Question for those, that have been through a lot in life

[Virtual Acid]

Im sure there are a few people in here that have had pretty hard lives so far, and are for the most part depressed, So i was wondering ... How do you feel when your aproached by somone, could be your friend or compleete stranger..and they say.." My life sucks" or "I hate my life" and they proceed to tell you why.. and your thinking, what the fuck? this person doesnt know what true pain is..

Does it make yo angy that so many have had it good ?
Or that, some people jus dont see how lucky they really are?

And another thing, Does it piss you off, when you find yourself dealing with your problems quite well.. then you see somone with no acctual reason to be down talking about suicide?

 

[naturally anabolic]

it doesn't really make me angry as much as dissapointed that some people are just handed this peach keen life with everything they ever wanted, they got a good job or do well in school with no effort, have a significant other who they don't fight with, have a permanent smile all the time and never talk negative....i am often found to be almost envious of them because i wish for my life to be happy and good.

When people don't appreciate the luck they have of course if angers me.

No, i understand when people talk about suicide because there were times in my life when i thought it the right thing to do as well, some people have less tolerance for stress and so little problems become huge ones in there eyes and they become desperate for an answer and will then talk about suicide as the ultimate answer because its an easy answer to say but you only end up dead....

 

[WormAAA77]

I've been through quite a bit by most people's standards but nothing bothers me too much for some reason.

When I hear people complain about how hard their life is I don't really console them or tell them they haven't experienced shit. Why? Because I don't know how thick of skin they have. What hurts some people might not hurt others. There's alot of stuff that people would cry about but i'd laugh about but it's not my business to criticize them for it. Some day they'll come to the realization that not a whole lot in life means anything and they'll look back and laugh.



However, it bothers the hell out of me when people personally blow things out of proportion to try to bring attention to themselves. I know a girl like this and I'll be damned if I don't want to hit her upside the head everytime she talks to me. She's also the type of person that complains about the problems she brings upon herself. I never did understand that one.

 

[the nature boy]

Well the grass is always greener. some of my friends couldn't understand that I suffer from depression and have low self esteem, especially since I have a good job and good friends and come from a good family. it's hard to explain.

as for those who consider suicide, that's pussy shit. the tough people stick it out and remain alive and miserable. or they go to therapy.

however back to your topic, I wouldn't go up to complete strangers and tell people my problems (this board doesn't count), but by no means am I embarrased of my condition or am I afraid to talk about it to an extent.

 

[Taps]

I live a charmed life. I have no real problems to speak of.

However, I've grown up with poeple who've had horrendus things to deal with. I always appreciate my life a little more after hearing about some of the shit they've had to go through.

One thing to keep in mind, is that people handle problems and pressure differently. I wouldn't know how to react if something really bad happend to me. I'd probabaly be one those people you hate -- bitching about my bullshit problmes without any appreciation of real pain.

Not to single you out, VA, but you have every right to bitch about your life....and you never seem to. I think that's quite commendable. Most people complain to much.

 

[WormAAA77]

I should add that the things that really get to me the most usually turn out to be the biggest motivation factors for me. The ability to turn adversity into success is a great attribute many can obtain but don't attempt. Instead, they whine and complain thinking there is nothign they can do about it.

 

[Virtual Acid]

Not to single you out, VA, but you have every right to bitch about your life....and you never seem to. I think that's quite commendable. Most people complain to much.

Aw ty hun, i just made this thread to veiw other peoples opinions, i personally think.. it doesnt matter how how big or small the problem or reason of depression is, its how you handle it.. but sometimes it just bothers me , when people complain and bitch moan and talk about suicide, and have no real reason to.. Bleah

 

[saint808]

i've always said that... but i can understand to some extent... i occasionally go off and post something, but i wouldn't walk up to someone out of th blue and tell them my dark feelings... most of the time tommorow is a new day with new experiences.

 

[Warik]

When people approach me with that type of information, I never disregard it or think: "these people don't know shit about what tough times are." Honestly, if we were to have a big poll and decide who on Elite has had the toughest times, there is going to be someone out there who can top that. Does that mean that the person on Elite's troubles are trivial? Of course not.

A problem is as serious as a person handles it. If you stub your big toe and that is a catastrophic, life-altering event for you, then damn, I'll offer my support.

I've talked to a few friends and helped them out when they were going through stuff. The last thing I'd ever say was: "that's nothing... here's what happened to me."

Logic conquers all.

-Warik

 

[Kahn]

I have a guy that does that all the time. I just re present his position in a kind way and offer suggestions that might help. Like QUIT YOUR FUCKING DRINKING ASSHOLE. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR WIFE. PAY YOUR GOD DAMN BILLS ASSHOLE. GROW THE FUCK UP AND QUIT CRYING.j/k I just try to figure if he can try a different approach. I'd hate to be the last guy he tried to talk to so I do what I can.