One last need for HELP, please thankyou

[HighIntensity]

This is the last post about my sit. I thank you all for any advice or help you have given me. After this its back lifting, sports and what not posts. Just wrote my ex a great letter, thinking about sending it, ill post it, it is long sorry but put my heart into it...should I send it, does she deserve it...shes done after this

again thank you



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Perhaps I will never truly know what happened to separate us, the cheeks and the pook, now heading in different directions. When it first happened I sat and wonder why…we have so much history together, we had just finished a perfect summer and now three weeks later its over? All those late night promises, the smiles and the laughter, gone? I lost a girlfriend that day, but the hardest part was losing my friend, my best friend over the last three years. We were a team, you got the sandwiches and I drove the car. We went through life hand in hand, as you said so poetically once, we are each other’s legs. How often did we sit side by side with a distant sun in the background looking out at the future together.

In love we all make mistakes, but I truly loved you with all my heart. I was cleaning up my room a few weeks ago, and found this small saw mill card; on the back in pencil was a delicate drawing of a small map to your house. I smiled as I stared at the first thing you ever gave me. I came into this relationship blind as to where it would lead, in the end, the memories together are enough to wrap around the world and back. I guess im left to wonder about the dreams we left on loves pillow. The eating of Chinese food on the floor of our new home with a crackling fire as the soundtrack, the joy of discovering distant places around the world together, late night walks under the evening stars, and the simple joy of just knowing you.

We all have different needs and dreams in this world, sometimes two peoples separate dreams come together to form a perfect match. I guess in the end your still wondering what is your dream, where do you belong in the crazy world, and I can respect that. Before you can truly love another human being you must first find yourself, the independent woman, the skin you feel most comfortable wearing. Perhaps in the end, the painting of the two angels embracing in heavens gates will be us. I know this; there were many nights that I stared so deeply into your eyes that I could hear the whispers or your pain and truly understood the joy it brought you to finally have someone love you so deeply.

In the end there will always be the images of piggyback rides and the echoes of our laughter at the simplest of inside jokes like “bombs” that bring a tear or chuckle to my face. The door swinging open on that quaint yellow house to reveal that smile that I loved so much. The summer Monday adventures of K**** and M*******, which always seemed to bring forth a ton of picture perfect memories. I am angry and disappointed that after everything we went through together, you could not come by my house when you knew I was home or even call me to say thanks and goodbye, perhaps you had your reasons, but you were my best friend. I think Fleetwood Mac said it best, now here you go again you say you want your freedom well who am I to keep you down it's only right that you should play the way you feel it but listen carefully to the sound of your loneliness like a heartbeat… drives you mad in the stillness of remembering what you had, And what you lost...



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[HighIntensity]

this ii her

 

[theoak01]

i know how ur feeling to some degree im still holding on to my ex hoping she will come back,i havent been functioning like the normal Rob functions and people have been noticing,if you hope to get her back send the letter if u want to forget her tell her not to call or write u anymore

 

[satanic goatslayer]

I could find you some testicles if you would like. Cheap prices, if you don't mind doing the surgery yourself.

 

[Mighty P]

Man, I don't want to flame you cause I know what you're going through. If you send that to her you're just one huge pussy though. That thing is sooo weak. It shows you're still trying to hang on. She'll know she still has you. Seriously man, you have to let her go. It's hard as shit, I just had to do the same thing. I still think about her 24 hours a day, but at least I don't think about what a pussy I looked like. I know you don't see it now, but that's what you'll remember down the road. GO DOWN LIKE A MAN! Just write her something simple like this.
" We are broken up! I know you want us to still be friends but I can't do that. Please stop writting me. "

Even that is a little weak. I'd throw some shit or fucks in there somewhere, but that's up to you. You can't fuck around with this stuff. It's over, the sooner you let her go the sooner you'll get on with your life. Do you really want to be with a chick that's not sure if she wants to be with you. HELL NO! You're worth way more than that! Find someone who appriciates you for you and want you.

Get mad at her, don't cry over it. I think someone mentioned askmen.com earlier. You really should read their shit. It's a great help.

 

[Lao Tzu]

i don't know why romantic love is so strong. maybe it has to do with the biological purpose of mating and finding a life partner, since you are spreading dna and finding a permanent comanion a stronger emotion was needed to hold the 2 people together. something longer lasting, deeper, and harder to let go of even when you want to make it stop.

anyway, love sucks. when you love someone, they don't love you. when someone loves you you don't love them. i've seen it in myself and in others. i'm gonna cut my losses and find another way.

 

[Frackal]

Hey

I don't know bro...

Let me ask you something real quick:

It's obvious you want her back, and badly. You're holding on, it's natural.

Sometimes the fighting for her can end happily, I know someone personally who fought for his girl and won. I know others who fought and lost, and only hurt themselves more in the end.

You have to ask yourself, is it worth the potential continuing pain to try?

Why did she break up with you, that is important. Alot of times though, the reason given is not the reason.

Ask yourself if you can live with the thought of her being with another if you got back together.

Ask yourself honestly if you think she still wants you.

If the answers to all these questions are yes, then fight bro, fight until you can't any longer.

If the answers are no, then send her that letter. But at the end, include a paragraph instructing her to please not contact you, as you sending this to feel closure and do not wish to speak with her further, and because your new girlfriend doesn't like the idea of the two of you talking anymore. (this is a lie, but go for it anyway, the bitch deserves it)

Good luck brother.

 

[nikolai_bolkov]

I tried convincing a girl I had seeing for a little bit to give me another chance. It didn't really work so I felt like one huge ass after that and dread the day she would say anything to my friends about my whining ass.

Don't do it.

I read you're post and it's touching, I am not being sarcastic or anything like that. But it's also in the past. Go out and make new memories. Even if she would somehow say "well, ok" it wouldn't be worth it because you would only be more excited than she would be and eventually she would go for some other guy eventually anyway.

To me, I see no reason whatsover of this working out for you, so might as well move on today.

I posted this a while back on this board, but when I was down I just though that since there is no way I would get this chick back, it's pointless to think about it.

Every time you feel yourself drifting into thinking about her, just say that to yourself. Like getting excited about the possibility of winning the state lottery. Same thing, same chances.

Good luck, bro. And believe me, sooner than you think this will not even phase you anymore.

 

[nikolai_bolkov]

Now give me some karma.

 

[Mr.Bo Janlges]

dude,
I honestly feel the pain your going through right now, and i know how hard it is. I was with a girl who i loved with all my hear, and still sort of do. I thought she was the one, just like you. When she broke up with me i would do anything to make things right again, but slowly over the past week i've began to heal and feel better. I still speak with her regularly and see her occasionaly, cause as you say she was my best friend too. The hardest part for me is that she still to this day says she loves me and i think she means it too, but she's told me she has things she needs to figure out and she can't do that with me so i have respected this decision. I have'nt been with anyone else since her and i don't know when i will.

 

[HighIntensity]

any thoughts from the Elite ladies, on a letter like this

 

[Night Fly]

HI-----it was a very nice letter. I think if it would help you put closer on the relationship then you should do it...I don't think it could hurt anything. It may not change her mind or anything, but it may make her think about how she hurt you....and maybe that will be enough to make her want to remain friends with you.