My wiminz is pissing me off...

[javaguru]

You are still missing the point.

This isn't about anyone running anyone else's life or about anyone "completing" another. This is about having someone to have your back even when you aren't so pretty or successful or sick and not able to have all the sex you once wanted... This is about finding a partner, someone who you LIKE and RESPECT, who you want to be kind to who wants to be kind to you, someone who you share common life goals with.

You think your mother was faithfull to your father because he was an asshole?

I am thinkin it was because:

1. She had honor and integrity.

2. He treated her the way that she DESERVED to be treated.

..... just guessing. I could be wrong though. I don't know either of your parents, but for what you have posted on EF.

She was a bitch...that's what wiminz without credentials making demands on their menz are...She was in control not on merit but on her opinion and piece of ass...she was wrong. I did a shitload of yardwork last weekend for my mom and SHE brought up the fact she brutalized my father and regretted some of the things she put him through.

 

[Bikini Mod]

She was a bitch...that's what wiminz without credentials making demands on their menz are...She was in control not on merit but on her opinion and piece of ass...she was wrong. I did a shitload of yardwork last weekend for my mom and SHE brought up the fact she brutalized my father and regretted some of the things she put him through.

Wow... then I misunderstood your previous posts. I'm sorry to hear that.

Now I can see why you have the feelings about marriage and commitment that you do. I can also understand why you don't want to see your mother happy with any other man now that your father has passed on.

You know Java, just because our parents' marriage was *that way* that doesn't mean that our marriages have to be that way too.

I won't say anything about my husband's parents' marriage as that is not my place but I will tell you that my parents had a marriage that sounds somewhat similar to your parents only my dad was an abusive prick. My mother was a harpy bitch but he was very verbally, emotionally and when we were little physically abusive to my mother so I am guessing her being a harpy bitch might have had something to do with it. Truth be told I have very little contact with either of my parents as it is detrimental to my emotional well-being. Neither my sister or I does anymore.

My first marriage wasn't too far off my parents' marriage.

My last marriage is NOTHING like that. We don't frolic through the daisies on a daily basis (who does?) but we don't EVER disrespect one another. We make mistakes, true. But there is NO WAY I would ever treat my Grump the way my mother treated my father for 2 reasons:

1. I don't like to be treated like shit, so I refuse to treat others that way.

2. If a man's behavior is such to warrant such treatment on my part, then why would I WANT him?

Couple peeps from elite where guests in my home for several days. It gets hard to *hide* who we really are after a few hours together, but when you are staying with someone it gets REAL EASY for the shit to hit the fan. I can tell you right now that needto, angel and spart will all tell you that they saw my husband and I disagree and go through some stress. There was no yelling, no screaming, no name-calling, no disrespecting, no abuse, no belittling. We always treat each other with kindness and respect, even when we are seething angry. We just retire to different rooms, or leave the premises and talk again when we are not upset. As for shit, yea we have seen plenty of it in the 2 years we've been together. Hell, we are just now getting *a tiny* taste of the honeymoon and even that is the calm before the storm as between the two of us we have 6 very angry, very damaged teens that have been STARVING for love and guidance. How pleasant you think our household is gonna be at any given moment? Even if our kids had the best lives so far it would still be a monumental task for any re-marriage to face... and yet my husband is committed and steadfast. I admit, I withdraw and give up on myself and life. Maybe more often than I should, but he remains unwavering.

I don't know if we will survive the next 10 years together. Hell, I don't know if we will survive the next ONE. But what I DO know is that as long as a couple LIKES, RESPECTS one another, have common life goals and are committed to those goals and one another then both of their lives are enhanced, as individuals and as a couple. Life can be scary and has ways of handing people lessons when and how they least would have expected. If a couple chooses one another for all the right reasons then what could be better than to face life knowing that no matter what, at least one other human being has your back?

(Notice not a mention of sex OR money.)

 

[heatherrae]

someone wants to marry you? You should jump at the chance...lol.

 

[javaguru]

someone wants to marry you? You should jump at the chance...lol.

They always do...it's like telling them up front you don't want to be enslaved makes them want to enslave you....

 

[javaguru]

BM, I'm anti-marriage because I've been married. We dated for two years and lived together one of those before we were married. Within a year of getting married life was shitty....

 

[heatherrae]

They always do...it's like telling them up front you don't want to be enslaved makes them want to enslave you....

I want to enslave you, but just so someone will take my car for an oil change every 4000 miles or so. Oh yeah, do you clean bathrooms?

 

[OneBreath]

First of all real men watch the X-Files and program in C. Buffy and Java? Common.

Ok, had to get out a bit of sarcasm there.

I would start by not referring to myself as hawt and my penis as cawk. Work on those 2 things and your chances at happiness with a female mate will increase by 25%.

 

[heatherrae]

First of all real men watch the X-Files and program in C. Buffy and Java? Common.

Ok, had to get out a bit of sarcasm there.

I would start by not referring to myself as hawt and my penis as cawk. Work on those 2 things and your chances at happiness with a female mate will increase by 25%.

java = pwnd.

PS--holy crap you look yummy.

 

[javaguru]

First of all real men watch the X-Files and program in C. Buffy and Java? Common.

Ok, had to get out a bit of sarcasm there.

I would start by not referring to myself as hawt and my penis as cawk. Work on those 2 things and your chances at happiness with a female mate will increase by 25%.

C? Welcome to 1978.....You still rockin' the Cobol on the terminal?

As far as your knowledge of wiminz.....you must be young.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Look there are certain characteristics that are more predominant in males and others in females ie - not listening = male characteristics (too busy watching lips move while fantasizing about sticking your cock in her mouth to hear a word she said) and talking too much = female (guys don't REALLY care to hear every single detail about every minute you spent since you've seen them last, all they care about is when you will want to wrap your lips around their cock).

Exaggerations? Perhaps but I think you can all see where I am coming from.

Having said that, there are other characteristics (good AND bad) that are NOT gender specific ie lying, cheating and stealing. Once a body recognizes this they will be able to go on and make better choices for who they invite into their lives - friends/lovers/business associates. Self-awareness and honesty (beginning with YOU) leads to a happier existance period.