Online dating services: anyone ever try it?

[Forge]

Well, now that I'm officially not married anymore, I've been thinking of trying something like match.com or yahoo personals to get back into the dating scene. I've never been a fan of the bar scene, especially since I rarely drink socially. Has anyone here ever tried one of these services? I briefly looked over a few today and it looks promising, lots of women close to me that I wouldn't mind getting to know.

Of course, I have no experience using something like this, it may look better than it really is, and they all seem to charge too. I would hate to waste money on something that was a lost cause.

 

[gotmilk]

It's a plumper feast on many of those sites

 

[string_bean00]

It's a plumper feast on many of those sites

 

[jerseyart]

There are lots of girls, and you will get lots of responses. I did it once, but it was free at the time. Anticiapte a lot of strange people though. I dont know if it is something about the medium that attracts certain types, or simply is a result of the abnormal amount of attention such sites generate for an individual.

But didnt you just decide weeks ago to split up with your wife bor? No worries that this might be a little too soon?

 

[Forge]

But didnt you just decide weeks ago to split up with your wife bor? No worries that this might be a little too soon?

When the water in the pool is cold, it's better to jump right in rather than get in slowly. I can either sit around the house feeling sad and lonely or go out and meet new women. I plan on doing a lot of work to the house and taking some time for myself, but I can't stop living simply because I got divorced.

 

[RaZor Ramon]

I'd say 80% of the women I've gone out with in the last 4 years I've met online including my current girlfriend who've I've been going out with since february

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I think it is a great way to get back into the scene of dating after a long term gig ending. I did it after my last long term was over. Nothing to serious really ever came of it but I did make a few very good friends out of it.
Jersey I think the reason you meet freaks was it was free and you may not have screened potentail dates that well.

 

[jerseyart]

Forge. I did not wish to come across as if I was judging you in any way. If thats what is best for you, then go for it bor. I just mentioned it as something to consider. Likely as not you arent close to over your ex right now. I know for me it would be next to impossible to date anyone else so close after breaking off a long term relationship. It wouldnt be fair to me or the other person. Practically I put it on par with going to a strip bar after you just broke up with someone you loved. Its worse than not going at all. You leave feeling empty and missing the ex more than when you stepped inside.


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Superqt.

You're likely correct about not screening properly. My impression was that a lot of the people who use those sites treat it like a booty call service (I've heard that from others as well). I have to say that in my experience they were the fastest women I have ever known. It was the Match site, don't know if that one is particularly bad. Also Im glad it worked out well for you.

 

[Forge]

Forge. I did not wish to come across as if I was judging you in any way. If thats what is best for you, then go for it bor.

That's OK Jart, judge away. Honestly I'm not sure I am ready yet, but I sort of feel like I might be. My divorce was very anit-dramatic, we just kind of coasted through the last month of it. I'm gonna miss her, but it's not like I'll never see her again. Heck, our 5-year anniversary would have been this September 14th, we already plan to have dinner together just so we can say we celebrated it. I'm sure we'll be friends for the rest of our lives, but our lives are just going down seperate paths.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is there wasn't a whole lot of trauma involved, and while I still love her and miss her the fact is she isn't coming back and I have to move on.



Superqt, how many dates did you go on using it? Did you have any bad experiences, or just boring dates that led nowhere? Did it show any promise whatsoever?


Razor, that's good to hear. So you've had some good luck with it then? What service did you use?

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Superqt, how many dates did you go on using it? Did you have any bad experiences, or just boring dates that led nowhere? Did it show any promise whatsoever?

How many.. a lot I never really counted. Ball park 70-100 over a year period.

Most of my problem was zero chemistry. I never had any truly bad experiences. The first person I meet showed tons of promise I actually was dating him for a good month or so, but we were both coming out of something long term. Neither of us were ready to get back into a serious thing. So we stopped dating and stuck to being friends and still remain very good friends a year later.

I know people that have had serious relationships come of it, that just wasn't my experience more just of a casual dating thing for me. I recommended it to a few good friends like I said it is great for getting back out there.

 

[javaguru]

My ex-wife met her current husband on match.com but given the choice I prefer to know if there is physical chemistry before getting to know someone.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

I'd say 80% of the women I've gone out with in the last 4 years I've met online including my current girlfriend who've I've been going out with since february

For me abotu 60-70% of the women I date I meet online. Off hand I think this year, I've dated 7 I meet on yahoo. It gives you a chance to get to know more about the person and chat a bit before spending $$$ and effort dating. Plus you get to find out what they are really looking for in a relatoinship, thier background, interests etc.

However, as JerseyArt pointed out, be ready for about half of them to be fucking whackos with serious baggage.

 

[RaZor Ramon]

That's OK Jart, judge away. Honestly I'm not sure I am ready yet, but I sort of feel like I might be. My divorce was very anit-dramatic, we just kind of coasted through the last month of it. I'm gonna miss her, but it's not like I'll never see her again. Heck, our 5-year anniversary would have been this September 14th, we already plan to have dinner together just so we can say we celebrated it. I'm sure we'll be friends for the rest of our lives, but our lives are just going down seperate paths.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is there wasn't a whole lot of trauma involved, and while I still love her and miss her the fact is she isn't coming back and I have to move on.



Superqt, how many dates did you go on using it? Did you have any bad experiences, or just boring dates that led nowhere? Did it show any promise whatsoever?


Razor, that's good to hear. So you've had some good luck with it then? What service did you use?

Yup good and bad just like meeting people anywhere else. I met my current girlfriend on http://www.matchdoctor.com That's the only totally free site I know of. I know of some other kinda free sites but they are geared toward blacks and latinos.