Need Advice on a relationship.

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Ok, this is in C&C because I want to get advice, I don't need medical advice so please don't move it.

Here's the deal, My dad is on Prednisone. He's been on it for over 8 years due to asthma. It makes him a complete asshole but I know he can't help it. If he doesn't take it he can't breathe easily. So I would never even think of asking him to go off of it.

Anytime I try to talk to him it is impossible. All he ever does is bitch about me not doing something. He forgets what he said a few days earlier which can cause some confrontations. He is sometimes really really mean. For one, he said to me " I haven't seen any indication you want to get into Grad School" I have gotten all A's and volunteer, only a Sophomore in College. That really pissed me off. The other day he said to me " I brought you into this world and I can take you out of it." I didn't do shit to him. When he says shit like that to me, it is so hard for me to keep quite and I usually retaliate. Anyone have experience with this and is it basically hopeless?

 

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Ok, this is in C&C because I want to get advice, I don't need medical advice so please don't move it.

Here's the deal, My dad is on Prednisone. He's been on it for over 8 years due to asthma. It makes him a complete asshole but I know he can't help it. If he doesn't take it he can't breathe easily. So I would never even think of asking him to go off of it.

Anytime I try to talk to him it is impossible. All he ever does is bitch about me not doing something. He forgets what he said a few days earlier which can cause some confrontations. He is sometimes really really mean. For one, he said to me " I haven't seen any indication you want to get into Grad School" I have gotten all A's and volunteer, only a Sophomore in College. That really pissed me off. The other day he said to me " I brought you into this world and I can take you out of it." I didn't do shit to him. When he says shit like that to me, it is so hard for me to keep quite and I usually retaliate. Anyone have experience with this and is it basically hopeless?

Yea when i was your age I had a relationship like that with my DAD...until oneday I confronted him about it and told him....if he ever spoke to me like that again I break his fucking legs....To my shock he respected me more for it...There was a little more to it and I wont go into it..but if your dad is a tough guy hell respect your toughness in return....or hey if you do it..youll be on your own...and wont have to deal..so its a win win situation

 

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Yea when i was your age I had a relationship like that with my DAD...until oneday I confronted him about it and told him....if he ever spoke to me like that again I break his fucking legs....To my shock he respected me more for it...There was a little more to it and I wont go into it..but if your dad is a tough guy hell respect your toughness in return....or hey if you do it..youll be on your own...and wont have to deal..so its a win win situation

Well I have retaliated once and it blows over him because as I said, he forgets things. He drinks while he's on it too which isn't good. I don't want to leave because my Mom would be left with him and she can't stand him either. I don't want to leave her with him.

Thanks for the advice.

 

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Well I have retaliated once and it blows over him because as I said, he forgets things. He drinks while he's on it too which isn't good. I don't want to leave because my Mom would be left with him and she can't stand him either. I don't want to leave her with him.

Thanks for the advice.

Have you ever grabbed him and made him aware how serious the threat was???? If so..next time follow through...Bullys only respond to violence..sometimes they just need a swift kick in the ass..

 

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Have you ever grabbed him and made him aware how serious the threat was???? If so..next time follow through...Bullys only respond to violence..sometimes they just need a swift kick in the ass..

See he is already scared of me and he said if I ever touched him he would put me in jail. With the Prednisone he bruises easily and he's broken bones so I don't want to hurt him. But I will be stern with him again next time.

 

[GrandMaster]

i dont have much advice, but try to ignore his BS
do your thing, study, press, fuck...
u could maybe try to explain to him in a polite way his attitude,.. but that never goes n e where good.
just my 0.02. hope u can find an answer

 

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See he is already scared of me and he said if I ever touched him he would put me in jail. With the Prednisone he bruises easily and he's broken bones so I don't want to hurt him. But I will be stern with him again next time.

Laugh in his face...the police would never put you in jail...shit all you have to do it say he hit your mom and its over...just the mere mention of it and hell be the one locked up...As a child you really have the position of power..

 

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Laugh in his face...the police would never put you in jail...shit all you have to do it say he hit your mom and its over...just the mere mention of it and hell be the one locked up...As a child you really have the position of power..

Yeah, that is true. Sad thing is he has hit my mom.

 

[GrandMaster]

if he's hit your mom... then y the fuck didnt u jump his back??

 

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if he's hit your mom... then y the fuck didnt u jump his back??

I was at school in another state when he did it.


Also, because I don't want to go back to jail and ruin my life.

 

[GrandMaster]

i dont think u would go back to jail for defending your own mother... call the Po-Po if it happens again
yea hes your dad, but he shouldnt be throwing hands at your mom

 

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i dont think u would go back to jail for defending your own mother... call the Po-Po if it happens again
yea hes your dad, but he shouldnt be throwing hands at your mom

I will do it. It will be hard for me to do it because my Mom wouldn't want me to.

 

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Honestly, he isn't gonna make it much longer.

 

[GrandMaster]

me and my dad had a fallout almost2yrs ago,
it was the first time i confronted him about anything, he said some really nasty BS to me that i didnt appreciate, and a father shouldnt say to his kids.
i havent speked a WORD to him since then,... and we still live in the same home... relatives come over,, we go some place... not a word...some may say thats not right, i should speak to him, but im a very straight fwd person. he went outta line, not me. i dont have time for that bs no matter who u r.
except for my mom. my brothers always asking my mom, howcome she can cuss ME out and get mad with me, throw a fit and throw shit at me, and literally 1/2 hr later her and i are laughing, or watching tv together in her bedroom....haha
i guess because shes "mom" and boy kids always seem to have this bond with their mothers.

 

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Personally having 2 boys I can understand the dads side of it. 1. How does prednisone affect your personality to make you mean and aggressive (ass hole in nature) 2. If he is genuinely forgetting what he said or you said a few days earlier there is a bigger problem. 3. How old are you? I know from my own personal experience that a child can be the biggest pain in the ass a parent has ever known.

My point is this: What is the rest of the story? People don't usually (parents in general) get angry for no reason even if they are are on Halotestin or test.

 

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Personally having 2 boys I can understand the dads side of it. 1. How does prednisone affect your personality to make you mean and aggressive (ass hole in nature) 2. If he is genuinely forgetting what he said or you said a few days earlier there is a bigger problem. 3. How old are you? I know from my own personal experience that a child can be the biggest pain in the ass a parent has ever known.

My point is this: What is the rest of the story? People don't usually (parents in general) get angry for no reason even if they are are on Halotestin or test.

I'm 19. I think the reason he gets irritated is because he drinks a lot with it and he gets belligerent. He is retired and when he is home he does nothing but bitch. I tried to avoid him and that didn't work because he couldn't remember why I avoided him. I tried to talk to him and he said cruel things.

He recently found out his pituatary gland shut down completely. They think it is because of them Prednisone.

 

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I'm 19. I think the reason he gets irritated is because he drinks a lot with it and he gets belligerent. He is retired and when he is home he does nothing but bitch. I tried to avoid him and that didn't work because he couldn't remember why I avoided him. I tried to talk to him and he said cruel things.

He recently found out his pituatary gland shut down completely. They think it is because of them Prednisone.

Sounds like maybe it is his alcohol consumption. would you consider him an alcoholic? Alcohol makes one forget and if your pituitary shuts down who knows what else is going on.

 

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Sounds like maybe it is his alcohol consumption. would you consider him an alcoholic? Alcohol makes one forget and if your pituitary shuts down who knows what else is going on.

Yes. He usually starts drinking around 2 or 3 P.M. Sometimes it's 12 if he's pissed off.

 

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take it from me, bro. some dads aren't worth shit, let alone the effort.

 

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take it from me, bro. some dads aren't worth shit, let alone the effort.

Yeah, I want kids though and I want to do it differently.

 

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Yeah, I want kids though and I want to do it differently.

so do it then. and keep em away from your dad.