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THeMaCHinE
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I assume from your post that she's doing it so much that it's becoming a hinderance. Positive reinforcement of action carries much greater weight than punishment.
You said she does it when she feels neglected. Why does she feel neglected? Is there a way you can include both kids at these times?
If not, is there some sort of reward or game you can institute to lessen the behavior? (i.e. When she hides, you call out how you're scared and you need a hug/protection from her -- or you get out a favorite toy and play with it in her line of vision to draw her out ((or give it to her brother if you want to see her come out doubly quick...lol)))
If she does this and you pay more attention to her brother while she's hiding, would that draw her out?
You said she does it when she feels neglected. Why does she feel neglected? Is there a way you can include both kids at these times?
If not, is there some sort of reward or game you can institute to lessen the behavior? (i.e. When she hides, you call out how you're scared and you need a hug/protection from her -- or you get out a favorite toy and play with it in her line of vision to draw her out ((or give it to her brother if you want to see her come out doubly quick...lol)))
If she does this and you pay more attention to her brother while she's hiding, would that draw her out?
We don't punish, we use pos. reinf. and bahavoir transitioning.
Both were premature and required PT and OT, he is still receiving the PT/OT and she isn't since she has advanced to about a month ahead of were she would have been had she gone to term. So we have to work on his OT/PT still 3x a day on motor skills.
We do work with her but not as much as we were.
He is catching up fairly fast and within the next to weeks his OT/PT will probably end too and they can start being babies who get to terrorize each other 24/7!
We use the toy lure to transition their behavoir from what ever to something else that isn't negative. I'll start trying to lure her and see if that works. When she hides it's cute, she puts her blanket over her head and she can see us, we can see her and she then yells! LOL!!!
Both were premature and required PT and OT, he is still receiving the PT/OT and she isn't since she has advanced to about a month ahead of were she would have been had she gone to term. So we have to work on his OT/PT still 3x a day on motor skills.
We do work with her but not as much as we were.
He is catching up fairly fast and within the next to weeks his OT/PT will probably end too and they can start being babies who get to terrorize each other 24/7!
We use the toy lure to transition their behavoir from what ever to something else that isn't negative. I'll start trying to lure her and see if that works. When she hides it's cute, she puts her blanket over her head and she can see us, we can see her and she then yells! LOL!!!
THeMaCHinE
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It does sound really cute...kinda reminds me of things my little girl does (3 y.o.)... But she's big enough to stomp a hole in her brother... luckily he's a tough little guy and catching up fast ... but boy do they compete for attention...
My girl's big thing now is play crying when she doesn't get something... pretty pathetic at times really (in a cute way). But she's a great actor and you can't always tell when she's serious or playing. When you do catch her at it, she cracks up in a big smile and laughs hard ... fun stuff.
My little boy (1 y.o.) is definitely a mama's boy -- clings to his mom like a shadow. If our daughter gets within 1 foot -- he attempts to defend his territory (and attention) by yelling out, pushing -- whatever is necessary. Kinda pathetic at times too (in a cute way). They're both learning though, each day they get a little better...
My girl's big thing now is play crying when she doesn't get something... pretty pathetic at times really (in a cute way). But she's a great actor and you can't always tell when she's serious or playing. When you do catch her at it, she cracks up in a big smile and laughs hard ... fun stuff.
My little boy (1 y.o.) is definitely a mama's boy -- clings to his mom like a shadow. If our daughter gets within 1 foot -- he attempts to defend his territory (and attention) by yelling out, pushing -- whatever is necessary. Kinda pathetic at times too (in a cute way). They're both learning though, each day they get a little better...
spongebob said:
my thoughts exactly and don't forget the beating BEFORE locking her away in a VERY SMALL closet. If you do not have a closet like that, do what I do, and lock them in a suitcase..in the basement. 12 hours of that and they will never want to hide again.
Or...
you could just ignore the behavior as others have suggested, but that is not nearly as fun
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