Please help, made a fool of myself

[NAS]

Yeah, that's good advice gonelifting. Thanks a lot ppl, was expecting to get flamed when posted this. Really appreciate the help.

Does something like this sound to upfront..."Hi, I've glad i bumped into you, I've seen you around and was wondering would like you to hook up/could i take you out for a meal or something?"

 

[gonelifting]

Yeah, that's good advice gonelifting. Thanks a lot ppl, was expecting to get flamed when posted this. Really appreciate the help.

Does something like this sound to upfront..."Hi, I've glad i bumped into you, I've seen you around and was wondering would like you to hook up/could i take you out for a meal or something?"

Could be better, but it would work.

Try to throw something in there like "I`ve been meaning to ask you..." Because you HAVE seen her before. This will seperate YOU from just ANY guy she sees off the street for the first time. Try not to come across as stalkish though. lol

 

[argent]

If you make an fool of yourself you will seem vulnerable and chicks dig that. You should also ask her random questions like:

Do you have a boat?
Have you ever tought of swimming in the sewer?
Whats your favorite kind of Rice-A-Roni?

 

[TC2]

It's eazy, Just be confident and smile. Walk up to her, point to your crotch and say "well, it's not gonna to suck itself."

 

[sk*]

You have to judge what to talk about based on the environment.

Like when college was starting, I would ask random girls where each building was. After asking that I would ask for their name and later told them my dorm number and told them to stop by.

When 9/11 happened, yes I know this is cruel, but I was all over the place. There was a big screen in one of the building and showed CNN, and there were a bunch of girls there. I would go up to them and start talking about how horrible the whole thing was. Just small talk, and in the end you get their name.

In classes, I would sit next to the hottest girl and just say hi. Then after a while something like "what do you think of the teacher?"

Sometimes, when I really felt brave, I would just ask the girls straight forward if they wanna go eat now cause I was hungry. I would just ask random girls that I saw. Interestingly enough, I never got rejected ... the few times that I did do this.

See now when it comes to guys, that's when I never get to make any friends.

It would probably be much harder for me to start small talk these days, since I have a girlfriend and haven't done that stuff in almost a year.

-sk

 

[NAS]

You have to judge what to talk about based on the environment.

Very true bro, that's why I found it hard to think what to say.

I mean i can just say Hi, what you upto in the weekend when I hardly know her.

 

[sk*]

Very true bro, that's why I found it hard to think what to say.

I mean i can just say Hi, what you upto in the weekend when I hardly know her.

You said you met her at a store right?

So how about, "buying a lot of stuff?"

The girl would say "yea, no, blah blah blah"

Then say something like "yea, me too I was just shopping for ____"

She will continue to say something.

Then maybe ask to help her take whatever she brought to her car (if it is a lot of stuff).

Then ask her name and phone or whatever.

-sk

 

[Becoming]

You said you met her at a store right?

So how about, "buying a lot of stuff?"

This is dumb- who cares
The girl would say "yea, no, blah blah blah"

Then say something like "yea, me too I was just shopping for ____" [/B][/QUOTE]Again- who cares

She will continue to say something.

Then maybe ask to help her take whatever she brought to her car (if it is a lot of stuff). [/B][/QUOTE]She will say "Okay- WEIRDO

Then ask her name and phone or whatever.

-sk [/B][/QUOTE]This is dumb- who cares


I think SK's idea of just asking her if she would like to get something to eat is not a bad idea...

Just walk up, say Hi, my name is.... I wanted to introduce myself (no need to give a reason)... If she gives you her name etc, then just ask-I wanted to see if you might like to go get something to eat some time... If she asks sure when, just say well I was on my way to "---" (have a place in mind), if she can't then, ask for her phone number....

Don't make it to complicated- just introduce yourself.... If she is interested she will go along.... If she does not give her name back, or does not want to give phone number or anything, just say "well nice meeting you"

Hell- you spend all this time thinking about it, when in reality she could have a boyfriend or something and it might not even be worth doing all this thinking about(alright, don't start thinking about this now)

Just go up and introduce yourself- no excuses/plans are needed

 

[NAS]

Yeah, 2 right becoming, thats exactly what i will do

 

[sk*]

This is dumb- who cares
The girl would say "yea, no, blah blah blah"

Then say something like "yea, me too I was just shopping for ____"

Again- who cares

She will continue to say something.

Then maybe ask to help her take whatever she brought to her car (if it is a lot of stuff). [/B][/QUOTE]She will say "Okay- WEIRDO

Then ask her name and phone or whatever.

-sk [/B][/QUOTE]This is dumb- who cares


I think SK's idea of just asking her if she would like to get something to eat is not a bad idea...

Just walk up, say Hi, my name is.... I wanted to introduce myself (no need to give a reason)... If she gives you her name etc, then just ask-I wanted to see if you might like to go get something to eat some time... If she asks sure when, just say well I was on my way to "---" (have a place in mind), if she can't then, ask for her phone number....

Don't make it to complicated- just introduce yourself.... If she is interested she will go along.... If she does not give her name back, or does not want to give phone number or anything, just say "well nice meeting you"

Hell- you spend all this time thinking about it, when in reality she could have a boyfriend or something and it might not even be worth doing all this thinking about(alright, don't start thinking about this now)

Just go up and introduce yourself- no excuses/plans are needed [/B][/QUOTE]

What you say is good and it makes sence, but if you have anxiety about these sorts of things it'll be harder. Sometimes easing into the situation is easier.

In the end though, you are gonna ask her out ... so maybe he is right and try to cut to the chase.

-sk