party animal, who likes to get drunk.
i despise alcohol.

i simply like people. i want people that i can hang out with easily, without having to wait forever in order to get to know people in classes and such. also i hear college floors are the place where u make most of your closer friends.

so the fact of the matter is i enjoy people. i enjoy going to parties to socialize, not get slammed.

Also the study thing is simple, as I'm used to going to the library to study, where it is always quiet.
I'm not afraid to turn down a party invitation that i dont want to go to. besides right now i'd care more about receiving invitations than anything else.

anyways i dont know how im 'trying too hard to fit in , or living at others expectations of me' and all that bullshit, etc.

i simply am a frickin person who enjoys friends and people to hang out with.
 
you sound like the annoying guy on every college floor the analyses shit way to much....
 
HighIntensity said:
you sound like the annoying guy on every college floor the analyses shit way to much....

p60, learn to make your own decisions; ask yourself if you really think we care whether the floor you live on is a party floor or not, and whether it is s good "social move" to switch floors.

You should be more focused on school. Friends and social life accent school res life, not the other way around.

No flame. Karma fo your new endevour.
 
PinK233 said:
Your posts always look like a novel, and I'm pretty sure that 95% of the people here are too lazy to read something that long, I suggest you keep your posts to one or two sentences- or maybe you should just not post at all. Yeah, thats good....:)

Haha...very true.

I agree with the People's Champ. Quiteness is good once in
a while.

Just go up from time to time.

Fonz
 
p60 sounds like he embodies a phenomena that you see on campuses all over the world.
Herpes.
Not the std, but the socially transmitted disease.

the type that really really really wants to be liked and wants to fit in, and wants it so badly that they reek of the desperation and therefore will never fit in until they give that up.
they are clingy and hang on to you, following you around, and you can't shake them - until you rub them off on someone else and run away for your freedom.

hence the name.

there are many times that you find yourself talking to someone and then you think "oh shit, did I just get herpes"
or you watch your friend moving about a party and you see the person following them, and you think, "oh fuck, he went and got herpes somehow."

the best thing you can do for yourself - don't be herpes.
 
Seriously though, why do you want to be accepted so bad?? The truth of the matter is that some people suck and are out for themselves, especially at this age. Just be yourself and there are people out there who will actually like you for that....trust me. Why would you want friends who like you for who you pretend to be?
 
Think of it this way. You have to live there for eight months or so. I lived in residence for several years, and I learned very quickly that the year is very much determined by those you live with. I can promise you that if you move to another area where the people talk and get along with each other, you will enjoy your year alot more.


University/college is 50% learning and 50% socialization. You can't have one without the other.

Be happy bro.
 
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