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preemo

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my wife left me about a month ago and saturday i found out shes with her x and she said she loves him but the whole time shes been away she has been saying she misses and loves me. she has divorce papers all signed and ready just hasnt filed them. i have no way to contact her and love her still.any advice is appreciated i feel lost and empty right now.:confused:
 
Odds are she was seeing him before leaving you. She's suckering both of you for attention, sign the divorce papers and move on.
 
wow sorry to hear about this bro... how are you hearing that she misses you and loves you while she is with her x and you having no way of contacting her? Bro best thing i can say is, get out and clear your head bro, i know its hard i can only imagine but just try to get out with some of your guy friends and try to have a good time...
 
I dont mean to sound like I am kicking you when you are down. I am not. Puddles is dead on. Stop prolonging the hurt. Just sign the papers and move on with your life and find yourself a woman that is worthy.
 
tell her to file the damn papers already, then call her X and tell him that she's been calling you and what she said. Hopefully you have no kids....
 
4 freakin post before I get mine in when there wasn't even one.... sheeezz
 
well she first left and move to a different city and moved in with a friend and we were talking up untill friday night she called and said her x was over there and he was being abusive to her. i tried to comfort her asked her to come home she said ok. the next day she sent me a text saying she loves him and is gonna stay out there with him. before she left i did sign the divorce papers but heres the thing she has them at her grammas house and till right now has not asked her to file them. i do love her but im confused should i move on wait for her to file the papers should i hold on to her i just dont know what to do it feels like im getting depressed.
 
yea all this advice on here are right bro, there is too many fish in the sea, file the papers, and wish her and her x good luck, there is a reason why she is bouncing back with her x apparently he is a sucker, and you are better than that
 
DO NOT JUST SIGN AND MOVE ON.
First get a very good and recommended lawyer to look at them. You don't have kids do you?
 
preemo said:
well she first left and move to a different city and moved in with a friend and we were talking up untill friday night she called and said her x was over there and he was being abusive to her. i tried to comfort her asked her to come home she said ok. the next day she sent me a text saying she loves him and is gonna stay out there with him. before she left i did sign the divorce papers but heres the thing she has them at her grammas house and till right now has not asked her to file them. i do love her but im confused should i move on wait for her to file the papers should i hold on to her i just dont know what to do it feels like im getting depressed.
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Im sorry for your loss however move on. You are to good to be kicked around like a doormat. I know what you are thinking, that you want find someone else etc: Take it from me, you will find someone 10 times better and be able to enjoy life. Remember: If something in your life is DRAGGING you down, cut it loose and find something that will lift you up. Good luck to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
no kids. and we both signed the papers when she first left. she left them at her grandmas house and hasnt asked her to file them. she told me before communication stopped that she was confused and didnt want to file the papers and that she loved me.
 
preemo said:
no kids. and we both signed the papers when she first left. she left them at her grandmas house and hasnt asked her to file them. she told me before communication stopped that she was confused and didnt want to file the papers and that she loved me.
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Well, she is cheating on you first of all so can you ever trust her again..NO ...........The best thing to do is to cut all communication with her. This will get her worse than anything you could ever do..
 
all your advice is good thank you all i needed something i appreciate it very much. i gave her my heart and she knows it, the hardest thing ill ever have to do is to let her go and get over her. i guess its hard loosing somebody you love.i dont even know where to begin to get over her but i know i have to try.
 
ya i know i need to lether go and move on. its just hard i cant stop thinking about her. how do i begin to get over her?
 
this just all suck i hate going through this. my head is spinning andim just confused. wish i could just forget her
 
ok so legally where do i stand? we are still married but she is living with another guy in a different state. thats adultry where do i standlegally?
 
preemo said:
this just all suck i hate going through this. my head is spinning andim just confused. wish i could just forget her
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Just keep yourself as busy as possible and stay far away from her. It gets better in time, seriously. You don't need this kind of manipulation in your life. If it happened once it will happen again, in some form or other, again.
 
preemo said:
ok so legally where do i stand? we are still married but she is living with another guy in a different state. thats adultry where do i standlegally?
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Unless you have assets together or she is seeking alimony your fine... That only comes into play when there are assets to divide.. leave this tramp alone and severe all communication with her.
 
thank you all im gonna move on and let her go. im just feeling depressed right now dont understand how one could tell you one thing and lie about everything they say.
 
Well coming from experience.....She's confused on what she wants....so shes stringing the both of you until she figures out what she wants.....which will take her a looooong time to do. Thats why she's telling you she loves you but in the same breathe says she loves her ex. She cant figure out her emotions right now. How long were you married to her?
 
tell her to go to grandma's and get the papers and file them now, or you will have your own drawn up and have her served. Give her three days to prove she's filed them. If she has not done so, then carry out what you told her you'd do (have her served). Don't listen to her bullshit about she loves you or her ex or whomever. You only talk business with her now. When the divorce is final, since you have no kids have no contact with her...ever. Move on by making yourself busy. Busy with work, hobbies, working out, hanging out with friends, and meeting and having sex with as many other women as possible. You'll forget all about her in no time.
 
so her grandma calls me last night and said she talked to her and she says shes very confused and stressed out trying to please everybody that she wants to find out who she is. she also said she is not with her ex which i find that hard to believe.she said that shes gonna stay out there and try to get a apartment and a job out there. she said she still loves me and know her x is not the right one for her she just needs space. shes just playing with both of us right? how could one person be that confused?
 
now her dad is trying too tell me not to change my number that she is worth waiting for. i do love her but this stress is putting me down. this is a shitty situation to be in. if you have a significant other cherish the time you spend with them.i dont wish this on anybody
 
preemo said:
now her dad is trying too tell me not to change my number that she is worth waiting for. i do love her but this stress is putting me down. this is a shitty situation to be in. if you have a significant other cherish the time you spend with them.i dont wish this on anybody
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dude, stop listening to her family. Of course they'll blow sunshine up your ass, and even lie to you about her to make her look better.

And, some people here have been through shit much worse than this. This is a walk in the fucking park to some of us now. Sure, it's hurtful for you, but you'll look back on it in years and hopefully you'll have learned some things and be in a better place and be glad you listened (hopefully) to us.

Now man the fuck up and tell her (or granny) that you want those papers filed in the next 3 days. Stop taking calls from her family unless it's strictly about the divorce process. She IS with her ex and a few other guys too. Hell, she may be fucking a different guy every night. Point is, she's not with you. Actions speak louder than words. She loves you? She sure ain't showin it, is she? You got some damn good advice, now quit asking the same goddamn questions and go take action!

Good luck bro. I know everything will turn out great if you take action now.
 
i was in a similiar situation, though not married.
i posted a thread about it here, everyone said leave the cvnt/etc.
i didn't, made myself a bitch for a couple years and still regret it 6 yrs later.
to allow a lesser quality human to pwn you like that hurts the man ego big time
don't be that guy plz
 
you all are right ceo thank you for talking to me like that everything you said is right. im so glad i came back to this site for advice. she aint showing me shit so fuck her its all about me now. this is my life i have to make the best of it. damn ceo i feel so relieved i feel like i should pay you for the adviceyou just gave me. fuckin a thank you bor!
 
ok so her family is not gonna help me to serve the divorce papers basically all i know is shes in portland with her x is it possible to get a divorce without serving her? can i summuns her dad or her grandma im not to sure how all that works advice please!!!!
 
preemo said:
ok so her family is not gonna help me to serve the divorce papers basically all i know is shes in portland with her x is it possible to get a divorce without serving her? can i summuns her dad or her grandma im not to sure how all that works advice please!!!!
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if you dont have a lawyer, you need to get one ASAP.
 
Often times in life, something happens that makes us do things out of the ordinary and we feel out of place and do something stupid, despite our loved ones. It's a long shot, so I wouldnt recommend it, BUT maybe she is passing through a very hard time, felt like you two have lost the connection you once had, is feeling uneasy and needs a familiar face, hence the ex-bf. She may not have slept with him and may have said: I love him, but meant it as a brotherly kind of love....like the kind where you need a dad figure or a brother figure in your life type of thing.

She said she still loves you and she hasnt told her grandma to send over the divorce papers, so there is uncertainty and still an attaatchment of some sort.....Orrr she's playing you and stringing you along.

I wouldnt do anything hasty.

I would call her up and ask her to meet and talk things over. Lay it on the line. It's me or him. Do you have kids? how long you been together? is this worth it to you?
 
the_alcatraz said:
Often times in life, something happens that makes us do things out of the ordinary and we feel out of place and do something stupid, despite our loved ones. It's a long shot, so I wouldnt recommend it, BUT maybe she is passing through a very hard time, felt like you two have lost the connection you once had, is feeling uneasy and needs a familiar face, hence the ex-bf. She may not have slept with him and may have said: I love him, but meant it as a brotherly kind of love....like the kind where you need a dad figure or a brother figure in your life type of thing.

She said she still loves you and she hasnt told her grandma to send over the divorce papers, so there is uncertainty and still an attaatchment of some sort.....Orrr she's playing you and stringing you along.

I wouldnt do anything hasty.

I would call her up and ask her to meet and talk things over. Lay it on the line. It's me or him. Do you have kids? how long you been together? is this worth it to you?
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Traz is on HEAVY meds, he must have fallen and hit his head again and is suffering from a severe concussion, he doesn't know what he's saying right now. He hasn't come to grips with there's snow in Canada either.

Go with every other post, leave, and leave NOW. No kids, just split your shit and get....
 
think about it this way, this bitch is a pain in the ass, right? Well guess what... she's somebody else's problem now. That poor fuck is about to deal with the same bullshit you did. And once you move on, expect this chick to start calling you. Don't get sucked back into a relationship though!
 
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yea she problyis confused and dont know what to do but the fact is shes with another man and is not attempting to reconcile with me and has cutt off all forms of communication. i was blinded for a while but i do see im only hurting myself by holding on.how do i go about filing for divorce when i have no idea where she is?
 
preemo said:
ok so her family is not gonna help me to serve the divorce papers basically all i know is shes in portland with her x is it possible to get a divorce without serving her? can i summuns her dad or her grandma im not to sure how all that works advice please!!!!
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Portland? Where at in Portland? You want me to deliver the papers to her? You wouldn't mind if I took advantage of it would you? Too soon?
 
dude if i new where in portland i would tell you where exactly. thats the hardest part of this whole thing is i cant even talk to her. she had told me she was a server at mcfaddens but i dont even know if thats true?
 
aside from what everyone else tells you, and everyone else's opinion, i'd say go with your heart bro, thats what i would do in your situation.
 
thanks iggy. i do love her shit is just confusing i guess i really dont know what to do im torn both ways.
 
txbondsman said:
Traz is on HEAVY meds, he must have fallen and hit his head again and is suffering from a severe concussion, he doesn't know what he's saying right now. He hasn't come to grips with there's snow in Canada either.

Go with every other post, leave, and leave NOW. No kids, just split your shit and get....
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lol...still on meds for my back bro...:biggrin:
 
iggy said:
aside from what everyone else tells you, and everyone else's opinion, i'd say go with your heart bro, thats what i would do in your situation.
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This is the wrong advice. Alcatraz's advice is also wrong. They are both young. Iggy isn't even 20 I think.

Your heart will lead you astray. Think with your head (the big one). Use logic, not emotions. You know what to do when you examine the facts logically. The rest of us are looking at the facts with logical reasoning. Get a lawyer, file papers. The lawyer will find her, guaran-fucking-teed. Your papers will get served.

She made her decision, but is still stringing you along because she doesn't have anything solid on the other end. If she felt like her ex wasn't just using her she'd drop you so fast your head would spin. Most women don't like to let go of one man until they have a firm grasp on their next man. They will even stay in a relationship they don't want to be in.

Stop posting the same stuff in here and talk to a lawyer. Your next post in here should be something like, "hey guys I got a lawyer and he's working up the papers and says he will find her and have her served." You should have never left it (filing) up to her to begin with.
 
ceo said:
This is the wrong advice. Alcatraz's advice is also wrong. They are both young. Iggy isn't even 20 I think.

Your heart will lead you astray. Think with your head (the big one). Use logic, not emotions. You know what to do when you examine the facts logically. The rest of us are looking at the facts with logical reasoning. Get a lawyer, file papers. The lawyer will find her, guaran-fucking-teed. Your papers will get served.

She made her decision, but is still stringing you along because she doesn't have anything solid on the other end. If she felt like her ex wasn't just using her she'd drop you so fast your head would spin. Most women don't like to let go of one man until they have a firm grasp on their next man. They will even stay in a relationship they don't want to be in.

Stop posting the same stuff in here and talk to a lawyer. Your next post in here should be something like, "hey guys I got a lawyer and he's working up the papers and says he will find her and have her served." You should have never left it (filing) up to her to begin with.
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You should go with CEO said if you're smart bro.
 
ceo said:
Most women don't like to let go of one man until they have a firm grasp on their next man. They will even stay in a relationship they don't want to be in.
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Yep, just like monkeys! They never let go of the last branch until they have a firm grip on the new one. It's smart, yet scandalous!
 
ceo said:
This is the wrong advice. Alcatraz's advice is also wrong. They are both young. Iggy isn't even 20 I think.

Your heart will lead you astray. Think with your head (the big one). Use logic, not emotions. You know what to do when you examine the facts logically. The rest of us are looking at the facts with logical reasoning. Get a lawyer, file papers. The lawyer will find her, guaran-fucking-teed. Your papers will get served.

She made her decision, but is still stringing you along because she doesn't have anything solid on the other end. If she felt like her ex wasn't just using her she'd drop you so fast your head would spin. Most women don't like to let go of one man until they have a firm grasp on their next man. They will even stay in a relationship they don't want to be in.

Stop posting the same stuff in here and talk to a lawyer. Your next post in here should be something like, "hey guys I got a lawyer and he's working up the papers and says he will find her and have her served." You should have never left it (filing) up to her to begin with.
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yea do this. us bors over 30 know how bad shit can get.
 
well i have decided to get a dvorce and just leave her in my past, i wont have the money to even talk to lawyer till i file for my taxs is there any other alternative route i can take? a want to file for divorce just dont know how to do it right now strapped till at leats middle of next month. advice please
 
if you don't have kids and money or assets to fight over, look up a paralegal service like "We The People" (I think they're all over the place). They can draw up papers for an uncontested divorce on the cheap and then do a little diligent investigating on your own to find out where the ex is (do you know her ex's name?). Get her address from granny or dad maybe? Tell her you need to mail her some things? If you don't think the honest approach will work, try a good lie. Find her and pay a good Portland bor like Puddle Monkey to serve her the papers. The paralegal can also tell you the process and what needs to happen. They will probably tell you the process over a phone call.

Good god man make some phone calls. Don't just sit on your ass waiting till you get some money back from the gov't. Also, increase your exemptions.

I should get some of that tax return money for this sage wisdom I am imparting. :D
 
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