need alittle help from the guys here...

[B rad]

okay, check this out, ive been dating this chick for awhile now, everything cool, i ask her to marry me two weeks ago, she said yes thatst not the issue.

while at disney for the long weekend with some friends (we all were drinking) and i think cause she didnt want to get on a rind she cold flat out slapped me with all her might, luckly it was in the deltoid not the face but i think it was the position i was in, but she raised her hand to me, need some help with what i should do, she is no longer staying at my house, should i give my new exfiance the boot for good? she oh, said sorry

just some advice would be well apreciated, and any chicks in boca raton florida in the meen time forward a private message...

thanks for your time,

 

[swole]

write her a letter telling her all your feelings

 

[Spartacus]

PM chesty
he's the shit with chciks

 

[Behemoth]

I have always told my wife...that I do not hit her out of respect...I expect the same.

If a woman comes at me like a man...she gets treated like a man.

Address it now, in private...so that you dont embarass her. Hitting is not funny.

When you are wrestlin around...and playing...thats different...but to hit you because she is mad...throws up huge red flags.

 

[Lestat]

write her a letter telling her all your feelings

not really the approach I would take.


I'd first think, can I still be with this girl?

if the answer is no, then break it off, tell her why, but end it

if the answer is yes, have a sit down with her and explain your feelings and make it clear that physical violence will never be acceptable within the relationship of your family. Based on her reaction/respond you can try to answer the original question of, can you still be with this girl?

 

[gotmojo]

See link below...

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=485891

 

[swole]

not really the approach I would take.


I'd first think, can I still be with this girl?

if the answer is no, then break it off, tell her why, but end it

if the answer is yes, have a sit down with her and explain your feelings and make it clear that physical violence will never be acceptable within the relationship of your family. Based on her reaction/respond you can try to answer the original question of, can you still be with this girl?

i was kinda making fun of chesty, over your head bro

you kidding me? i wouldn't talk or communicate with the girl until she came to me with an i'm sorry, here's a hot bj

i did this with my previous gf, it works

 

[Lestat]

i was kinda making fun of chesty, over your head bro

you kidding me? i wouldn't talk or communicate with the girl until she came to me with an i'm sorry, here's a hot bj

i did this with my previous gf, it works

my bad, I had a feeling that was it, but then I just thought it was "sensitive swole" making a rare appearance.

 

[swole]

my bad, I had a feeling that was it, but then I just thought it was "sensitive swole" making a rare appearance.

i'm definitely a romantic at heart, but i've been hardened on many levels in my relatively short time as a taken man

 

[Behemoth]

i was kinda making fun of chesty, over your head bro

you kidding me? i wouldn't talk or communicate with the girl until she came to me with an i'm sorry, here's a hot bj

i did this with my previous gf, it works

I caught it. Break up letters. I had a friend that did everything through notes and letters...I sware if he ever had sex with girl...he would get a papercut!!!

 

[seizer]

your voice, man.

use it.

it's powerful.

 

[Spartacus]

not really the approach I would take.


I'd first think, can I still be with this girl?

if the answer is no, then break it off, tell her why, but end it

if the answer is yes, have a sit down with her and explain your feelings and make it clear that physical violence will never be acceptable within the relationship of your family. Based on her reaction/respond you can try to answer the original question of, can you still be with this girl?

and i followed swole to make it obvious

 

[thelion2005]

okay, check this out, ive been dating this chick for awhile now, everything cool, i ask her to marry me two weeks ago, she said yes thatst not the issue.

while at disney for the long weekend with some friends (we all were drinking) and i think cause she didnt want to get on a rind she cold flat out slapped me with all her might, luckly it was in the deltoid not the face but i think it was the position i was in, but she raised her hand to me, need some help with what i should do, she is no longer staying at my house, should i give my new exfiance the boot for good? she oh, said sorry

just some advice would be well apreciated, and any chicks in boca raton florida in the meen time forward a private message...

thanks for your time,

People solve problems and express themselves in many ways. Someone who uses violence learned this as a child and will continue as an adult.

The woman will strike you again, strike others and probably strike your children.

Let her go.

 

[B rad]

thanks everyone for the helpfull advice, keep them coming...

just want to say, im not some sissy guy, im 6 foot 225 and have a mixed martail arts back ground dude, if i strike her ill be in prision for life, i think so knows that and that was her form of expression...

keep them coming,

 

[heatherrae]

I think it is disrespectful to hit someone. I would NEVER hit a bf, fiance, husband. It sort of shows that she doesn't have very good coping skills/communication skills if she needs to hit you over something so silly. Even if she never hit you again, it shows a degree of emotional immaturity. Ah, everyone makes mistakes though, bro. You know the girl. We are just speculating on here. So, go with your gut on it.

 

[gotmojo]

Just don't over think the situation....

What she did is a learned behavior, and as such, she more than likely thinks it's o.k. because she hasn't been told or been made aware that it is not o.k. to express herself this way with you.

You need to at the very least let her know that it bothers you and if she respects you at all, she will accept this period.

Because she seriously, from my limited knowledge and POV does not see anything wrong that behavior.

Also, who knows but maybe she didn't even realize what she was doing. For example, I think for the part most we can all remember "accidentally" hurting someone when we didn't mean to or just didn't realize our strength.

Is this the only time that you have had concerns?

None of this excuses the act....she still needs to made aware.

MOJO

 

[digimon7068]

I caught it. Break up letters. I had a friend that did everything through notes and letters...I sware if he ever had sex with girl...he would get a papercut!!!

Funny shit!

 

[digimon7068]

People solve problems and express themselves in many ways. Someone who uses violence learned this as a child and will continue as an adult.

The woman will strike you again, strike others and probably strike your children.

Let her go.

Sound advice from an elder-statesmen. . .

 

[Spartacus]

Sound advice from an elder-statesmen. . .

not entirely correct
my xwife hit me a time or two
I broke her emotionally as she loved me so
it wasn't my intent or any plan
just the way shit was coming down on me
she wasn't too supportive battling her own demons

 

[Trojan Horse]

Well, why did she strike you exactly? Not that there is a just reason for doing so but it will give us a better understanding. If she struck you for no apparent reason whatsoever then there definately is a problem. Was it because she was drunk? You need to talk about this issue in order to determine if it's a problem. If you think that her way of expressing her anger and disagreement with something then leave her. There is nothing worse than spousal abuse. If you try to seek help later on in life as an abused man in a marriage, people will laugh at you. If you use force to stop her/restrain her from striking you then she can construe it as you being the agressor. Ther police get involved and then you get arrested for domestic violence. It sounds like you really need to know if this is indicative of her personality/behavior and if it would be pervasive later on in your relationship. If you determine that it is, then either leave her or get her some counseling for this problem.

 

[Gymgurl]

First I would tell her about respect....THEN make sure you tell her if it every happens again she is out the door....She will get the point...

 

[blueta2]

She was wrong...no one should ever hit anyone.
She owes you an apology, but I don't think ending a relationship over it is the answer or being on line looking for other chicks in Boca is the answer either.
The reason why she hit you doesn't matter, it was wrong.