need help badly

[econanalyst]

Hey guys....when I go to have sex with my g/f I cant seem to get hard (no its not from gear)....I just seem to think about sex too much and get too nervous so I cant even have sex....how can I get over this? (p.s. I can have hard on..Im not impotent)

 

[Cindy99]

if you can have a hard on by yourself, just not around her, you need a new girl, not a new penis...

 

[rippedguy]

anxiety.....stage fright.................you're thinking too hard about pleasing her.................just relax and tear that shit up..............it's all in your head if you can get it up alone but not with her.

 

[wiseguy7]

If you can't get a hard on with a girl you don't need a new girl what you need is a man because you are gay if I girl can't get you hard then there something wrong with you. Ask yourself a couple of question do you find yourself hanging out in the gym locker room you know taking more time to change or when in the shower are you staring more at guys downstairs I'm willing to bet you are.

 

[firewitch]

It's called performance anxiety, very common, doesn't mean you are gay (sorry wiseguy). I have had it myself, but of course it is not as evident as yours would be.

I have heard advice on this subject many times in my reading, and I believe the first approach is to give up the idea of having an orgasm for a while ( that means NOT TONIGHT) and just do the foreplay things. Supposedly you get more relaxed when the pressure is off and you will begin to have a better response.