Prayer for my son, Please

[takniteasy]

I got a call Thurs. am that my 17-yr-old son took a handful of valiums and was in ICU. He lives with his dad (his choice) and I live in another state. I rushed over to the hospital, found out medically my son is okay but psychologically he needs alot of help. He was not at all happy to see me, very agitated, belligerent and only wanting to be signed out and left alone so he could be free. Did not help matters any that his dad outright blamed me for the situation our son is in and even went so far as to say if our son tried again and succeeded that I would be to blame. What kind of sick person was I married to!? Anyway, I made arrangements with a psychiatrist and head nurse to have my son admitted to an inpatient rehab/transitional home as soon as they found a bed for him. I thought my ex agreed but when I got back home, I found out that my ex had signed out our son and said he did not need any "shrink". My son refuses to talk to me and now all I can do is pray for him. He will be 18 in a couple of months and I know he is just gonna take off but I am so worried that he will try to kill himself again.
What does a person do when someone close to them behaves like this? Anyone out there have any words of wisdom or past experiences that might help me cope with this?

 

[bunnymt]

From what I understand, until he is 18, you can force him to stay in the hospital. He cannot legally sign himself out. But if his father signed/signs him out, that is another story. He cannot see that his son needs help? A suicide attempt is very very serious. Your son needs to see someone to talk about why: he tried to take his own life, or why he is making such a desperate ploy for attention. Either way, try to talk to your son and his father. Let them both know how serious it is. Let your son know that you will be there for him no matter what. I will have you and your family in my prayers and thoughts.

bunny

 

[Crazier]

I don't know the 'sick person' you were married to... but your son chooses to live with that sick person over you.

It sounds like he was also very unhappy to see you.

Sounds like you have a lot of work to do before you will have peace with your son.

Only you know the past. Be honest with yourself, find the reasononing behind his anger and hatred. Only at that time will you have any chance at reconciliation with him.

I don't mean to be rude, I hope the best for your son... it just sounds like you did some things along the way that probably contributed to him lying on that hospital bed.

The best to all involved.
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[satanic goatslayer]

Prayers won't help.

A good lobotomy will.

Call now.

 

[huntmaster]

My son refuses to talk to me and now all I can do is pray for him.

God wants prayer to be your "Ace in the Hole"---your most powerful resource.

It might help to wright your son a letter and explain to him how much you care for him.

I will surely pray----and believe. Believe he will recover and be fine.


Hebrews 11:1

Faith is the substance of things hoped for; the evidence of things unseen.

Powerfull!!!!!!!!!!

 

[takniteasy]

Actually, Crazier, he was not happy to see anyone who would not sign him out of the hospital. And the only reason he chose to live with his dad was because I was moving out of state and he did not want to leave his friends, his high school, etc. I kept a room for him for over a year after I moved while I waited for him. Yes he was upset that I moved out of state but I found a better opportunity where I am living now.

Unfortunately, the only way to find the reason(s) for his anger and hatred is to get professional help, which his father has rejected. Hopefully, he will change his mind and come to some kind of agreement with me. BTW, it had nothing to do with finances. He has an image he likes to "uphold" so he says.

Thanks for the prayers and responses! Very much appreciated!

 

[Big Brother Val]

My best chum may be trying to hack himself as we speak.

Kinda odd situation.

In any case... I'm sorry for your situation.

That has to be very hard.

I'm not the praying type... but my good friend is.

He's a minister in fact.

I'll pass the word on.

Good luck to you.

 

[SofaGeorge]

takeniteasy,

Even if your son will not seek out professional help... you need to go. There is a lot of info you need to get on the best way to deal with this situation. Suicide Prevention centers ARE set up to deal with family members of non-compliant people who have attempted suicide. Call them today.

 

[Fitnes1]

I don't have any experience here, but I can say a prayer as well. Prayer can do amazing things!!!

 

[Crazier]

Actually, Crazier, he was not happy to see anyone who would not sign him out of the hospital. And the only reason he chose to live with his dad was because I was moving out of state and he did not want to leave his friends, his high school, etc. I kept a room for him for over a year after I moved while I waited for him. Yes he was upset that I moved out of state but I found a better opportunity where I am living now.

It looks like I got the wrong idea.

I'm happy that's the case.

Again, the best to all involved.
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